I had an upsetting conversation with my sister a few days ago that I'm wondering if other autistics have experienced. I've struggled with depression and anxiety my entire life, both rooting from autism (Asperger's) and childhood emotional neglect (I'm sure the majority of autistics who did not get the parental love and support they needed as children will understand lifelong struggles with depression and anxiety all too well). I've survived but have never thrived, as the saying goes.
My question is this: has anyone here ever had to defend themselves or "justify" their autistic tendencies/behaviors to people who don't have a clue what it's like? Have you been told to just get over it, that your struggles and symptoms are a voluntary choice, and that you're to blame if you can't "just get over it"?
I'm particularly interested in hearing from people here who have struggled with depression/anxiety. It's a terrible, embarrassing feeling when you're put on trial and told you're just making excuses. It's actually quite mind-boggling. We would never tell a cancer patient to just "get over" her symptoms. If you can't point to autism on a brain scan or see depression in a blood test, then people think it isn't real and that those of us who struggle with them are just weak, attention-seeking, and lazy.
My question is this: has anyone here ever had to defend themselves or "justify" their autistic tendencies/behaviors to people who don't have a clue what it's like? Have you been told to just get over it, that your struggles and symptoms are a voluntary choice, and that you're to blame if you can't "just get over it"?
I'm particularly interested in hearing from people here who have struggled with depression/anxiety. It's a terrible, embarrassing feeling when you're put on trial and told you're just making excuses. It's actually quite mind-boggling. We would never tell a cancer patient to just "get over" her symptoms. If you can't point to autism on a brain scan or see depression in a blood test, then people think it isn't real and that those of us who struggle with them are just weak, attention-seeking, and lazy.