I always respond, as promptly as I possibly can, whether it's a question or a simple statement; the responsiveness issue is indicative of the NT's in my life as well, also either not responding or responding very slowly, like a day or more of delay. If I'm asked a question I believe it's significantly more crucial to respond to it, even if the response is brief. Not responding to questions is rude in my opinion, as well as non-questions that are important. But any question, important or not - it's gotta be answered.
Some people in my life don't even respond to questions half the time. Some of them don't respond to periodic checkups on how they're doing, when I text them "Hey so and so, how you been?" For the record though, I tend to go extremely overboard with texting some people - the few friends I have, to be precise. I have an issue where I'm being very clingy to people because years of mostly loneliness will do that to a person. I used to prefer being a lone wolf in the beginning but once I grew out of my shy phase I didn't want that anymore; I wanted friends. Even if I don't "bulk text", I do text some silly random stuff and that's where I actually don't think it's impolite not to respond.
I can tell, naturally, when someone read my text but didn't respond to it on Messenger because it shows their profile picture in a small circle next to my text. I do read too much into that and sometimes it makes me wonder if they're ignoring me on purpose, or if they just think it's something that doesn't warrant a response. Now if it's important, meaning that both parties deem it that way - so far I haven't seen any lack of responses. If a lack of responses to non-important stuff continues in a pattern though, I start wondering if they actually want to communicate with me...and the possibility of people ditching me again is pretty hurtful to take into account. In other cases, I wonder if they're simply mad at me because it's something that I did but wasn't aware of the fact that it was wrong, I've been struggling with that because of my Asperger's quite a lot. People should never be passive with me and I've explained it to them, so it's their turn to listen. I say and do things that are deemed "silly" by NT's all the time, and I don't ever mean to hurt anyone's feelings.
I also notice on Messenger that some people don't read my messages for days or weeks, evidenced by the "delivered" symbol. That makes me feel even more uncomfortable, what if they see that the messages are coming from me and just choose to ignore them? I'd rather they read and not respond, because at least they made an effort (unless they're clever jackasses who want to make me believe that they read it by simply opening and closing the message, thus getting their profile pic symbol to show). I really don't know what to do about the unread message issue. My parents, friends and coworkers tell me that I'm always overthinking these Messenger symbols and that I make a mountain out of a molehill, but how can I be sure that's always the case? I'm often unaware that I've made someone mad, and I can be very annoying in general, even now (to say nothing of my college past). Please, do not play any passive games with me because otherwise how in the world will I know what it is that I did? And if I don't know what I did, how can I learn from my mistake?
However, if I take people's words for it, so far the non-responsiveness has been happening because they either didn't check their messages all that much, or the text that I sent doesn't warrant a response. But again, if the text is a question - then it's more of an iffy kind of situation; it's rude to not respond to questions. Just by my rant here alone one can tell that I'm a bulk message sender. I should also add that with almost everyone I know, 95% of the time I'm the first one who texts or calls. Any thoughts on why NT's often don't respond to my texts even if they're questions or "how you been?", or why I'm the first one to initiate a conversation? Should I jump to the conclusion that these people don't want to communicate with me? Now these few friends I mentioned - they actually enjoy talking to me in person, and our conversations are never ending! Their tones are always happy when we talk, and not "tired" or "hurried" - yes, I've learned how to tell tones just a little bit after graduating from college - so perhaps they're simply "not texters"? That's what my doc believes anyway when I told him about that anonymously, if someone doesn't text someone a lot they might still like talking to that same person face to face. So, yes - any opinions on my particular dilemma? Thanks in advance.