My many issues...

[Lemon Zing]

OK. So on my 35th birthday, I had to go to a police station to be interviewed about somebody who reported me for asking for money back. This was to do with a short film that I wanted to be in as an extra the previous year, but some people like to gas bas (or gossip) about me to cost me work in films. Therefore, I was declined. I'd never even heard of her, by the way.

She basically lied, too. She made out she repeatedly asked me to stop contacting her, which is not true. I have never received any messages from her online or off it. Nor did I receive any refund from Indiegogo. In fact, this other, unrelated person is owe me back cash too. The same thing occurred with him as well. After I donated money towards a film, somebody that knows this actress I had beef with, said something to get me blackballed.

So they released me, after I challenged them over her allegation. But they noticed I had an Internet enabled phone as they were checking my belongings, and so they kept it. Per my bail terms from a year ago, which they actually know about, I am not allowed to go online. They had me handing over devices to the court as well in early 2020, for their safekeeping. This was before the pandemic was announced.

Not long afterwards, they returned to my flat and knocked on my door. I never answered it, and they put a card through my door regarding an "investigation" (as in, somebody must have reported me, or it was regarding the same matter). This was weeks ago by now. Then on Saturday, they came back and knocked on my door about 11:45 AM. They called through, "We have a phone for you", but again, I kept quiet and did not answer the door. A little while later, someone from a station called my number to let me know I could go collect my phone from this station that the officer is from, who dealt with me in the past.

The thing is... WHY would they give me a phone back that they took, if they know I'm not to have any Internet enabled devices? Well, I called my lawyer and he thinks it was a potential ruse. The cops aren't supposed to do things like that, though. Are they?

Then again, two cops broke into my accommodation last year, claiming I contacted some former support worker. But I hadn't. The video they spoke to me about where I merely talked about her and other former support workers and random individuals on camera, was from May of the previous year. Her 5 year non-harassment order expired around that time, so my mother and I reckon it was a ploy to get me charged again, so she could be granted a new one, somehow. I'm sure the court is in cahoots with them too, which is probably why I was so openly bailed last summer. But I was in court months before that for saying things about those people who openly slated me with these trolls on YouTube. I've also had to report that crazy Australian nuisance I've been telling you about, but they won't do anything to help me because he's overseas.

What do you think? This doesn't feel right. I'm actually sick and tired of not having a life any more, because of sad people deliberately messing with my mindset.

Anyhow, I would like to pursue legal action against these people, but when I called the court before about how to go about doing this, the people in the simple procedures department seemed quite clueless. So, um, just what the heck am I supposed to do now!?

 

[Misery]

What I can tell you right now is this: This is the wrong place to ask about any of this.

None of us here are qualified to give legal advice... period.

What you need to do is talk more to this lawyer of yours. Only someone like that is in a position to be offering advice on this sort of situation.

Outside of that... at least be aware that even posting on here at all could be rather dangerous. Best to not be doing so until you've spoken to him. In other words: Wait for the actual lawyer's advice before you do anything. His job is to know this stuff. So, let him do that job.

 

[Aspychata]

Sounds like you screwed with the wrong people to me.These woman had serious connections perhaps. l keep to myself and really don't talk to people. Because crazy people are a dime a dozen in state l live in. Especially the men in this particular state.

 

[Lemon Zing]

The thing is, I am socially inept. So I don't really socialize at all anyway. The minute I do try to open up to some seemingly nice people, this is what I am in for.

The police rang me earlier, saying they were going to come around, seize my computer, and arrest me.

 

[Gift2humanity]

OK. So on my 35th birthday, I had to go to a police station to be interviewed about somebody who reported me for asking for money back. This was to do with a short film that I wanted to be in as an extra the previous year, but some people like to gas bas (or gossip) about me to cost me work in films. Therefore, I was declined. I'd never even heard of her, by the way.

What a horrible surprise on your birthday.

She basically lied, too. She made out she repeatedly asked me to stop contacting her, which is not true. I have never received any messages from her online or off it. Nor did I receive any refund from Indiegogo. In fact, this other, unrelated person is owe me back cash too. The same thing occurred with him as well. After I donated money towards a film, somebody that knows this actress I had beef with, said something to get me blackballed.

