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people on the spectrum who are LGBT and can't get with anyone

NoKipAr on the run

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in the Pandemic, my behavior around women deteriorated,
and I always have liked a skinny man.

hopefully someone will be with me who shares my interests (Animation, Video Games, Nature, Science Fiction, Creating, my favorite music ect)
who is on the spectrum and is LGBT. hell! I'm not even gay! I'm into chubby women with red hair and who are also Nerds, and I have never strayed
away from the idea of Trans women.

The other Night I was crying because Pornography is messing me up!

and I don't feel comfortable revealing me being a Pan-ini to strangers far and wide on metal boxes that could hold information that has
been theorized to be surveillance by the government!

too far?

For starters, I could never get with a woman, because I keep simping, and I even multiple times now,
have dating sites that I chickened out on because I was worried of the end result!

paying for it, getting catfished, and Trans Women? I think I'd be hard pressed to find any in my area ....no.
as for the man with female parts? eeeeeeeeh my dad might find that funny.
but I remember knowing that Trans people existed ever since childhood.


I'm not going to get in detail by that ....
but there's a problem with getting a guy:

first, they could be homophobic or straight or taken! I simped over one guy....he ended up getting a new job in
Special Needs work! and as for this one guy at My local Mcdonalds!? looks like HE found himself!

and it'd be nice to have an autistic partner!

My friend is always trying to Make me see the good in people and be positive,
and not judge a book by its cover.


but the sad truth is, I'm autistic.


I cant stand being 30 and not...well, I remember having a mystifying dream...about my first time......


but still! if you're going to be miserable lonely you're going to be miserable with a significant other!

so how many of YOU GUYS have had trouble finding a lover.

Happy Pride month.

this is probably for my own good.
 
Hope writing this out helps. It doesn't matter what your preferences are, everyone does have a difficult time finding "that one". I found my type, but they weren't in to me. It's been difficult, but l am slowly melting away. I am now with someone who values me.
 
in the Pandemic, my behavior around women deteriorated,
and I always have liked a skinny man.

hopefully someone will be with me who shares my interests (Animation, Video Games, Nature, Science Fiction, Creating, my favorite music ect)
who is on the spectrum and is LGBT. hell! I'm not even gay! I'm into chubby women with red hair and who are also Nerds, and I have never strayed
away from the idea of Trans women.

The other Night I was crying because Pornography is messing me up!

and I don't feel comfortable revealing me being a Pan-ini to strangers far and wide on metal boxes that could hold information that has
been theorized to be surveillance by the government!

too far?

For starters, I could never get with a woman, because I keep simping, and I even multiple times now,
have dating sites that I chickened out on because I was worried of the end result!

paying for it, getting catfished, and Trans Women? I think I'd be hard pressed to find any in my area ....no.
as for the man with female parts? eeeeeeeeh my dad might find that funny.
but I remember knowing that Trans people existed ever since childhood.


I'm not going to get in detail by that ....
but there's a problem with getting a guy:

first, they could be homophobic or straight or taken! I simped over one guy....he ended up getting a new job in
Special Needs work! and as for this one guy at My local Mcdonalds!? looks like HE found himself!

and it'd be nice to have an autistic partner!

My friend is always trying to Make me see the good in people and be positive,
and not judge a book by its cover.


but the sad truth is, I'm autistic.


I cant stand being 30 and not...well, I remember having a mystifying dream...about my first time......


but still! if you're going to be miserable lonely you're going to be miserable with a significant other!

so how many of YOU GUYS have had trouble finding a lover.

Happy Pride month.

this is probably for my own good.
Do you mean a man was born with ovaries? i thought only women are born with ovaries, don't celebrate pride month so it's not happy
 
I’m gay and have been single for over twenty years. I’m not sure if this will help as I’m very happy being single and the idea of being in a couple does not appeal to me. Maybe it’s my age (nearly sixty). But if having a partner is your preference, it’s a matter of taking every opportunity available. Ironically, I think being happy and confident by yourself makes people more attractive.
 
