Whether it's a child, a pet, a mate, a sick parent of family member, I have utmost respect for those who accept the responsibility. Yes, there are times and circumstances it's best and I respect the ability to say no, I can't do it. It's not an easy task.
I greatly admire those of you who are married and continue to put in effort to keep your marriage working. I've tried, but should have just said no.
It's not easy to accept someone totally, flaws and all. Reason I have such respect for married couples. It wasn't that I wasn't willing to accept the flaws and keep making the efforts, it was always that the other was not committed - first ran around the entire 5 years we were married. second - I later learned was gay, which naturally means he also was unfaithful. twenty years on my own and raising my kids then trying again but I needed to count a little and didn't. So I know what it's like being with someone who is not committed and not willing to take on their part of the responsibility of making it work. So to those of you who do, you have my admiration.
I took on the responsibility of my mom when she was sick. But being a nurse did not help in that decision or in her care because I already knew that my nurse mind turns off when it comes to family. Removing staples and stitches being nothing to me until I removed them from my daughter and had to lay down to finish or I was going to pass out. lol And when my mom did pass away I knew I was not finding a pulse but could not comprehend it or accept it.
But one of the things I faced was 'what if I made a mistake?' I took her to the er one night for chest pains and the nitro they gave her almost killed her and they had to act fast. I just kept thinking, "My gosh, I've killed her by bringing her to the er." I'm just glad I didn't give her the nitro at home. But my aunt told me something after that and it stayed with me and meant a lot to me. She told me that whatever decision I made now and in the future WAS the right decision regardless of the outcome because it was made out of love with the right intentions.
If it's with the right intentions and out of love, (whether it's yes or no) it's the right decision .
I greatly admire those of you who are married and continue to put in effort to keep your marriage working. I've tried, but should have just said no.
It's not easy to accept someone totally, flaws and all. Reason I have such respect for married couples. It wasn't that I wasn't willing to accept the flaws and keep making the efforts, it was always that the other was not committed - first ran around the entire 5 years we were married. second - I later learned was gay, which naturally means he also was unfaithful. twenty years on my own and raising my kids then trying again but I needed to count a little and didn't. So I know what it's like being with someone who is not committed and not willing to take on their part of the responsibility of making it work. So to those of you who do, you have my admiration.I took on the responsibility of my mom when she was sick. But being a nurse did not help in that decision or in her care because I already knew that my nurse mind turns off when it comes to family. Removing staples and stitches being nothing to me until I removed them from my daughter and had to lay down to finish or I was going to pass out. lol And when my mom did pass away I knew I was not finding a pulse but could not comprehend it or accept it.
But one of the things I faced was 'what if I made a mistake?' I took her to the er one night for chest pains and the nitro they gave her almost killed her and they had to act fast. I just kept thinking, "My gosh, I've killed her by bringing her to the er." I'm just glad I didn't give her the nitro at home. But my aunt told me something after that and it stayed with me and meant a lot to me. She told me that whatever decision I made now and in the future WAS the right decision regardless of the outcome because it was made out of love with the right intentions.
If it's with the right intentions and out of love, (whether it's yes or no) it's the right decision .
