Soleil
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Hi everyone! I always feel super awkward introducing myself, but here goes:
My (not real) name is Soleil, I'm about 30 years old, and I prefer they/ them pronouns for myself, but I'll she/ her pronouns in languages that don't have that option. I like cats, books, music, video games, manga, anime, languages, and the Oxford comma.
I am really unsure of myself right now. I never really thought I might have autism before, but I keep finding myself relating to the stories I'm hearing, so I'm really confused.
I have basically zero social skills and have no idea how to carry a conversation. I just never know what to say. I once heard someone say that they would have no idea what to say unless they had a script, and that's exactly how I feel. I am constantly astounded by the way people can just carry on a conversation and add things to say, respond, and so on. No mater how hard I try, I struggle to say anything more than a generic agreement with the other person in the hopes that they'll be satisfied and leave me alone. I swear I need some sort of script to follow or I'm useless unless they're asking a question I can answer. I'm better at talking with friends and family, but still struggle sometimes, and usually end up meowing at them as a response. My therapist thinks I just have underdeveloped social skills, and maybe there's some truth to this. But at the same time, this doesn't feel right. I find myself putting off responses so that I can use them later to further the conversation, so I have something to say later. Is it normal to have to strategize so much for a simple conversation?
Beyond social anxiety, I am pretty much stuck to a routine. When I go to the store after work, I keep looking at my watch and thinking about what I'd be doing if I wasn't at the store. If I go out with my family I feel a little less nervous, but I still feel totally lost and have to follow their lead.
I like to have things in their proper place, like how my striped washcloth is always to the left of my white one.
I have some sensory issues, but mainly bright lights (the sun especially) and lots of flashing lights (strobe lights especially give me anxiety)
There's more, but I've already written a lot. I should be talking to a doctor, but I wanted to learn a little more first.
And there are a few points that seem common in ASD that I don't seem to have: I love fantasy and playing make-believe, and I don't think I have a problem with general social cues, or with understanding most humor and sarcasm.
So yeah. Sorry for the long introduction...
My (not real) name is Soleil, I'm about 30 years old, and I prefer they/ them pronouns for myself, but I'll she/ her pronouns in languages that don't have that option. I like cats, books, music, video games, manga, anime, languages, and the Oxford comma.
I am really unsure of myself right now. I never really thought I might have autism before, but I keep finding myself relating to the stories I'm hearing, so I'm really confused.
I have basically zero social skills and have no idea how to carry a conversation. I just never know what to say. I once heard someone say that they would have no idea what to say unless they had a script, and that's exactly how I feel. I am constantly astounded by the way people can just carry on a conversation and add things to say, respond, and so on. No mater how hard I try, I struggle to say anything more than a generic agreement with the other person in the hopes that they'll be satisfied and leave me alone. I swear I need some sort of script to follow or I'm useless unless they're asking a question I can answer. I'm better at talking with friends and family, but still struggle sometimes, and usually end up meowing at them as a response. My therapist thinks I just have underdeveloped social skills, and maybe there's some truth to this. But at the same time, this doesn't feel right. I find myself putting off responses so that I can use them later to further the conversation, so I have something to say later. Is it normal to have to strategize so much for a simple conversation?
Beyond social anxiety, I am pretty much stuck to a routine. When I go to the store after work, I keep looking at my watch and thinking about what I'd be doing if I wasn't at the store. If I go out with my family I feel a little less nervous, but I still feel totally lost and have to follow their lead.
I like to have things in their proper place, like how my striped washcloth is always to the left of my white one.
I have some sensory issues, but mainly bright lights (the sun especially) and lots of flashing lights (strobe lights especially give me anxiety)
There's more, but I've already written a lot. I should be talking to a doctor, but I wanted to learn a little more first.
And there are a few points that seem common in ASD that I don't seem to have: I love fantasy and playing make-believe, and I don't think I have a problem with general social cues, or with understanding most humor and sarcasm.
So yeah. Sorry for the long introduction...