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Is it worth it to have a car right now?

Dillon

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As y’all know I am 22 years old who does not have a car nor has a drivers license due to financial situations. This is something I usually do not worry about at all but I’ve been lately given that how old I am and I don’t want to wait any longer to work for a license.
The campus I’m at A&M Galveston many students there have cars and such and yet I feel so out of place that I have that need to get one. I’ve been lying which I hate doing to people lately saying I do have a license to feel like I’m like everyone else. I’ve had some people make fun of me for not having one but I don’t care.
On the other hand I have that fear at times of getting behind the wheel and something bad might happened even though I knew how to drive when I was younger practicing with my parents.
Is this something I should worry about now? When did y’all receive a license and is it a bad thing to have waited in my 20s??
 
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I started driving late. Definately get a license. It opens up a whole new range of opportunities. Don't let worry hold you back. When you learn/drive, do so defensively, don't drink and drive or drive very tired and you'll be fine.
 
I plan on working on getting a license by the end of this year hopefully if all works out. I guess I’m just worried since I see so many people younger than me already have a license and a car. I couldn’t help it since me and my family live in a tough financial situation. I don’t drink anyway so that’s the good thing.
 
I plan on working on getting a license by the end of this year hopefully if all works out. I guess I’m just worried since I see so many people younger than me already have a license and a car. I couldn’t help it since me and my family live in a tough financial situation. I don’t drink anyway so that’s the good thing.

I understand. Make your plan for the license and stick to it. The period you must wait till that happens does kinda stink, but will pass. Nothing stops time. Once you get the license you'll have made an upgrade from guys your age without licenses to guys your age without cars which is a much commoner situation. Then make a plan for a car. Once your larger family group finds out you might get a hand me down clunker. That is a common route for first cars. But even if not, 'All things come to those that wait.'
 
I got my license at 14 (North Dakota, you can get it at 14 there). My dad gave me my first car at the same time, just a hand-me-down but it suited me fine.

Suddenly, the world wasn't just as big of a distance as I could bike, or as big as the distance I could ask for a ride for, suddenly the world was as big as I could afford it to be (gas).

To celebrate that fact, I took a couple thousand mile road trip, to farther away than I had ever been on my own. I felt like I grew up that day; that that was my rite of passage, not shooting some dumb deer, not my first drink, not graduation.

I know it's probably not making you feel any better, but I would never go without a car. Thing is, I've never had a car that was under 18 years old. I've never had a car that, if it were a person, wouldn't be old enough to go to war and die for its country. Some that were too old. My current car was only about $2k after the needed repairs. It gets me about 120 miles/day to and from work just fine.

My point is that it's an attainable and worthwhile goal if it's something you want, regardless the reason. If you're at a university like that, all these people probably have shiny new cars. Screw them. Keep your expectations reasonable and you can have anything in the world that you want.
 
I got my license at 14 (North Dakota, you can get it at 14 there). My dad gave me my first car at the same time, just a hand-me-down but it suited me fine.

Suddenly, the world wasn't just as big of a distance as I could bike, or as big as the distance I could ask for a ride for, suddenly the world was as big as I could afford it to be (gas).

To celebrate that fact, I took a couple thousand mile road trip, to farther away than I had ever been on my own. I felt like I grew up that day; that that was my rite of passage, not shooting some dumb deer, not my first drink, not graduation.

I know it's probably not making you feel any better, but I would never go without a car. Thing is, I've never had a car that was under 18 years old. I've never had a car that, if it were a person, wouldn't be old enough to go to war and die for its country. Some that were too old. My current car was only about $2k after the needed repairs. It gets me about 120 miles/day to and from work just fine.

My point is that it's an attainable and worthwhile goal if it's something you want, regardless the reason. If you're at a university like that, all these people probably have shiny new cars. Screw them. Keep your expectations reasonable and you can have anything in the world that you want.
The way you put it actually helps. There’s no need to rush things due to the fact that I’m still young and have my whole life ahead of me with many opportunities.
 