Being lied about is horrible, you know the truth which is important.
Asking for a refund is ok.
That must feel awful.

So they released me, after I challenged them over her allegation. But they noticed I had an Internet enabled phone as they were checking my belongings, and so they kept it. Per my bail terms from a year ago, which they actually know about, I am not allowed to go online. They had me handing over devices to the court as well in early 2020, for their safekeeping. This was before the pandemic was announced.

Good that they released you. Sorry they kept your phone. Not being allowed to go online would be awful, especially for some Aspies who communicate better online than face to face or phone.

Not long afterwards, they returned to my flat and knocked on my door. I never answered it, and they put a card through my door regarding an "investigation" (as in, somebody must have reported me, or it was regarding the same matter). This was weeks ago by now. Then on Saturday, they came back and knocked on my door about 11:45 AM. They called through, "We have a phone for you", but again, I kept quiet and did not answer the door. A little while later, someone from a station called my number to let me know I could go collect my phone from this station that the officer is from, who dealt with me in the past.

I would have asked "who is it" if an unexpected visitor knocks at my door. Good they offered you your phone back.

The thing is... WHY would they give me a phone back that they took, if they know I'm not to have any Internet enabled devices? Well, I called my lawyer and he thinks it was a potential ruse. The cops aren't supposed to do things like that, though. Are they?

Blimey, police trying to fool you?
That's un-nerving. I don't know about the law, maybe you could talk more to your lawyer.

Then again, two cops broke into my accommodation last year, claiming I contacted some former support worker. But I hadn't. The video they spoke to me about where I merely talked about her and other former support workers and random individuals on camera, was from May of the previous year. Her 5 year non-harassment order expired around that time, so my mother and I reckon it was a ploy to get me charged again, so she could be granted a new one, somehow. I'm sure the court is in cahoots with them too, which is probably why I was so openly bailed last summer. But I was in court months before that for saying things about those people who openly slated me with these trolls on YouTube. I've also had to report that crazy Australian nuisance I've been telling you about, but they won't do anything to help me because he's overseas.

I didn't know it was legal for cops to break in without a warrant or unless they were concerned about the welfare of an occupant. They broke in my flat but they had good reason as they thought I had committed suicide.
This all sounds really odd.

What do you think? This doesn't feel right. I'm actually sick and tired of not having a life any more, because of sad people deliberately messing with my mindset.

I say go with your gut, engage with your lawyer, he or she works for you.

Anyhow, I would like to pursue legal action against these people, but when I called the court before about how to go about doing this, the people in the simple procedures department seemed quite clueless. So, um, just what the heck am I supposed to do now!?

I do not know what country you are in. In the UK we have citizen's advice bureaux who signpost us to agencies who can help with all sorts of queries. They used to be better than they are now due to economic reasons.
Do you have any such advice agencies where you can go to?
Definitely engage with your lawyer.

 

[Gift2humanity]

Sounds like you screwed with the wrong people to me.These woman had serious connections perhaps. l keep to myself and really don't talk to people. Because crazy people are a dime a dozen in state l live in. Especially the men in this particular state.

Yikes!

 

[Gift2humanity]

The thing is, I am socially inept. So I don't really socialize at all anyway. The minute I do try to open up to some seemingly nice people, this is what I am in for.

The police rang me earlier, saying they were going to come around, seize my computer, and arrest me.

You are on the autism spectrum you are not socially inept you have social challenges. I get that you don't socialise I don't very much at all.
You really have to use your intuition and if anything feels in the slightest way off, online or off, disengage.
I will speak to the lawyer of yours you are paying him or her they are the right person to speak to or any advice agency as we are just not qualified.

 

[Aspychata]

Yikes!

My state makes the news on a regular basis for the weirdest stuff. But l love the lady that stuffed a baby alligator down her pants when she and her boyfriend were pulled over by the cops.

 

[Gift2humanity]

My state makes the news on a regular basis for the weirdest stuff. But l love the lady that stuffed a baby alligator down her pants when she and her boyfriend were pulled over by the cops.

Yikes again.

 

[Lemon Zing]

Yeah. I really do think they're perpetrating a sham here.

I removed a video that was in this post.

