Buzzerfly
Well-Known Member
Hello to all who have been kind to me and/or my husband ( @Joel's Hear ) over the years on this forum!
“Joel” and I have young kids and recently (a year ago) moved back home to the US after having lived outside of the country for a while. We left in 2015 mostly because we were being threatened by my family.
it took several months for us to find a new home here, but once we did settle into our small town, we were hoping to generally keep to ourselves, find a few friends and be polite but distant to the folks around town. Joel joined Facebook, against his better judgement. And we both posted up lots of cool videos/photos of our lives with our kids. We did this for self-defense and to see if anyone thought we were particularly nice or interesting.
Instead...
We stayed in a hotel in this lovely town we now call home for 3 weeks while waiting on our lease to finalize. The first night of our stay, Joel had a MELTDOWN because the all-female staff were really creepy and seemed to have some sort of “knowledge” of us. He sat outside by the train tracks all night. I was able to get the woman in charge of his Special Needs trust to book us 2 rooms instead of one for the rest of the time. This helped with his sensory issues, and we were able to strategize each night how to handle the hotel staff. The cleaning women were the worst. They would flat out laugh at us in the hallways. They left dirty gloves on my bed.
Joel was very defensive of the torture we, particularly me and the kids, had received there. So he wrote a bad and funny review under a fake name. Weird town people began to eye our social media pages.
We moved into our duplex and had a kind of nice few months. An old school acquaintance found Joel on Facebook and seemed to really like our family posts. I added him too. Then he started posting weird, mocking memes. He sent us really racist or sexually graphic material in messenger. We blocked him. He told everyone in Joel’s hometown that Joel was a weakling and I was a slut who either wanted to or had slept with him. Joel’s the strongest guy I know! And I’ve never met any of the people from his hometown! A bunch of weird single guys started following my Facebook or sending Joel memes about a black dog who wanted to be let off its leash. WTH I love Joel and spend all of my time with our kids.
Anyway, this bullying sent Joel into a nightmarish mix of anger sadness Etc. he couldn’t sleep. Then people from the town started banging on our doors late at night. Called the cops, they didn’t do much. My family came back on the scene also. My dad and his wife, who live in South America and told me my family would be ”annihilated” back in 2015, sent cryptic messages making fun of something that happened to Joel in the past. They sent the police to our house to “check on Joel”. He was cleaning the effing vacuum at the time.
And it got worse in town after that. People laughed Joel out of stores. Our computer was hacked. Joel gets suggestions all of the time saying he’s bad and deserves punishment. All of our pretty posts, his artwork, and music (since they are different due to ASD) were recast with perverted meanings.
I have come to think that my dad (who was one of the very first users of the internet in the 90s) has created encrypted sites on which he posted lies about Joel and my family. These were later used and expanded upon by people who hated him for being autistic in our town — and this hate crime is getting out of hand.
Joel wrote a lot of free-form stories and poems around the time he met me (2005-2008). I think these were stolen and released as if they written now, by a 37 year old married man. We polished and published them to show the innocence behind his differences. I have it for sale to avoid trolls who would get it for free and mock it. If you’d like to support/help us, please PM/Inbox me and I will provide link to the book.
“Joel” and I have young kids and recently (a year ago) moved back home to the US after having lived outside of the country for a while. We left in 2015 mostly because we were being threatened by my family.
it took several months for us to find a new home here, but once we did settle into our small town, we were hoping to generally keep to ourselves, find a few friends and be polite but distant to the folks around town. Joel joined Facebook, against his better judgement. And we both posted up lots of cool videos/photos of our lives with our kids. We did this for self-defense and to see if anyone thought we were particularly nice or interesting.
Instead...
We stayed in a hotel in this lovely town we now call home for 3 weeks while waiting on our lease to finalize. The first night of our stay, Joel had a MELTDOWN because the all-female staff were really creepy and seemed to have some sort of “knowledge” of us. He sat outside by the train tracks all night. I was able to get the woman in charge of his Special Needs trust to book us 2 rooms instead of one for the rest of the time. This helped with his sensory issues, and we were able to strategize each night how to handle the hotel staff. The cleaning women were the worst. They would flat out laugh at us in the hallways. They left dirty gloves on my bed.
Joel was very defensive of the torture we, particularly me and the kids, had received there. So he wrote a bad and funny review under a fake name. Weird town people began to eye our social media pages.
We moved into our duplex and had a kind of nice few months. An old school acquaintance found Joel on Facebook and seemed to really like our family posts. I added him too. Then he started posting weird, mocking memes. He sent us really racist or sexually graphic material in messenger. We blocked him. He told everyone in Joel’s hometown that Joel was a weakling and I was a slut who either wanted to or had slept with him. Joel’s the strongest guy I know! And I’ve never met any of the people from his hometown! A bunch of weird single guys started following my Facebook or sending Joel memes about a black dog who wanted to be let off its leash. WTH I love Joel and spend all of my time with our kids.
Anyway, this bullying sent Joel into a nightmarish mix of anger sadness Etc. he couldn’t sleep. Then people from the town started banging on our doors late at night. Called the cops, they didn’t do much. My family came back on the scene also. My dad and his wife, who live in South America and told me my family would be ”annihilated” back in 2015, sent cryptic messages making fun of something that happened to Joel in the past. They sent the police to our house to “check on Joel”. He was cleaning the effing vacuum at the time.
And it got worse in town after that. People laughed Joel out of stores. Our computer was hacked. Joel gets suggestions all of the time saying he’s bad and deserves punishment. All of our pretty posts, his artwork, and music (since they are different due to ASD) were recast with perverted meanings.
I have come to think that my dad (who was one of the very first users of the internet in the 90s) has created encrypted sites on which he posted lies about Joel and my family. These were later used and expanded upon by people who hated him for being autistic in our town — and this hate crime is getting out of hand.
Joel wrote a lot of free-form stories and poems around the time he met me (2005-2008). I think these were stolen and released as if they written now, by a 37 year old married man. We polished and published them to show the innocence behind his differences. I have it for sale to avoid trolls who would get it for free and mock it. If you’d like to support/help us, please PM/Inbox me and I will provide link to the book.