Zack
Active Member
I have been having a rough February. It all started when I began seeing a therapist with the intention of starting hormone replacement therapy (I am a transman). However, somewhere in the span of our sessions, it has come up that I display many characteristics of individuals with Asperger’s. It was initially my boyfriend who brought it up, stating that I was overall socially inept and he had difficulty trying to talk to me because I take so long to process what he is saying and often ask him to repeat himself because I misunderstand his meaning. This has led us to many arguments that end with me either lying on the bed like a log because I have shut down entirely or manically throwing things or hitting myself in the stomach over and over before having a dramatic sob. Additionally, he is getting frustrated because I won’t get over a restrictive eating disorder I have supposedly been recovered from for 3 years. And those are just the biggest things.
So, from everything has come the label ‘Aspie.’ My therapist and I touched on in briefly, but there is so much else to talk about that it has been getting pushed aside for the last couple of sessions. The problem is that I think about it constantly. Absolutely every minute I am thinking about it, reading about it, having fantasies about it, filing through all of my memories to pick out each individual instance in which my actions might be explained by an ASD diagnosis, observing my behavior and obsessing over whether or not I made a decision because I thought I was an Aspie or because I am an Aspie and therefore made that decision. I cannot think without criticizing myself. A sentence will play in my head for hours, and when I notice it, I will say “that could be a symptom of Aspergers.” When I am at work, I have to force myself not to read the same articles over and over again. I am driving myself crazy and I need someone to do something or say something that will make it stop. I have been going through these patterns every day for about 3 weeks. My boyfriend is fed up with me talking about it – I even change the subject to talk about it. I can’t listen well because I am just thinking about it.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Does anyone have any advice?
If something isn’t clear, please say so and I will explain better.
Thanks guys.
So, from everything has come the label ‘Aspie.’ My therapist and I touched on in briefly, but there is so much else to talk about that it has been getting pushed aside for the last couple of sessions. The problem is that I think about it constantly. Absolutely every minute I am thinking about it, reading about it, having fantasies about it, filing through all of my memories to pick out each individual instance in which my actions might be explained by an ASD diagnosis, observing my behavior and obsessing over whether or not I made a decision because I thought I was an Aspie or because I am an Aspie and therefore made that decision. I cannot think without criticizing myself. A sentence will play in my head for hours, and when I notice it, I will say “that could be a symptom of Aspergers.” When I am at work, I have to force myself not to read the same articles over and over again. I am driving myself crazy and I need someone to do something or say something that will make it stop. I have been going through these patterns every day for about 3 weeks. My boyfriend is fed up with me talking about it – I even change the subject to talk about it. I can’t listen well because I am just thinking about it.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Does anyone have any advice?
If something isn’t clear, please say so and I will explain better.
Thanks guys.