As y’all know I am 22 years old who does not have a car nor has a drivers license due to financial situations. This is something I usually do not worry about at all but I’ve been lately given that how old I am and I don’t want to wait any longer to work for a license.
The campus I’m at A&M Galveston many students there have cars and such and yet I feel so out of place that I have that need to get one. I’ve been lying which I hate doing to people lately saying I do have a license to feel like I’m like everyone else. I’ve had some people make fun of me for not having one but I don’t care.
On the other hand I have that fear at times of getting behind the wheel and something bad might happened even though I knew how to drive when I was younger practicing with my parents.
Is this something I should worry about now? When did y’all receive a license and is it a bad thing to have waited in my 20s??
Life is difficult enough without piling on additional stress and worry. I got my license when I turned 18. When I was a kid, the age was 16 and I remember being the only kid in my class without having their license. It's not a bad thing at all that you're not licensed. If and when you feel ready, then pursue it. There are a lot of headaches to car ownership: mechanical breakdowns, insurance, inspection, fuel, etc. Cars are a money pit.
 
Got my license a bit "late" also, at 20. My sister at 22 still doesn't have a license or any sort of experience...OK, she does have experience, but that's an embarrassing story I'd rather not share. Point being: don't sweat it, your time will come when it's ready.

Oh yeah, I should mention first cars nearly always suck, but anything to get you started with the basics is good enough. Cash cars in particular, which is what you'll probably be driving at first, then working your way up to new or nearly new.
 
Don’t worry overmuch about what other people think about you not having a license. I’m taking driving lessons now at age 32, because I couldn’t afford lessons before now. When people try to make fun of my I just shrug it off and tell them I think using that money for my medical degree was a sound investment.
 
I got my license at 17, and I really shouldn't have. I failed the test once, and should have failed again, but the examiner took pity on me. Several dozen tickets and a few accidents later, I've worked my way up to being a mediocre driver.

I agree that it is good to have a license even if you don't have a car. But don't stress yourself out about it and don't do it if you don't feel ready. If anyone bugs you about it just say, "I'll get a license when I need one."
 
I wouldn't even worry about it, about what others think of you in this regard... There are lots of people out there (of all ages) who don't own a car, and in some cases might not even have a license...

I'm not trying to discourage you by saying that, just don't feel like you "have to" get a license and car, increasingly in our contemporary society more and more people choose not to drive...

And keep in mind that as a student all you're paying for is bus pass... The people with cars have to pay insurance, gas, oil changes, car repairs... All of that adds up to far more than a bus pass costs you...

And finally, I think it is worth getting a drivers license, but I wouldn't stress about buying a car, they give you more mobility to get around but can be a money pit as described above
 
I wouldn't even worry about it, about what others think of you in this regard... There are lots of people out there (of all ages) who don't own a car, and in some cases might not even have a license...

I'm not trying to discourage you by saying that, just don't feel like you "have to" get a license and car, increasingly in our contemporary society more and more people choose not to drive...

And keep in mind that as a student all you're paying for is bus pass... The people with cars have to pay insurance, gas, oil changes, car repairs... All of that adds up to far more than a bus pass costs you...

And finally, I think it is worth getting a drivers license, but I wouldn't stress about buying a car, they give you more mobility to get around but can be a money pit as described above
Nah it’s not discouraging at all. It’s just that I worry about that kind of thing cause not having everything like every “normal” person makes me feel left out....however I don’t want to go through the trouble in paying for gas that’s getting so expensive now and doing this and that to a car for now. So a license is what I may work on eventually or when I’m ready and a car wait until I feel ready as well. Things will come when the time is right.
 
Nah it’s not discouraging at all. It’s just that I worry about that kind of thing cause not having everything like every “normal” person makes me feel left out....however I don’t want to go through the trouble in paying for gas that’s getting so expensive now and doing this and that to a car for now. So a license is what I may work on eventually or when I’m ready and a car wait until I feel ready as well. Things will come when the time is right.

