Life is boring.

[Tony Ramirez]

Too me life is boring for Asperger's people like me. Really noting goes on but the same old thing. I made an effort to go out more and socialize. At first it worked out fine but now that is boring too. I remember why I first became a recluse.

Socializing on any effort burns me out then I have to be asked stupid questions like "How was your day/week?", "What's up?" or "What did you do today?" I course I reply with not much or my plans fell through then it is the same old few words back and forth then silence then they mingle with others. Again boring same old sitting by myself again.

If it was not for music and watching my favorite TV shows I would crack up from nothing. Just getting up in the afternoon almost everyday and making an effort to walk as some days I am not for it helps. Those tasks I can all do by myself.

 

[BraidedPony]

There is always something interesting going on somewhere. just not always people. Some people are not boring though. I've learned to entertain myself.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

I can entertain myself better then with people.

 

[Fino]

The world is filled with fascinating things, waiting for you, but you have to go to them. If you have any financial resources, you could start planning an exciting thing for every week or every month or whatever you want to do.

 

[Misery]

I can entertain myself better then with people.

Which brings up the question... why bother trying to socialize?

Like you, I get bored with that sort of thing fast. After a time, I just said "screw it" and stopped bothering. And I tell ya.... sooooooo much better. There's a boatload of different hobbies to do that DONT require having to deal with idiots. Best of all, not having to do stupid social stuff means lots of time to then do those hobbies or whatever.

Really the only one I need to socialize with is my dog. Why bother with others when I have him?

The world is filled with fascinating things, waiting for you, but you have to go to them. If you have any financial resources, you could start planning an exciting thing for every week or every month or whatever you want to do.

Aye, this is true. And best of all, most of them dont require dealing with others. It's just a matter of finding... whatever it is.

 

[Autistamatic]

You have every right to say your life is boring, but please don't associate Asperger's/autism with it. I can't get bored 'cos there's so much in this world to do/learn/read/watch/enjoy/create without the distraction of a "social life" and so few years in a human life to fit it all in. I know countless people on the spectrum who feel the same way.
Maybe it's not boredom you're feeling, but angst? Depression? Apathy?

 

[Mia]

Read something recently that suggested that boredom is now caused by our ability to want to be constantly diverted. Phones, laptops, movies, television, gaming. We are so distracted by our devices, that when we can't use them for whatever reason we become lost, even bored.

 

[Progster]

Socializing on any effort burns me out then I have to be asked stupid questions like "How was your day/week?", "What's up?" or "What did you do today?" I course I reply with not much or my plans fell through then it is the same old few words back and forth then silence then they mingle with others. Again boring same old sitting by myself again.

Yesp. That pretty much sums up socialising for me, too. It's one reason why I don't socialise much now. It never seems to get beyond the small talk stage. I go out somewhere with my partner and some of his friends, they talk to him, but beyond 'how are you?' don't talk to me. My partner used to tell me that I need to try to join in more, but it's not that simple - I can't. So I switch off from the conversation, get very bored and feel restless and trapped and want to go home. I used to want to socialise more - well, not really socialise, more about going out and doing some thing, but not so much these days. I find other things to do that don't involve socialising, and don't get bored.

 

[Sarah S]

Life is what you make of it simple as that. Shore theres also the availability and sufficient funds to counter in. But at the end its up to us to try to do the best we can with what we got to use.

 

[NothingToSeeHere]

Like Sarah said, life is what you make of it. Being bored is a choice, there is always something interesting to do, fascinating to learn, beautiful to see! You live with all the knowledge (and all of the stupidity) of humanity at your fingertips, and an amazing world just outside your door. Even sitting alone in silence can be interesting if you learn to be fascinated by your own mind.

 

[SusanLR]

Don't need to socialise to find beauty and always learning new things is interesting.
For me depression can take away the good feelings things I like to do used to make me feel.
The enthusiasm is gone when depressed.
I've seen life from both perspectives. And it is when depression is bad that I don't want to face
getting out of bed.

 

[Wolfnox]

Philosophy can be a fun way to fight boredom. Im i really bored or is this just a quiet beginning to a new realm of possibility.

 

[Pats]

@Tony Ramirez When reading your post, I'm not reading it to be meant as an insult. I kind of agree in a good way. Maybe calm. I spent so many years in a life that didn't slow down and in situations that were far from boring and I used to pray for boring. I knew I would be happier with a boring life without the excitement and fear of what was going to happen next. I don't like the adrenaline. I was married to a con artist (which I didn't know he was a con artist until after we were married). Oh, it's an adrenaline kind of life style and was a nightmare with the moving around, name changes, fear of losing my kids that he had me convinced of. I wanted boring. And life with teenagers is never boring either. I wanted boring. I finally have it and I love it. My sister calls and I say, "Well, nothing new here to talk about." And I'm thrilled that there's nothing going on here that's going to be interesting enough to tell someone else. I like that the most excitement I had yesterday was cleaning out my fish aquarium. I like getting up and being able to keep my same ole routine and do the same things I did yesterday and the day before. And I think that is to do with the autism. I don't feel bored at all but most my days are, yes, boring. And I say 'YAY!"

 

[Creep]

I’m sorry that happened to you Tony Ramirez. I’m one of those that doesn’t get bored. Just lucky I guess.

 

[tducey]

For me it's all about going out of your element from time to time. Always something to do or somewhere to go.

 

[DogzSpirit]

Which brings up the question... why bother trying to socialize?

Really the only one I need to socialize with is my dog. Why bother with others when I have him?

Socializing works best with other quirky, off the mainstream society grid. I ran socials with that population and yes they were fun! Now I wonder how many of them were AT.

One social was a dog hike... lol... Yeah dogs are great. Watching a dog have a dream is fun. I just assisted my dog in his dream by telling him to get the cat. His little legs ran and is face became animated. The NT in the room did not appreciate my assist though (Really, must you do that. It is annoying!) Woof yes I must!