I went to a lecture for work today at an auditorium that I frequently go to for these types of events. I record these lectures so that I can quote the the lecturers properly when I write an event wrap-up story. I have found a seat in this auditorium that is not only ideal for recording (it's right underneath a ceiling loudspeaker) but is in the back row so that I don’t have to interact with people. I got there early so that my usual seat would still be available, but someone had already taken it. I hesitated, but went ahead and sat two seats away from her that was still close enough to the loudspeaker to get a good recording. She asked me, “may I help you?” I wasn’t sure what to say, but I explained that I needed to be near the speaker. She asked, “isn’t there another speaker somewhere else?” I then realized that she felt she had the right to not only be by herself but to keep others away from that area even though it was a public lecture. I said, “Well, you’re sitting in my seat,” and smiled. She replied that she always sat there, too. I further explained that this was the best place in the room to record. I then asked, “would you like me to sit somewhere else?” Even though I offered to do that, I still wasn’t sure if I was going to move, even if she said yes. Frankly, I was a bit annoyed that she was being so territorial. Thankfully, she said no. When I started setting up my recording equipment, she asked me about it and then I learned that she was the closed-captioning transcriptionist for the event. When I replied, “oh, that's cool,” the tension between us finally subsided. I offered to email her the recording if she wanted to check her transcription for accuracy but she declined.
I probably violated some NT unwritten rule that I didn't know about by walking right up and sitting down two seats away from her. Fortunately, it didn’t end up being a big deal. I even thanked her at the end for letting me sit in “her” space. She laughed and said, “oh, sure.”
Anyway, I think I learned a lesson about open public seating: Even if it is a public event with general seating, before you sit down, at least introduce yourself and explain why you have invaded "their" space. If I didn’t need to record, I probably would have just apologized and sat somewhere else.
Has this kind of situation ever happened to you? If so, how do you handle it?
I probably violated some NT unwritten rule that I didn't know about by walking right up and sitting down two seats away from her. Fortunately, it didn’t end up being a big deal. I even thanked her at the end for letting me sit in “her” space. She laughed and said, “oh, sure.”
Anyway, I think I learned a lesson about open public seating: Even if it is a public event with general seating, before you sit down, at least introduce yourself and explain why you have invaded "their" space. If I didn’t need to record, I probably would have just apologized and sat somewhere else.
Has this kind of situation ever happened to you? If so, how do you handle it?