Lots of "normal" people don't own cars, in everyday society and at school, everyone has a story if you ask around a little... And might I add, those students with cars are probably paying big bucks just to park on campus... ;)
 
Lots of "normal" people don't own cars, in everyday society and at school, everyone has a story if you ask around a little... And might I add, those students with cars are probably paying big bucks just to park on campus... ;)
Yep, about $200 for a parking permit for a semester.
And yeah I know, I wasn’t thinking when I phrased the word “normal” just then.
 
I don't know what it's like in your country, but in the UK where public transport is an absolute joke, if you don't have a car you're like a 2nd class citizen that has restricted employment opportunities simply because without one you can't reliably get to many places of employment within a reasonable time at the times expected. If you for instance wanted to attend many events or perhaps even join a club that aren't local you'd be forced to look for expensive hotel accommodation after travelling for hours without the option of travelling when you want to, when a car journey would often be a relatively quick trip. Without a car you lose a huge amount of freedom and convenience, you are left very restricted, what would be just a quick trip somewhere without even thinking about it can become a very long winded chore and something you have to plan out with public transport and that's if it's even possible at the time you wish to travel with the place you wish to go. Even visiting the local supermarket that's about a mile away is horrible without a car because I can only carry so much shopping and it's unpleasant carrying heavy bags back making expensive taxis often a better option, although at least many supermarkets are now offering delivery options these days which is an improvement. Finally expect some drivers, even family or close friends to be really awkward about driving you anywhere if you really need it, they will often hoard their vehicle knowing you have no other way to get somewhere and could even blackmail you to pamper to their whims for them to drive you, you really can be treated like a 2nd class citizen without a car.

If you don't believe public transport is a joke in the UK, then try to travel at say 2am in the morning anywhere, you can't because public transport doesn't exist, or even try catching a train at 8am on a Sunday morning, again they don't exist. Even during the day, try to travel anywhere fairly remote in the countryside more than a few miles from a reasonable sized town, you can't without an expensive taxi which is defeating the object. Unless you are travelling from large city to city you will need to change and your journey can take multiple times what it would take in a car, it's also very unreliable and uncomfortable travelling with total strangers to busy places, especially for many autistic people. Even the price of public transport is very poor in the UK where we have one of the most unreliable and yet most expensive train networks.

Unfortunately the costs of owning a car are ridiculous in the UK at least, especially insurance which is utterly scandalous, especially for younger new drivers, even though insurance has risen over the years much MUCH MUCH MUCH higher than inflation, literally tripling the cost multiple times over the last 20 years and that it's cost is often extremely unfair, E.g. punishing people who are unfortunate victims of crime or even if you happen to live in what is considered a bad area (extreme prejudice), while allowing some people who are very bad drivers to protect their no claims bonus, the only noticeable regulation has been to further punish and catch people who attempt to drive without it, E.g. the police now take an uninsured vehicle off the road immediately leaving the driver and any passengers stranded at the roadside and if they don't pay the huge fine within a certain time, the car will be crushed, plus the driver always gets penalty points on their licence that greatly increases their insurance cost even more making affording it even more impossible (too many points causes a licence ban and court appearance, new drivers now only have to get 6 points for a ban instead of 12 which means they can lose their licence instantly since you get 6 points just for driving without insurance, then try getting insurance after a ban, it will be astronomical on top of astronomical), then there's now traffic cameras that automatically read registrations in most police cars, alerting officers straight away to pull the vehicle over without insurance. Also petrol (AKA. gas in the USA) is now also ridiculously high where most of the cost is government tax and I understand it's MUCH cheaper in the USA although average distances are much larger in a much larger country. Even car repairs and costs have gone up much higher than inflation over the years making them astronomically expensive, especially if you are unable to repair and service the vehicle yourself, then it's hard to find a reputable trustworthy garage that won't try to rip you off with a poor service where at least half of it's not done and/or trying to charging you for repairs that weren't needed or sometimes even done.

