The Phantom
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Before I realized I'm probably on the spectrum I have always been extremely irritated by these things. Could someone please tell me if these are possibly autistic/spectrum traits or at least make sense according to Aspergers?
- Counting out loud. When I was younger people would start counting down for me to hurry up, and it got me mad beyond belief. I would yell and clench. I remember when I was playing a game with some friends (well, one friend and her other friends) in the pool, they started to count as part of the game. When it was my turn, I asked them "Could you please not do that? It makes me kinda mad." and then they continued to do it, but this time laughing with more intent to p!ss me off. That just caused a rampage lol.
-Snapping (when signifying ot hurry up or do something, not jazz snapping or humorous stuff because I love that lol.)
When I'm hurrying to do something someone told me to do (like rush to the bus, or find something quickly) and someone (usually my dad) starts snapping it makes me really upset and annoyed. It's usually in groups of two snaps, which indicate to hurry up, which makes me really mad.
-Other people laughing when I'm not happy. Ok, this seems less spectrum-y, I know, but i think tis't he reaction or internal thought which I think it worth mentioning.
An example. My mom told me that I had something in my nose, and I was already angry (and I'm very self-conscious about how I look), and she starting laughing, but like she thought it was the funniest thing in the world, like her face became redder and she got tears. I got really upset, I wanted to scream and also cry at the same time.
Also, I have a maid, and when she's being stubborn and not doing something for the hell of not doing something, or being lazy, I sometimes yell at her (I know, I'm working on it) and she just laughs liek it's hilarious, which makes me really upset, like she doesn't take me seriously.
- repeating phrases without giving me enough 'time', just not leaving me alone. Let me explain. A common scenario is when I wake up in the morning for school. I usually wake up by myself, but since my parents are out of town my maid has been waking me up (even when I oppose) She calls my name for me to wake up (when it's too early) and I tell her ok, 2 minutes, and then 30 seconds she'll say it again, even when I tell her to shut up (of course I don't say that, I say something nicer obviously lol). Also, when she wakes me up too late, I ask her to wake me up earlier (I can't win) and then she says "wake up earlier", even when it's her job and she wakes me up too early, and I get mad haha. But anyway. She'll tell me I'm going to miss the bus (earlier than my usual time of heading down), even when I inform her numerous times that I have never missed the bus this year and I know when to go down, and she'll say it more than once and it irritates me to no end. Same when I'm putting on my shoes and she says "Faster" several times, even when my speed hasn't failed me before and I wouldn't have missed the bus anyway. I tell her SO many times to stop saying those things, but she so stubborn she'll never listen.
Another example, is when my mom kicks me off the computer (lol) and yells at me to do something related to school or just on my to-do list, she'll first say she told me to do it before (even when she hasn't, so many things if I do something wrong she'll say she told me, even if she didn't). She'll say "did you do this? and I'll be like "no, I'll do that now" and then she'll say another thing I didn't do when I'm trying to do the other thing, and it just continues in a vicious cycle, and she'll just continue to yell about anew thing. At some points I can't take it and I'll scream back and say that she's telling me too much at a time, but then she'll say "What is it that's so much to do, huh? Tell me." really calmly but angrily and I am clenching just thinking about it.
Also, small talk. I am frien swith this EXTREMELY chatty girl (don't get me wrong, I'm chatty too on selective subjects), who sits next to me on the bus (I do it to be ncie, also I look like a loser by myself) and I'll just lean against the window and relax after a long day a school (I'm chattier on the morning ride to school, but not by a lot), but then she'll ask me something like "How was your day?", and I'll be like "Good" and gesture to the fact I clearly do not want to be bothered (in the nicest way possibly lol) and sthen she'll say something like "Would you rather have a fountain of chocolate, or a candy bar that grows each time you take a bite?" I'll think she question is annoying, answer it, state why I'd rather have the fountain (ever-growing candy bars would tempt me to finish it and suck me into a cycle of never-ending weight gain) but then she'll try and ask why, and tlak about how a candy bar would be awesome, and I'll say "Please, this is kinda overwhelming me, I'm really tired) but she won't stop. She'll say that she would love to time travel and fix up all the wrong doings in the world, and I'd politely try to convince her that changing events of the past is not a good idea, simply because it would mess up the flow of things, and how she or her loved ones might now even exits, but then she'd say she wouldn't care and just continue to exists through time-travel and right the events of the past, and at this poitn I" done being politley and would point out the absurdity of her not caring about her loved ones not existing, and how she wouldn't still exists through time travel, because haven't you seen the latest Shrek movie? and that no, just because Doctor Who manages to make everything work out in the end (her words, not mine) that it doesn't mean she will, and that the whole lesson of time-travelling stories (at least a lot) is that itsn' not as easy as it's cracked out to be. i would then tell her trying to argue with her is stressing me out, and could she please maybe just dropnit, but then she'd ask why it bothers me and it goes on. A side note: when I get involved in an argument over even petty things I go hardcore for no reason so I usually just drop it before I get too invested so I can cure myself of my 'I have to be right' syndrome.
