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Featured Object Personification

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Soleil, Aug 12, 2020.

  1. Soleil

    Soleil Active Member It's My Birthday!

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    So I've heard that some autistic people have strong attachments to objects. But what about personification of inanimate objects, attributing feelings and emotions to them?

    For example, one time I drew a picture of all my stuffed animals racing, with Hot Dog Dog taking the win. But then I redrew it as a tie so I wouldn't hurt the others' feelings. This may sound reasonable-ish, since I was a kid back then.

    So another example: I had to buy a new cell phone a few years ago. But I never got rid of the old one, partly because I don't want it to feel like I've abandoned it.

    When I'm changing the trash at work, I sometimes rearrange the trash cans a little, and I wonder how they like it. Do they hate being split up, or were they arguing and now they feel better not being neighbors?

    It sounds crazy to say that my plushies have feelings, but if I say they don't, then I might hurt their feelings.

    Is anyone else like this? Is this an autistic thing, or am I just weird?
     
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  2. Judge

    Judge Well-Known Member

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    I don't believe this is confined to autism or any particular neurological condition.

    Can't say I've ever personalized an inanimate object, though the first time I ever even heard of Asperger's Syndrome involved a tv show about a man on the spectrum who was in love with an anatomically correct doll. He was one of a handful of people chronicled on a National Geographic tv show called "Taboo: Forbidden Love".

    Of course this goes beyond mere personification. I also recall a woman literally in love with the Berlin Wall, as well as a man who was more than passionate about his Volkswagen Beetle. For a more clinical understanding of such things, you might start here:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-excess/201307/intimate-and-inanimate
     
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    Misery Photo-Negative V.I.P Member

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    I threaten electronics and related things sometimes, if that counts.

    Really, if Bob the Bloody Stupid USB Cable doesnt want a scissors-related incident, it should just do it's one and only job properly (spoiler, Bob met the scissors in the end).

    And yes, I actually do sit there and threaten inanimate objects with a pair of scissors. It's not a joke. It's also not an empty threat.

    Just electronic things that dont work right though. Other things I'm a bit more kind to.
     
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  4. Ezra

    Ezra Relax, it's just chaos.

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    I pretty much only personify things I stub my toe on. I get angry with it and want to take a hammer to it.
     
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    PastelPetals Well-Known Member

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    Yeah I do that. I also collect many collectible toys and stuffed animals and I personify them. I also personify nature. At times I feel more connected to objects, bugs, and trees than I do to people and animals.
     
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    Thinx Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Well, I do think there's something here I think is related to my autism. I relate to places, familiar places that I love, seem like they are there for me in a way that people aren't.

    Also animals, I say hello to cats in particular, but not people. Also I do quite like cute little toy animals, and yes, if I let myself go there, I do think about their potential feelings. As I say that, I m wondering if this is a way of putting aspects of myself into the toy, then relating.
     
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    SusanLR Well-Known Member

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    Yes, the same connection with odd nature things. Bugs, a certain type tree, animals.
    I can relate to feeling this with certain plush toys also. A life size standing Snoopy and my
    purple unicorn that sleeps beside me with it's head on my pillow.
    Sometimes with my head under his and my hand in it's mane.
     
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    NothingToSeeHere Asexuowl V.I.P Member

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    I've never experienced this myself but I have an autistic acquaintance who feels that some objects have thoughts and emotions. He identifies as an animist and objectum-romantic and is in a mutual (or so he believes) committed romantic relationship with his car. He genuinely believes that his car is just as deeply in love with him as his is with it. I don't think this sort of experience (delusion?) is restricted to autistic people though.
     
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    menander Well-Known Member It's My Birthday!

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    I guess it's not out of the realm of the Possible. We are all atoms and made of the same stuff. Because we register consciousness in one way and attribute that to neurons, how do we know nueons are the only form that can produce consciousness? We just think that because we are measuring all consciousness ("possible" or "impossible") based on our own experiences. That's flimsy.

    Aren't there religions that believe we are all one, every atom, etc.
     
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    NothingToSeeHere Asexuowl V.I.P Member

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    The possibility of Panpsychism (the belief that everything material, however small, has an element of individual consciousness) is actually becoming increasingly popular (by increasing popular I mean it's slowly going from mocked and ridiculed to being considered a genuine theory worth of study, it's still very niche and controversial) among philosophers and neuroscientists who study the nature of consciousness.

    The question of why consciousness exists and what creates it is pretty impenetrable when you really consider it deeply. "consciousness exists in some form in everything from the smallest atom" may be just as probable as "consciousness suddenly comes into existence for some unknown reason once a system becomes complex enough" or "consciousness suddenly comes into existence for some unknown reason when organic brains become complex enough".
     
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    Soleil Active Member It's My Birthday!

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    My feelings towards these objects are neither sexual nor romantic, but it's interesting to see I'm not the only one who's like this.

    I suppose it's somewhat understandable to personify plushies and living things like trees, but to also consider the feelings of things like tables or buildings (as I do sometimes) seems taking it a step further.
     
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    Jumpback Well-Known Member

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    I thought that I had seen that such things are more common with autistic spectrum people. In a way it makes sense, human desires for companionship and a loved one and so on don’t disappear just because people are too complicated to deal with
     
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    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    After my fifth car accident, l really felt like my car saved my life. One really bad accident was in LA. I could have wiped out even worse then l did. So then l felt like my car was a temple. I had to give it up to Goodwill because it symbolized my horrible divorce in LA. Now my trusty jeep protects me because l have my own idiot patrol of bad drivers. lol
     
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    I was a lot like this as a kid. Less so now as an adult, though I do still get more attached to objects than many people (I think...I can't see inside their heads so I really don't know lol.)
     
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    I definitely do this at times. Almost as if I have some sort of relationship with the object. For some reason, they always seem to agree with me, lol!

    As others have said, I don't think this is unique to those on the spectrum, although it may be more likely.
     
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    Animals and trees I personify a lot, and I used to do that to items when I was a kid. I've also noticed that I extensively personify NPCs in games for some reason, even though they're just programmed pixels on a screen. It's hard to restart towns in Animal Crossing because of this. lol
     
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    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    Plushies- l have been guilty of assigning attributes to them. Right now l have a guard dog. He protects my apartment and gives free cuddles. He doesn't argue with me. He doesn't call me names. He never diss (s) my choices in bathing suits or my eating habits. He is potty trained and never barks. l have no idea what to name him.
     
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    Guilty as charged, I did it before. I would do it with my graphic design laptop. Not the best kind but it helped me go through university and some rough patches so when it started to break down and I had to get a new one - well, it felt off and I didn't want it to think that I'm abandoning it despite replacing it with a newer model. It's an oldie now but I made sure it has a nice home still and exchanged parts etc. Maybe it childish but at times objects can seem closer to me than people. They don't judge, they have no expectations, they are rarely unpredictable and do what they were created to do. They will never hurt or ridicule you, never abandon you. People on the other hand, well, you know yourself.

    Objects are rarely dangerous on their own, so I suppose they are simply safer to form attachment to... And far too often they are also simply more dependable than fickle humans.
     
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    Soleil Active Member It's My Birthday!

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    I was thinking of physical objects, but I think this is pretty much the same idea, and I do it too. I've never played AC, but there's no way I'd be able to start over either.

    But some games, like Final Fantasy Tactics, where I start off with a ragtag bunch of low-level misfits and raise them into a squad of elite warriors... I honestly care for them.
     
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    Yes, this is me! Ever since I can remember, I would ascribe feelings or felt like objects had feelings and would feel bad for not picking a certain item or for abandoning one if I were to throw it out.
     
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