Unfortunately I don't have an option to drive any more because I have sleep apnea and I'm not responding to treatment, but since I haven't driven for years I wouldn't be-able to afford the ridiculous price of insurance anyway because even though I'm an extremely experienced driver who drove for 20 years without a single accident I'd be severely punished by insurance companies for not staying a continuous customer where I'd be treated and charged MUCH more like a new driver again at crazy rates that would literally cost much more than an average used vehicle just for 1 year just for 3rd party fire and theft, E.g. £3,000 a year for a £1,000 value small car if you're lucky and it can be even more, especially for younger drivers, that is how ridiculous it's become in the UK, but someone who has had accidents that they caused by bad driving, but protected their no claims bonus could be paying just £500 a year, how fair is that?

It is possible that things could change in the long term future when driverless cars virtually completely take over which I believe they will eventually, then we're likely to see a lot less car owners and much cheaper taxi rates or we could even see even cheaper computer controlled and driven mini busses that replace a lot of local public transport to take people to where they really want to go, probably within zones that would overlap, but at 48 years old with various health conditions I'm not likely reap the benefit of it, well not in this lifetime anyway.
 
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The transportation system here is ok not the greatest. I never go on buses anymore since I find how filthy they are sometimes and observing some sketchy people which creep me out. Taxi services such as Uber which loves to over charge you more than what you have in your pocket I’ve never used a taxi I don’t want to spend a lot of money since they are getting expensive now. It is better to carpool with someone that you know especially in my case since I don’t have the thousands of dollars for a car. I will be honest I’ve seen many people in my country who would rather walk or ride a bike since the cost transportation services are going up and gas is getting up to $3.00 a gallon, even in California which gas is close to $4.50 a gallon I could be wrong on that part? Insurance is expensive amongst other things for an actual car itself.
 
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I'm 35 and don't have my license and probably won't get it. Of all the things with my Autism it's the worst to not have my license.
 
The transportation system here is ok not the greatest. I never go on buses anymore since I find how filthy they are sometimes and observing some sketchy people which creep me out. Taxi services such as Uber which loves to over charge you more than what you have in your pocket I’ve never used a taxi I don’t want to spend a lot of money since they are getting expensive now. It is better to carpool with someone that you know especially in my case since I don’t have the thousands of dollars for a car. I will be honest I’ve seen many people in my country who would rather walk or ride a bike since the cost transportation services are going up and gas is getting up to $3.00 a gallon, even in California which gas is close to $4.50 a gallon I could be wrong on that part? Insurance is expensive amongst other things for an actual car itself.
Car sharing in the UK is awful unless you happen to know personally someone who is willing to do it and it sounds like you're lucky in that respect, although many people don't have that luxury.

If you don't know anyone you are forced to attempt to use car sharing systems online. For a start it's in my opinion not much safer than hitch hiking because you'd be at first travelling with a total stranger and you don't know if they're a dangerous driver or even a dangerous person, although it's slightly better with a reputation system, everyone including passengers (riders) have to start with no reputation what-so-ever and they're only a guide, for instance who knows whether a person that is usually pleasant doesn't have a dangerous streak or temper that can suddenly change them. As a passenger you are extremely restricted and you are the one begging with a lot more people wanting vehicles than providing them, the drivers are definitely the kings and queens of the system who lay out their rules if they judge you worthy of their help based on their criteria whether it's fair and non prejudiced or not. You'd have to be extremely lucky to have someone travel at a time you want to the place you require, unless you wanted to travel from major city to city, then the very best you'd be likely to ever get would be a city in the direction you wanted to travel if you were extremely lucky and even then you'd usually be forced to travel at a time that isn't convenient to yourself, then you'd have to be even luckier to be-able to get back when you want to, plus you'd be trusting a stranger to pick you up again and not leave you stranded many miles from home. Even if you saw a trip you wanted you have to be lucky to be accepted and if you are new with no reputation it would be extremely difficult to get off the mark because no-one would trust you.

The system is simply not feasible for most people even on the more popular car sharing systems and it's even worse for many autistic people and/or vulnerable adults. If the driver didn't get on or understand an autistic person they could find themselves with a poor reputation that would make them untouchable or worse stranded when the driver dumps them or decides not to pick them up again for the return trip. A vulnerable person could even end up taken advantage of, E.g. if you want to get home you will need to pay me the increased rate of £100 to travel 50 miles when it's too late to get public transport for instance, that's just one thing that could go wrong. Then remember that you'd often be sharing the car with other strangers too that you also might not get on well with and you have no say who they are, only the driver "the king" or "queen" decides.

