Hey guys, been quite a while but figure it's time I came back So I'm going on 21 in June, and I'm at a point in my life now where I can really take my life in a positive direction even given my troubled past. I have ASD(Autism Spectrum Disorder) and struggled with bad social skills and years of family dysfunction(parents fought alot, Dad was unsupportive lot of the time, sister has tried to kill herself several times, etc). I will be taking my NREMT test to become an EMT and moving out from my mom's house to get space from all that and to further work on myself. I am pretty much normal in terms of social intuition now(have proper give and take in conversations as opposed to rambling, more mindful of appropriate/inappropriate topics and boundaries, etc) and don't hyperfixate on things as much as I used to(but still have to catch myself at times).
Thing is, I still do have a flip flop mood regarding my past. I was clingy and annoying in elementary school, kinda weird and really awkward in middle school and was an awkward loner in high school. I have those moments where I still feel bad about moments where I blatantly weirded other kids out, or just thinking of how I was in general(in middle school, I preferred Legos and sword fights with younger kids). TBH, some of my traits and behaviors weren't inherently bad but due to hyperfixation tendencies an not understanding boundaries I took them too far which caused conflict or made it hard to make friends or be open to new things. Part of it is also the feeling that I'm playing catchup to everyone else. I mean, I would say now I have the social awareness that others had even in elementary/middle school and its frustrating thinking how difficult talking to people and connecting with others back then and thinking now ''this is what others had from the get go.'' This sense of self conscious on fairly recently being a ''normal'' person and thinking I'll never be truly on the same level of others given my past experiences and traits.
I don't want to focus on that previous stuff so much since I know that can actually lead to the negative outcomes I was afraid of. I don't feel too bad about not having a Hollywood high school experience since I don't really care for alcohol, parties or crazy drama(and HS in general is romanticized too much) but still wish I maybe did certain activities like video game club or wrestling and got out a bit more. I do find I would still like to experience having a girlfriend, friends and do certain things, but time will tell how the rest of this year will go. Thoughts?
Thing is, I still do have a flip flop mood regarding my past. I was clingy and annoying in elementary school, kinda weird and really awkward in middle school and was an awkward loner in high school. I have those moments where I still feel bad about moments where I blatantly weirded other kids out, or just thinking of how I was in general(in middle school, I preferred Legos and sword fights with younger kids). TBH, some of my traits and behaviors weren't inherently bad but due to hyperfixation tendencies an not understanding boundaries I took them too far which caused conflict or made it hard to make friends or be open to new things. Part of it is also the feeling that I'm playing catchup to everyone else. I mean, I would say now I have the social awareness that others had even in elementary/middle school and its frustrating thinking how difficult talking to people and connecting with others back then and thinking now ''this is what others had from the get go.'' This sense of self conscious on fairly recently being a ''normal'' person and thinking I'll never be truly on the same level of others given my past experiences and traits.
I don't want to focus on that previous stuff so much since I know that can actually lead to the negative outcomes I was afraid of. I don't feel too bad about not having a Hollywood high school experience since I don't really care for alcohol, parties or crazy drama(and HS in general is romanticized too much) but still wish I maybe did certain activities like video game club or wrestling and got out a bit more. I do find I would still like to experience having a girlfriend, friends and do certain things, but time will tell how the rest of this year will go. Thoughts?