Interesting Situation

[AutistAcolyte]

I'm in a situation I've never been in! Or at least if I have been I didn't notice...
A friend of mine who is currently working on her post-doctorate came back to stay in Los Angeles for a bit and asked me to come get drinks with her, which we've done before. I didn't realize it, but she told me that this was the second time she's asked me out, and both times she had told me "I was just in the area" or something like that but actually wasn't, she just drove across town to come get drinks. She told me that when we first met she was really attracted to me, but when she found out that she's like 7 years older than I am (we met when I was 24) she thought it was kind of a big age gap. 24/33 is pretty different, but now we're 28/35 and it seems more reasonable. I think she's cool and I enjoy spending time with her, now I guess it's just a matter of returning the favor and asking her out.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

Excellent news. Good luck!

 

[Stuttermabolur]

My mother had a boyfriend 11 years her junior when she was 30 (and I 10), so 28/35 seems downright typical to me.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Good luck. It sounds like there is a good connection there. I have friends where the wife is 10 years older than the husband, and they make things work. A delightful couple.

 

[Judge]

"Go for it." - Sylvester Stallone, -"Rocky" 1976.

I also once had a girlfriend who was seven years older than I was. It happens.

 

[GypsyMoth]

My grandmother was, I think, 7 years older than my grandfather.

 

[Richelle-H]

Age is not something that I ever paid attention to with adults. It is how one matches up with another emotionally, intellectually, and the interests you share that matter most. If you do not share anything but a physical attraction a relationship has no chance of surviving. Looks generally fade much faster than the intangibles (already mentioned).

My spouse is 11 years younger than I am and we have been wed for over 38 years. This, even though we are not completely compatible and friction does occur, but that is life and everyone must deal with the rough patches that come along at times when any two people interact on a regular basis. That is just being human.

It is all about being open to possibilities and not saying NO because of some artificial construct that acts as an overlay to perception, creating artificial roadblocks in one's head.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Neither she nor you are robbing the cradle, give it a shot.