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Im bisexual but i cant tell anyone

Annaa

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I like girls and boys, I wouldn't mind dating either but I literally can't tell anyone.
Most of my friends are homophobic, my mother is a believing Muslim so she'd never accept me.
I want girls and I want to tell other girls that I'm also for the girls but I don't know how.
I don't wanna pretend to be straight but I also don't wanna be hated
 
If you live in western country finding a girl shouldn't be a problem. All you have to do is to go to a gay bar. There are bars for male and female homosexuals in every major city.
 
@Annaa,
What you describe sounds like a really tough situation, and I'm sorry to hear about how you are feeling. Can you identify any friends that might be understanding? Is there anyone you know that might be gay or bisexual, too? I'm thinking that it would be useful for you to have someone in your life to talk to about these things. Does your school have any resources like a guidance counselor or a school therapist that you could talk about this with?

This doesn't do much good now, but I would imagine that as you get older you will have more opportunities to be yourself and find people to have romantic relationships with.

Here's a few online resources that you may be able to utilize. I think at this stage it is really important for you to continue to discover who you are and develop a sense of confidence and pride in that. You deserve to be whatever you want to be and I think with the right knowledge, support, and patience you will be able to live your life as you like. 🌈

LGBT National Youth Talk Line

Info and Resources for LBGTQ+ Teens and Allies

The Trevor Project
 
You are young, you are discovering yourself. l had a daughter that decided she didn't want to be a female. Then around her twenties, her views shifted. So you are still forming your opinions. Give yourself sometime to discover who you are. Thank you for coming here to discuss a very personal matter. That shows a lot of maturity on your part.
 
If you live in western country finding a girl shouldn't be a problem. All you have to do is to go to a gay bar. There are bars for male and female homosexuals in every major city.
Thank you but I am still a minor ill definitely go to one once I'm an adult though thank you :)
 
@Annaa,
What you describe sounds like a really tough situation, and I'm sorry to hear about how you are feeling. Can you identify any friends that might be understanding? Is there anyone you know that might be gay or bisexual, too? I'm thinking that it would be useful for you to have someone in your life to talk to about these things. Does your school have any resources like a guidance counselor or a school therapist that you could talk about this with?

This doesn't do much good now, but I would imagine that as you get older you will have more opportunities to be yourself and find people to have romantic relationships with.

Here's a few online resources that you may be able to utilize. I think at this stage it is really important for you to continue to discover who you are and develop a sense of confidence and pride in that. You deserve to be whatever you want to be and I think with the right knowledge, support, and patience you will be able to live your life as you like. 🌈

LGBT National Youth Talk Line

Info and Resources for LBGTQ+ Teens and Allies

The Trevor Project
Thank you so much really, I'm still definitely a little ashamed of my own identity to be honest, mostly because of all the religious predijudice (I don't know how to write that word) I grew up with but I'll try to accept myself and I really hope to one day be able to be as brave and confident with my identity as all the other lgbtq+ people.
 
You are young, you are discovering yourself. l had a daughter that decided she didn't want to be a female. Then around her twenties, her views shifted. So you are still forming your opinions. Give yourself sometime to discover who you are. Thank you for coming here to discuss a very personal matter. That shows a lot of maturity on your part.
Thank youuuu
 
Thank you so much really, I'm still definitely a little ashamed of my own identity to be honest, mostly because of all the religious predijudice (I don't know how to write that word) I grew up with but I'll try to accept myself and I really hope to one day be able to be as brave and confident with my identity as all the other lgbtq+ people.
"Prejudice" is the English of it.

Here is a little something. You are 16, and it's all right not to have everything figured out at 16--good to learn lots of things, like how to bank and work and study, but as for the identity stuff, that comes with time and years.

I am 26 and still haven't figured it all out. I found out I'm asexual. That is quite all right and doesn't make me any less of a man (the fact that I question my gender might be more of the problem there, but I digress. from the subject.)

Religions are often very complicated on the LGBT+ subject. Yet throughout history they often end up a haven for LGBTQ people.
 
I like girls and boys, I wouldn't mind dating either but I literally can't tell anyone.
Most of my friends are homophobic, my mother is a believing Muslim so she'd never accept me.
I want girls and I want to tell other girls that I'm also for the girls but I don't know how.
I don't wanna pretend to be straight but I also don't wanna be hated

i feel for you,i can almost imagine being in your position where people amongst my friends are homophobic & they wouldn't accept me.
 
I am 26 and still haven't figured it all out. I found out I'm asexual. That is quite all right and doesn't make me any less of a man (the fact that I question my gender might be more of the problem there, but I digress. from the subject.)
I would say that the social idea of 'being a man' is the problem, not you!
The whole concept in many cases can be pretty toxic, with numerous different conflicting definitions, and of course, if one is a 'real man' then one may use force to apply your definition of what a man is!

Thank you so much really, I'm still definitely a little ashamed of my own identity to be honest, mostly because of all the religious predijudice (I don't know how to write that word) I grew up with but I'll try to accept myself and I really hope to one day be able to be as brave and confident with my identity as all the other lgbtq+ people.
You sound pretty mature from your posts, and insightful too. You may lack experience due to your age (and situation, but in more complex ways) but the measure of a person is how they use what experience that have gained up to that point.
I agree very much with the above suggestions about experience being a necessary factor in coming to understand yourself and that's frustrating in that it also means time in itself is needed, but you appear to be making the most of what you have, while also having the maturity to understand the complex social and family issues around minority groups.

Personally I'd advocate minimalism on your part (don't make big changes impulsively), not knowing you or your situation in any finer detail. Primarily because these things can become burnt bridges in relationships, most especially family I'd guess, and rebuilding them can be hard even impossible in the worst cases.
On my part I learnt not only did my own opinions change with time as I became more experienced, but also I myself changed too. Probably one of the most valuable things I learned was that whatever the situation, tomorrow things could be completely different, one way or another.
 

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