I was in a relationship a year ago, I had a phase where I was interested in older guys (30yr age gap). I learned I have to learn about myself and love myself a bit more and generally figure myself out a bit more. I feel you tho and your preferences are very interesting and may find one or the other among them. I have a thing for muscular men or anything manly tho I am not one to write home about. You'll find the one just be careful and don't fall for obvious traps even in the LGBQT its prone to happen.
 
...but still! if you're going to be miserable lonely you're going to be miserable with a significant other!

so how many of YOU GUYS have had trouble finding a lover.

Happy Pride month.

this is probably for my own good.
Your post made me smile, but not because you're unhappy. It's the thought process that made me smile.

To answer your question, uh I sure did. Eventually, I did, in my 20's. I've been married a long time. I'm pretty lucky that my partner puts up with me and actually seems to enjoy my strange ways sometimes. But yes, I sure was confused and frustrated in my 20's, and before. Social problems, everywhere, getting in the way of everything.
 
I have never had a fulfilling relationship. The cow used me.

I don't use dating sites. You're always outnumbered by better looking guys, or whatever. There's also too many scams and mandatory clicking of boxes, and so on.
 
I’ve never been with anyone in my life. And I have trouble doing online dating but I have no other choice as there aren’t any places in my area to meet other gay men without apps or meeting up in certain bathrooms.
 
I’m gay and have been single for over twenty years. I’m not sure if this will help as I’m very happy being single and the idea of being in a couple does not appeal to me. Maybe it’s my age (nearly sixty). But if having a partner is your preference, it’s a matter of taking every opportunity available. Ironically, I think being happy and confident by yourself makes people more attractive.

i am too as i never thought i would ever be,but things would get awkwardly wild between me & a wildly attractive man or woman,no matter the big or muscular physique,especiallly when i'm a wild animal 🐻🐅 when i'm sexually tense..TO THE EXTREME
 
I had a girlfriend over 15 years ago. I fell hard for her but the breakup happened pretty quick. We had a big reconnecting 11 or so years ago, and I fell for her again, only for it to go nowhere again. It was a very slow, painful end, it wasn't even a relationship at that point, but early on I thought it was leading that way.

I spent so long pining for her that I have no other experience. I am inept when it comes to such matters. I'm certainly worried I'll never find someone now. I just moved to a new area, but if I'm being honest, I don't think that changes the situation much.

My therapist said I need to put myself out there, and she's right, but I just don't. It's not in my nature. I'm pretty reclusive. I want to spend time in my own space without being disturbed. That's where I'm happiest. A full time job quickly burns me out and prevents me from wanting to do anything out of the house outside of work, meaning I don't do much of anything to meet people. Of which, even meeting people is weird. Awkward. Too far out of my comfort space.

Places where people traditionally meet people like church, bars, clubs, etc. are not my scene. I wouldn't go to those places even if you paid me.

I'm feeling pretty hopeless here. :cry::cry:
 
If you're into someone and they get a new job in a different area, especially if you're committed, the person should be okay with you moving in with them to a different area. I don't know what step you were on in the relationship with that person- we need more information.

Dating is so hard because we have peculiarities we want met and so does the other person. Best advice I can offer besides try to work on yourself is also be open to others situations as much as possible. How much does age of a person matter, weight, smoking or not, quality of communication, how much time you and the other person can make for each other, if they make enough that it won't impose on your life and vice versa?

I think it best to try www.meetup.com and go specifically for platonic friendships with the possibility that it could turn into more. We all don't like rejection- but if one is not able to accept it well, then take your time with things and focus on yourself. I don't like it myself, and I complain about it, but my desire is so strong that I put up with it and I move on and try to look for someone else. I also have to admit, there were a few people whom didn't like me that I had no longer cliqued with- so it wasn't a big loss for me, lol.

I can relate to being lgbt and on the spectrum, and there are so many layers of manipulation and discrimination it's hard to fathom if you don't actually experience it. Take breaks when you need to. Maybe talk to your therapist about looking for things that might help you gain confidence to be okay with rejection. I think specializing in something and being able to be your own person as much as possible helps a lot! I wish you much luck, and I think I can say that I truly understand your struggles.
 

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