We are all going to Portugal for a two week holiday. My father is really tight with everything he does, in terms of spending.
For this holiday he got his way with everything, the duration, the location and the venue. We will also end up going to the food places that he wants to go to.
He has decided that he will not hire a car. He has never done this but has decided not to do it this year, despite promising to do it if I paid.
I begged him to do it, but no he will not. We had an almighty row and I have said that I am not going to go to Portugal if he does not hire a car. My mother started screaming at me, blaming me for the row and ranting about how annoying I was for doing this.
But I LITERALLY have anxiety over this. Portugal is a really rural place with not so great transport. I know that we will have to rely on the transport and so we will be restricted by it.
If we do not get a car we will not have as much freedom and we will have to take taxis everywhere. I have tried to compromise with him by telling him that I will pay for everything and he still says no.
This is causing me great stress as I now feel that I cannot say anything about this and I have to do everything he wants. He won’t compromise at all. My mother is screaming/crying and I am looking like the bad one.
This makes me feel extremely guilty, as she just wants to enjoy the holiday and this is ruining it. But also put in an unfair position where he is controlling everything and I have no say whatsoever. I feel like he is being awkward on purpose.
What should I do about this, given my anxiety?
For this holiday he got his way with everything, the duration, the location and the venue. We will also end up going to the food places that he wants to go to.
He has decided that he will not hire a car. He has never done this but has decided not to do it this year, despite promising to do it if I paid.
I begged him to do it, but no he will not. We had an almighty row and I have said that I am not going to go to Portugal if he does not hire a car. My mother started screaming at me, blaming me for the row and ranting about how annoying I was for doing this.
But I LITERALLY have anxiety over this. Portugal is a really rural place with not so great transport. I know that we will have to rely on the transport and so we will be restricted by it.
If we do not get a car we will not have as much freedom and we will have to take taxis everywhere. I have tried to compromise with him by telling him that I will pay for everything and he still says no.
This is causing me great stress as I now feel that I cannot say anything about this and I have to do everything he wants. He won’t compromise at all. My mother is screaming/crying and I am looking like the bad one.
This makes me feel extremely guilty, as she just wants to enjoy the holiday and this is ruining it. But also put in an unfair position where he is controlling everything and I have no say whatsoever. I feel like he is being awkward on purpose.
What should I do about this, given my anxiety?