Recently my friend has taken the Myers Briggs and said he's an INTJ. He is a classic INTJ as a matter of fact and it explained a lot of what I found puzzling about him. But he also has heightened sensory issues with sound and smell and has some social difficulties, e.g. he is totally unable to tell when someone is flirting with him, sometimes seems confused by sarcasm but also uses it sometimes and I think he has difficulty developing trust & closeness with others. He admits he doesn't really understand feelings and has difficulty expressing them (in a very INTJ way). He also won't talk on the phone with me and has said it is very hard for him to tolerate more than a very limited amount of interaction with others each day. He's very into computer games (how we met), Magic the Gathering and some other interests. He has had 4 relationships with women in the past. He's highly functioning and extremely intelligent. He's stated he has always felt like an outcast or alien because others don't understand him. He has never mentioned meltdowns and I haven't asked him. He has been consistent in maintaining contact (via chat only) with me over a period of 29 months and has, I believe without a doubt, been totally honest with me.
I joined this forum to better understand him because I really care about him very much. He's now said that he is happy to meet others who think like him (other INTJs) and has joined a group on the internet. I'm thrilled for him. But since he has never been diagnosed with ASD, I'm now wondering if I've totally misinterpreted what I know about him. Any comments? I don't want to be an imposter here- if you all feel he's not likely also got ASD then I feel like I should leave the forum even though I love talking with all of you.
I joined this forum to better understand him because I really care about him very much. He's now said that he is happy to meet others who think like him (other INTJs) and has joined a group on the internet. I'm thrilled for him. But since he has never been diagnosed with ASD, I'm now wondering if I've totally misinterpreted what I know about him. Any comments? I don't want to be an imposter here- if you all feel he's not likely also got ASD then I feel like I should leave the forum even though I love talking with all of you.