PS: On average it's now £1.19 per litre for petrol (AKA. "gas" in the USA) in the UK and that is relatively cheap at the moment, it's been over £1.30 and is likely to go back up again and beyond, when I started driving just over 30 years ago it used to cost around £1.60 per gallon which is just 35 pence (£0.35) per litre and people thought that was expensive. There's 4.54609 litres in a gallon, so that's £5.41 per gallon, with the current exchange rate that's $7.26 which is a lot more than double $3.00 which you said it's going up to in your country and it's still a lot more than even in California where you said it costs $4.50. Obviously this also makes taxis very expensive in the UK. When I started driving at 17 years old my insurance cost me £160 per year for a 1.3 Vauxhall Chevette with third party fire and theft, for similar now it would cost something like £4000 at that age which is close to 10 times the cost it should be under normal inflation (I've checked). No wonder people often say "Rip of Britain".

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Car pool opportunities in the UK are awful unless you happen to know someone who is willing to do it. For a start it's in my opinion not much safer than hitch hiking because you'd be at first travelling with a total stranger and you don't know if they're a dangerous driver or even a dangerous person, although it's slightly better with a reputation system, everyone including passengers have to start with no reputation what-so-ever. As a passenger you are extremely restricted and you are the one begging with a lot more people wanting vehicles than providing them. You'd have to be extremely lucky to have someone travel at a time you want to the place you want, the best you'd be likely to get would be a city in the direction you want to travel and even then you'd usually be forced to travel at a time that isn't convenient to yourself, then you'd have to be even luckier to be-able to get back when you want to, then you'd be trusting a stranger to pick you up again and not leave you stranded many miles from home. Even if you saw a trip you wanted you have to be lucky to be accepted and if you are new with no reputation it would be extremely difficult to get off the mark because no-one would trust you.

The system is simply not feasible for most people even on the more popular car sharing systems and it's even worse for many autistic people, if the driver didn't get on or understand them they could find themselves with a poor reputations or worse stranded when the driver dumps them or decides not to pick them up again for the return trip.
It’s illegal in here some places to hitch hike if I’m not mistaking but some people still do it and that’s when at times you hear of kidnappings or assaults when driving with a total stranger.
And it’s the same here you have to really know someone for you to carpool with me or else your on your own finding an expensive route to take. The thing I don’t like how some people are here is people who are high school and early college age range you have to be just like them, go by how everyone else is in society to be able to carpool or feel accepted. For example I joined a church group and met 4 other people and I thought I was good friends with em but they ditched me when they went it to grab a bite to eat, this was about 3 months ago. Now why is that well cause I didn’t have a car and wasn’t playing by societies standards. You get what I mean. people can be cruel.
 
It’s illegal in here some places to hitch hike if I’m not mistaking but some people still do it and that’s when at times you hear of kidnappings or assaults when driving with a total stranger.
And it’s the same here you have to really know someone for you to carpool with me or else your on your own finding an expensive route to take. The thing I don’t like how some people are here is people who are high school and early college age range you have to be just like them, go by how everyone else is in society to be able to carpool or feel accepted. For example I joined a church group and met 4 other people and I thought I was good friends with em but they ditched me when they went it to grab a bite to eat, this was about 3 months ago. Now why is that well cause I didn’t have a car and wasn’t playing by societies standards. You get what I mean. people can be cruel.
It is legal to hitch hike in the UK as long as it's not somewhere where pedestrians aren't allowed to go, E.g. the motorway, but I wouldn't recommend it:

United Kingdom - Hitchwiki: the Hitchhiker's guide to Hitchhiking

Occasionally you used to see workers that carried special registered plates they used to hold up on the entrance to a motorway so potential drivers knew they were more likely to be "safe", some jobs involved one way trips and they expected them to get back on their own, I'm not sure they exist any more, it could be banned because the employer is putting their employee at risk.
 

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