Well anyway, those are just some things I wanted to mention because I'm curious.
Thoughts?
- Counting out loud. When I was younger people would start counting down for me to hurry up, and it got me mad beyond belief. I would yell and clench. I remember when I was playing a game with some friends (well, one friend and her other friends) in the pool, they started to count as part of the game. When it was my turn, I asked them "Could you please not do that? It makes me kinda mad." and then they continued to do it, but this time laughing with more intent to p!ss me off. That just caused a rampage lol.
-Snapping (when signifying ot hurry up or do something, not jazz snapping or humorous stuff because I love that lol.)
When I'm hurrying to do something someone told me to do (like rush to the bus, or find something quickly) and someone (usually my dad) starts snapping it makes me really upset and annoyed. It's usually in groups of two snaps, which indicate to hurry up, which makes me really mad.
-Other people laughing when I'm not happy. Ok, this seems less spectrum-y, I know, but i think tis't he reaction or internal thought which I think it worth mentioning.
An example. My mom told me that I had something in my nose, and I was already angry (and I'm very self-conscious about how I look), and she starting laughing, but like she thought it was the funniest thing in the world, like her face became redder and she got tears. I got really upset, I wanted to scream and also cry at the same time.
Also, I have a maid, and when she's being stubborn and not doing something for the hell of not doing something, or being lazy, I sometimes yell at her (I know, I'm working on it) and she just laughs liek it's hilarious, which makes me really upset, like she doesn't take me seriously.
- repeating phrases without giving me enough 'time', just not leaving me alone. Let me explain. A common scenario is when I wake up in the morning for school. I usually wake up by myself, but since my parents are out of town my maid has been waking me up (even when I oppose) She calls my name for me to wake up (when it's too early) and I tell her ok, 2 minutes, and then 30 seconds she'll say it again, even when I tell her to shut up (of course I don't say that, I say something nicer obviously lol). Also, when she wakes me up too late, I ask her to wake me up earlier (I can't win) and then she says "wake up earlier", even when it's her job and she wakes me up too early, and I get mad haha. But anyway. She'll tell me I'm going to miss the bus (earlier than my usual time of heading down), even when I inform her numerous times that I have never missed the bus this year and I know when to go down, and she'll say it more than once and it irritates me to no end. Same when I'm putting on my shoes and she says "Faster" several times, even when my speed hasn't failed me before and I wouldn't have missed the bus anyway. I tell her SO many times to stop saying those things, but she so stubborn she'll never listen.
Another example, is when my mom kicks me off the computer (lol) and yells at me to do something related to school or just on my to-do list, she'll first say she told me to do it before (even when she hasn't, so many things if I do something wrong she'll say she told me, even if she didn't). She'll say "did you do this? and I'll be like "no, I'll do that now" and then she'll say another thing I didn't do when I'm trying to do the other thing, and it just continues in a vicious cycle, and she'll just continue to yell about anew thing. At some points I can't take it and I'll scream back and say that she's telling me too much at a time, but then she'll say "What is it that's so much to do, huh? Tell me." really calmly but angrily and I am clenching just thinking about it.
Also, small talk. I am frien swith this EXTREMELY chatty girl (don't get me wrong, I'm chatty too on selective subjects), who sits next to me on the bus (I do it to be ncie, also I look like a loser by myself) and I'll just lean against the window and relax after a long day a school (I'm chattier on the morning ride to school, but not by a lot), but then she'll ask me something like "How was your day?", and I'll be like "Good" and gesture to the fact I clearly do not want to be bothered (in the nicest way possibly lol) and sthen she'll say something like "Would you rather have a fountain of chocolate, or a candy bar that grows each time you take a bite?" I'll think she question is annoying, answer it, state why I'd rather have the fountain (ever-growing candy bars would tempt me to finish it and suck me into a cycle of never-ending weight gain) but then she'll try and ask why, and tlak about how a candy bar would be awesome, and I'll say "Please, this is kinda overwhelming me, I'm really tired) but she won't stop. She'll say that she would love to time travel and fix up all the wrong doings in the world, and I'd politely try to convince her that changing events of the past is not a good idea, simply because it would mess up the flow of things, and how she or her loved ones might now even exits, but then she'd say she wouldn't care and just continue to exists through time-travel and right the events of the past, and at this poitn I" done being politley and would point out the absurdity of her not caring about her loved ones not existing, and how she wouldn't still exists through time travel, because haven't you seen the latest Shrek movie? and that no, just because Doctor Who manages to make everything work out in the end (her words, not mine) that it doesn't mean she will, and that the whole lesson of time-travelling stories (at least a lot) is that itsn' not as easy as it's cracked out to be. i would then tell her trying to argue with her is stressing me out, and could she please maybe just dropnit, but then she'd ask why it bothers me and it goes on. A side note: when I get involved in an argument over even petty things I go hardcore for no reason so I usually just drop it before I get too invested so I can cure myself of my 'I have to be right' syndrome.
Well anyway, those are just some things I wanted to mention because I'm curious.
Thoughts?