 

[Misery]

Yeah. I really do think they're perpetrating a sham here.

Whoa, hold the phone there.

I'd STRONGLY suggest taking that video down. That's... like the direct opposite of what to do in a situation like this. Like I said: It can be dangerous to discuss this stuff online. Dont underestimate the threat the internet presents! Everyone always freaking does that. I know it seems like just a bright screen in your safe living room or something, but it isnt. Talking about legal matters online is pretty much universally a bad idea.

But it's going to be potentially even worse if you post a VIDEO. No matter what the content is, if it is even tangentially related to the issue, it can be used to hurt you.

Seriously: take it down. You're not accomplishing anything by having it up. But you ARE producing a large threat that is only directed at yourself.

And no, what I'm saying here doesnt fall into the "legal advice" category, so before anyone says it, I'm not breaking that rule I already stated earlier. What I'm saying here merely is "internet safety 101" really.

 

[Lemon Zing]

Yeah. I will remove the video.

Just to clarify something: I don't pay my lawyer for his services. He was appointed to me in 2014 when the issues arose with the support staff. He has continued to represent me throughout all of the commotion people have caused me, because he's a criminal defense solicitor. But I don't think he's going to do anything to tackle what happened in the first place.

I went to his office months ago, and he had been showing me that he had like, 100+ pages of all of this stuff, and it all concerned me. It was basically a ton of different police reports, but sent in from people not even related to the current mess. So why he was telling me about that junk, I have no idea. At one point, he asked me if I have ever been seen by a psychiatrist.

I am so unbelievably fed up now. It was bad before with having all of these people doing things to rile me up, but at least we were not going through a pandemic. The world felt relatively free, so my only major hurdle was overcoming my social anxiety. Since that outbreak was confirmed a year ago, it feels like everything has been cancelled.

You pass people in the streets, but there's nothing happening anywhere. All of the major events like E3 are online only shows. It's just not the same. Websites like Meetup used to run a lot of groups, but that's not the case any longer.

In fact, it annoys me when I watch movies and I see extras in scenes. It's so pathetic how I can't even do that anymore. In terms of film work, that's kind of classed as being the very lowest form of acting. Yet I have to do without that too. It's like, why should I even bother anymore?

I've never even really had any romantic relationship. Didn't go to a senior prom. I chased after a girl who was not worth pursuing. Never had a job since 2006. My mate is even avoiding me now. So I feel like I am living, but that's putting it lightly. Like, my quality of living has diminished so much, because of people screwing me around. My self-esteem has depleted so low by now. I'm on the verge of just quitting everything.

 

[Misery]

You pass people in the streets, but there's nothing happening anywhere. All of the major events like E3 are online only shows. It's just not the same. Websites like Meetup used to run a lot of groups, but that's not the case any longer.

Oh yeah, I understand the frustration on this one.

I go to anime/gaming conventions myself. It's really rather important to me for reasons I wont go into here. But since this accursed situation started, ALL of them are gone. Now, if one were to pop up now (within driving range), NOW I could MAYBE go as I've been vaccinated, but... that doesnt change how dangerous it'd be for everyone ELSE.

Holy heck have I been non-stop irritated over this. It is constantly on my mind. Really messing with my mood and overall mental state.

And of course other things are sort of out too. There's a couple of retro arcades near here... one of which is the biggest one in the country and one of the biggest ones in the world, and I'd been originally planning to start going to them frequently... it's an activity I can do while actually standing up after all (and considering my interests, there arent many such things). And I love retro stuff. But noooooooooo. Freaking COVID happened. If those arcades have even survived this long, I'll be stunned. Again, I can PROBABLY go to those now that I've gotten the shot, but... are they even there now?

AND, travelling in general has been a no-go. Sort of. My father has been pushing for a Florida trip for months (we've got a place down there), but I've shut down the idea every time as it seemed bloody stupid to do without the vaccination. Now that we've all gotten it, we're FINALLY going in two weeks. Normally that trip... which we do relatively often... is great stress relief for everyone. Without it for so long... a lot of build-up, you know.

So yeah... I definitely sympathize. And I know there's probably plenty of others on this forum too, who have been dealing with this one. It really sucks, doesnt it?

I could rant about all this crap all day.

