Yesterday, I had a very nice time bowling and sharing a pizza with the boy I am a big brother to. Dropping him off at home he did not want to leave immediately and instead wanted to talk. Of course I listened. He said that sometimes he does not feel normal Because of his feelings towards an anime character. He exhibits moe so we talked about that. I told him that it is understandable and the positive about that is he shows the ability to feel such attachment. There is nothing wrong and many, like me, go through that.
He is a very kind boy and known by people working at the entertainment center where we bowled, I said that he is very likable. He is pretty isolated, though, and I remember my moe towards fictional characters and the way I used that as a way of avoiding real connection with girls. I think such ideation restricted my social growth and I worry about that with my little brother. He does have career goals and his father has been taking him to engineering and service firms to feed his interests.
So, instead of being able to talk a lot about the social, I discussed how he is developing as a high value young man, with him developing his goals and in some other ways, his boundaries, and how his father's care for him is demonstrating how a high value man acts. I told him that in him I see a high value man in the making and to not believe otherwise about himself.
I went on to discuss his kindness and friendliness, his potential, and how he attracts nice people who like him, and despite how he feels about fictional characters now, when his attention eventually turns to connecting with girls, he has the characteristics that will make him a desirable friend.
Am I handling things well, or are there other issues I should be cognizant about? How do I go from this to ensuring that he has confidence in himself?
He is a very kind boy and known by people working at the entertainment center where we bowled, I said that he is very likable. He is pretty isolated, though, and I remember my moe towards fictional characters and the way I used that as a way of avoiding real connection with girls. I think such ideation restricted my social growth and I worry about that with my little brother. He does have career goals and his father has been taking him to engineering and service firms to feed his interests.
So, instead of being able to talk a lot about the social, I discussed how he is developing as a high value young man, with him developing his goals and in some other ways, his boundaries, and how his father's care for him is demonstrating how a high value man acts. I told him that in him I see a high value man in the making and to not believe otherwise about himself.
I went on to discuss his kindness and friendliness, his potential, and how he attracts nice people who like him, and despite how he feels about fictional characters now, when his attention eventually turns to connecting with girls, he has the characteristics that will make him a desirable friend.
Am I handling things well, or are there other issues I should be cognizant about? How do I go from this to ensuring that he has confidence in himself?
