My AS ex-boyfriend won't leave me alone. Any suggestions?

[Emor]

NM. This thread'll acheive nothing.
EMZ.

 

[benjimanbreeg]

Tell him you're thinking of having a sex change

 

[Emor]

-.-. It's not a joke.
Can an admin please delete this thread :/?
EMZ.

 

[benjimanbreeg]

I'm not joking. If he's a creep, you have to find something that will put him off for sure.

 

[Emor]

He's not interested in sex(he seriously isn't), so why telling him I'm getting a penis would change his mind idk.
I told him I was lesbian and that didn't keep him away from me(I'm not lesbian[bi actually] but yeah).
EMZ=/

 

[benjimanbreeg]

It was just an example. Maybe you could just explain to him you need space.

 

[Emor]

Explaining doesn't work with him.
'James, I need some space.'
'Why?'
' 'Cause I don't like being around people all the time- I need alone time.'
'Why? Being alone's boring...'(he can't talk, he's always alone).
'James, please, just give me some alone time.'
*I walk off to go to the lady's room*.
*James meets me at yard, under assumption that was my 'alone time'*.
^True story^.
I don't talk to him anymore, but he keeps emailing me around 5 times a day.
Now he's trying to guilt me into being his friend(when I'm friends with him he says he loves me and crap, treats me like ****, gets mad at me, storms off, etc.) due to his grandma being on her death bed :S.
Extract:
'don't think of u or me think about my nan, she would want her grandson to be happy. sorry i never told u, i thought u wud never believe me. i tried on friday but u wudn't have it so now i've told u. I can't get u outta my head. hope u understand. i care so much about you, i'm addicted to talking to u. i miss u. ott i know. just friends, it's all i want.
oh another thing, i've spent 2 hours making this, that's how desperate i am. '
He also keeps saying things which I find offensive, and also sort of funny.
Extract:
'every night i have nightmares emma, there are about you. u have got to listen to me.'
The logic being if I start talking to him and be his friend, Emma will stop haunting him in his sleep.
?
I thought it was my role as the female in the relationship to be illogical?
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EMZ=/

 

[benjimanbreeg]

Poor guy

 

[Wayne]

Tell him you won't be talking to him anymore, then stick to it. Filter out his emails. Block his IM username. He'll keep trying for a while, then give up.

It worked on me back in my younger, stupider days. Well, after several months went by, I gave it one more shot and showed up at her dorm, and she got the university police to escort me away. She hasn't heard from me since... that was almost 20 years ago.

 

[Emor]

That's what everyone says :/.
IDK. I was friends with him but he became posessive, and he admitted he wasn't coping with us being friends, said he loved me several times, etc.
I said I wanted a break from being his friend(he's so clingy), and he basically gave zero respect to that. The next day he acted like nothing had happened.
Then I told him via email I didn't want to be friends with him at school and didn't want to talk to anyone at school.
So we emailed.
He's very boring in both real life and over email, and he wants to email for hours on end. So most I just ignored anyway(at this point he'd said several things which were offensive, and I was just sick of him as a whole- I don't usually ignore friends or w.e).
Then it started getting ridculous again and he'd make me feel guilty for breaking up with him, etc. and I ended up telling him to leave me alone and I don't want to talk to him.
He gets incredibly emotional over email.
Etc.
Then he's emailing me like 5 times a day, if not more.
I'm trying to ignore them.
I actually went up to him on Friday and told him to stop emailing me. He didn't.
It's really pissing me off now. It's been going on for over a month(the him emailing and me ignoring).
I don't see why I should be forced to be friends with someone when what he's asking I don't even do around people I consider friends(don't go to cinema, don't go to their houses[how awkward would that be?], don't eat lunch with them, don't hang around them at school ALL the time, etc.).
I'm sorry if I'm coming across as juvenille now, but it seems people find it impossible to consider how I feel.
People are constantly coming up to me at school telling me to take him back, but they don't know anything about it. They just want to see the two retards back together.
Even my friends want me to get back with him and they don't know anything.
Everyone does except the people who I've been talking to about the relationship from start to finish.
EMZ=/
EDIT: @Wayne: I've not replied to any of his emails. He still keeps sending them, and I just want him to get over me. He's wasting his time and it's unfair he thinks I'm effected by any of this.

 

[mikkyh]

If he doesn't stop bothering you I think it could be considered harassment. This is an offense that can warrant a restraining order. Though it may seem harsh sometimes it is necessary. If he breaks the restraint he can be sent to prison (depending on how many times it happens).

Seriously this sounds really mean but once he knows it is in place hopefully it will scare him out of bothering you.

Block and delete him on everything you can. Send messages from him to your Junk Email box.

Good Luck

 

[mikkyh]

Poor guy

I do feel a little bit sorry for him. But AS or not I think something needs to be done. Though it isn't nice to be pushed away.

 

[Emor]

I did feel sorry for him.
But then I noticed pretty much every email he sent clearly was intended to guilt me back into getting back with him.
Now I sort of remain indifferent to everything says. Or just annoyed as hell.
Putting somebody's death on someone=not cool.
I just hate it when people make people feel guilty for crap that isn't even their fault.
EMZ.

 

[mikkyh]

I did feel sorry for him.
But then I noticed pretty much every email he sent clearly was intended to guilt me back into getting back with him.
Now I sort of remain indifferent to everything says. Or just annoyed as hell.
Putting somebody's death on someone=not cool.
I just hate it when people make people feel guilty for crap that isn't even their fault.
EMZ.

Did you read my other post ?

 

[Emor]

Oh yeah, sorry. I have a tendency to reply to what I've just read.
I'm not going to get a restraining order because he's not doing all that much at school and it'd be awkward, etc.
I've been blunt so if he contacts me again I'm just going to be offensive towards him and swear and stuff... I think...
EMZ=]

 

[mikkyh]

Oh yeah, sorry. I have a tendency to reply to what I've just read.
I'm not going to get a restraining order because he's not doing all that much at school and it'd be awkward, etc.
I've been blunt so if he contacts me again I'm just going to be offensive towards him and swear and stuff... I think...
EMZ=]

Haha OK XD

 

[benjimanbreeg]

Sounds like he needs help. Also he's young.

 

[Wayne]

EDIT: @Wayne: I've not replied to any of his emails. He still keeps sending them, and I just want him to get over me. He's wasting his time and it's unfair he thinks I'm effected by any of this.

He will, in his own good time. He'll do it quicker if his efforts get zero results. Anything else you try to do will only make the getting over you go more slowly.

I won't tell you not to get a restraining order, because I don't know him and can't guarantee squat, but from what I've read and what I remember of my own experiences, Aspies can be clingy and annoying and sometimes display stalker-like behavior, but rarely get violent. I certainly did not, although I annoyed the crap out of a number of girls in my younger days. If I were you, I'd just filter out all emails from him so you don't even have to see them cluttering up your inbox.

 

[Kit]

Okay, this is a stalker, when people stalk, I have no empathy or respect for them. I would just block his email address.

 

[Chris]

Maybe you should just really bore him to death. And I mean... really bore him. Read up on the most boring topic you can think of, and talk about it obsessively to him for a week, getting upset if he won't listen or doesn't find it interesting. That would probably put him off a bit.