In fact, it annoys me when I watch movies and I see extras in scenes. It's so pathetic how I can't even do that anymore. In terms of film work, that's kind of classed as being the very lowest form of acting. Yet I have to do without that too. It's like, why should I even bother anymore?

I'm curious, are you in a particularly urban area? I mean, if you're not in a super crowded place, you CAN go outside and walk around and such (provided you wear your mask properly). Even I go out, almost every day (unless everything hurts too much). Heck I go over to the stupid Walmart just to wander around and look at stuff... gets me some exercise. My father goes over to the mall often to do the same.

By taking the proper precautions and following all of the rules, you can keep safe even if you havent gotten the shot yet. Seriously, been doing it for months. But of course this is somewhat dependent on the area. If you're in a super crowded place, that presents additional problems.

I mean yeah it's not the same as going to an event or something, but... it's at least something to do.


Now, on a side note, there's one other thing I wanted to mention.

It may be of benefit to you to specifically work on understanding bad situations like this and how to avoid them. Specifically, understanding the sorts of traps and pitfalls that total jerks often set for us so that they can take advantage.

Unfortunately, a very frequent aspect of being on the spectrum is NOT being able to understand or even spot this stuff. I'm going to take a wild guess and say that you absolutely have walked into a couple of traps, even if you 100% didnt at all realize it. It really is how they get ya... rarely is a scheme like this executed without getting the target to specifically take certain actions that allow the scheme to be set in motion. Even if those actions do not, at first, appear to be connected to the scheme somehow.

Learning more about how to protect ourselves from scams and schemes is a very important thing, but it seems highly overlooked by many on the spectrum. It's not EASY to learn, but with enough focus and time... you can do it.

Just a thought.

 

[Gift2humanity]

Yeah. I will remove the video.
Good.
Just to clarify something: I don't pay my lawyer for his services. He was appointed to me in 2014 when the issues arose with the support staff. He has continued to represent me throughout all of the commotion people have caused me, because he's a criminal defense solicitor. But I don't think he's going to do anything to tackle what happened in the first place.
He is the one to go to for legal advice.
Ask him questions about what happened in the past.
I went to his office months ago, and he had been showing me that he had like, 100+ pages of all of this stuff, and it all concerned me. It was basically a ton of different police reports, but sent in from people not even related to the current mess. So why he was telling me about that junk, I have no idea. At one point, he asked me if I have ever been seen by a psychiatrist.
This is something you would need to raise with him, we cannot advise you here.
I am so unbelievably fed up now. It was bad before with having all of these people doing things to rile me up, but at least we were not going through a pandemic. The world felt relatively free, so my only major hurdle was overcoming my social anxiety. Since that outbreak was confirmed a year ago, it feels like everything has been cancelled.
The pandemic has obstructed a lot.
You pass people in the streets, but there's nothing happening anywhere. All of the major events like E3 are online only shows. It's just not the same. Websites like Meetup used to run a lot of groups, but that's not the case any longer.
Yes, there is a lot up in the air with the pandemic.
In fact, it annoys me when I watch movies and I see extras in scenes. It's so pathetic how I can't even do that anymore. In terms of film work, that's kind of classed as being the very lowest form of acting. Yet I have to do without that too. It's like, why should I even bother anymore?
Don't give up on your life, you need to nurture your other gifts and talents.
I've never even really had any romantic relationship. Didn't go to a senior prom. I chased after a girl who was not worth pursuing. Never had a job since 2006. My mate is even avoiding me now. So I feel like I am living, but that's putting it lightly. Like, my quality of living has diminished so much, because of people screwing me around. My self-esteem has depleted so low by now. I'm on the verge of just quitting everything.
Romantic relationships don't come when we either look for them, or when we don't believe on some deep level we deserve them.
I used to go go school discos to fit in - I'd rather I had chosen not to, trying to be part of the crowd was fake, no point in living a fake life.
My advice to you is do what you enjoy, forget being licked, forget romance, just enjoy what you do, forget this issue except when it comes to speaking to your solicitor as he is the only one who can help.
People who we genuinely are drawn to are a bye product of doing what we love.

 

[Lemon Zing]

@Misery, I reside in Edinburgh, Scotland. There's a lot of suburbs.