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People who betray you/lie and make mountains out of molehills on you

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by FromEquestria2LA, Mar 6, 2021.

  1. FromEquestria2LA

    FromEquestria2LA Well-Known Member

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    You know, over the years, and I don't know whether I am alone in this aspect, but over the years, I've seen my share of friends betray me and make mountains out of molehills on me.

    I've been called a "stalker" (NOT true) and "worse than Onision" (a controversial YouTuber, for the uninitiated) also NOT true). I ALWAYS have the best intentions towards friends, but for some reason, some of them have been rather misunderstanding and misconstrue me.

    Has this ever happened to you? I'd like to hear from you on this.
     
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  2. SimonSays

    SimonSays A work in progress

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    In my experience when this happens, they are just revealing they were never really friends. It's always good to know so you can let go. They don't deserve you.
     
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  3. FromEquestria2LA

    FromEquestria2LA Well-Known Member

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    ^ True that.
     
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  4. Kalinychta

    Kalinychta Well-Known Member

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    If numerous people in your life have made these same types of comments to you, you should consider what they’re saying. You said “for some reason” they misunderstand and misconstrue you. Ask them what the reason is and be open to their feedback. You may not mean to purposely act or come off a certain way, but if your behavior is resulting in accusations like “stalker,” you should consider changing it perhaps? No one knows (or cares) what someone’s intentions are—they care about how you treat them (your actions).
     
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  5. Greatshield17

    Greatshield17 Catholic Nerd V.I.P Member

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    Yyyyyyyyep. *smiles grimly*
     
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    unperson Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    yair, it's often deliberate misunderstanding in my experience.
     
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  7. Major Tom

    Major Tom Searching for ground control... V.I.P Member

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    I can definitely relate. Not as much with friends but surely family.
     
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  8. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    Too much of a loner to be accused of that. But l have much experience with people and groups of people stalking me to manipulate me for economic reasons. l could write a miniseries on this subject. lol
     
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  9. Wolfsage

    Wolfsage In training to be Wolf King.

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    See it now among family and have for years. As for me if I can I try not to trust too much.
     
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    Kalinychta Well-Known Member

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    And no doubt these men would say they weren’t stalking you and that you were just deliberately misunderstanding them, right? And now they’re probably doing it to someone else.
     
  11. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    This was more deadbeats who don't think they should work. In LA people would tell me l could make money with my body because silly me, l work real jobs like administrative, or now waitress.
    It's groups of people hoping to manipulate me for economic reasons. And now that l am a senior citizen, people trying to manipulate me for my monthly income. I live in a total deadbeat state. lol