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I started talking to someone

Mattymatt

Imperfectly Perfect
I don't really know why I decided to join Plenty of Fish but I decided to do it about a week and half ago. At first I was amused by the number of clearly spam replies intended to bait someone into visiting (and paying for) a porn site. Perhaps I just figured I would see what is out there because I would like some companionship and some fun. I don't know if this is a good idea given my present state of well-being and employment but I won't get better if I don't keep trying and this I know all too well.

About 2 days ago, I got a message from someone who seems like a really good person and I think I'd like to see where this might go. She is a little young for me at 35 and I am 41. Typically, I've always gone out with women older than me and she's not really my type; conversely, this might be a good thing. I've always had a type that I've been attracted to: successful, well-educated, attractive, and highly (in the classic form) intelligent. And this type has always caused me to crash land. Maybe if I don't repeat my unhealthy pattern, something good will come.

Her emails are really kind, caring, and even a little flattering. In some ways I am scared about putting my heart out there potentially to be broken but this is a person who is altogether different than my classic potential mate. She understands hard times and struggle which I think ultimately makes for a better connection for me. She is basically a young, single mother of a 6 year old daughter which is not an easy thing to do at all.
 
Welcome to my world!

I’m not going to lie, it’s not been easy. I’ve been faced with a lot more challenges than I imagined!

If it’s long term you’re looking for, then personally I think kindness is the most important (so long as it’s genuine), what’s more important than someone who’s more likely to treat you well?

Also POF isn’t the best website out there. I’d recommend OKC

Good luck
 
Welcome to my world!

I’m not going to lie, it’s not been easy. I’ve been faced with a lot more challenges than I imagined!

If it’s long term you’re looking for, then personally I think kindness is the most important (so long as it’s genuine), what’s more important than someone who’s more likely to treat you well?

Also POF isn’t the best website out there. I’d recommend OKC

Good luck
Honestly OKC and PoF suck equally. It's luck of the draw. Thanks for the well wishes. I'm taking this one real slow and cautious. I cannot, as of yet, determine whether it is genuine or not.
 

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