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Is what I come out with more often than not when having to defend or make a statement. I have tried to not say it, but it still slips out and my hubby hates it.
I think it is a way to get my head in gear, to explain myself.
If someone asks her something
She says 'I shall tell you for why' as the beginning part of her answer.
A habit,giving pause for thought.
It doesn't make Suzanne the worst person in the world. Maybe the fourth or fifth worst...
A speech habit is my take.
We're all waiting
Aha, that might explain it. In French that is 'pourquoi' and means the same thing. @Suzanne is in France.It also appears a few times in quotes by non-native English speakers, typically someone who originally speaks Spanish or Italian. "Por que" could have been mistranslated by them into "for why".
It does make sense that Suzanne uses that phrase and “I shall tell you for why;”
That script gives her a fraction of a second to organise her reply.
See?
A great response and explanation purely from an Aspie perspective. Love it.
I need to start doing that more. So often, someone will ask me a question and I'll say, "Nope!" ... then think for a second and say, "Wait, I'm sorry, yes."
Or at work, someone will ask how to do something, and I'll immediately reply, "I have no idea." ... and a few second later, "Oh, that's easy. Here's how."
So, obviously, I need a stalling tactic or a progress bar.
I need to start doing that more. So often, someone will ask me a question and I'll say, "Nope!" ... then think for a second and say, "Wait, I'm sorry, yes."
Or at work, someone will ask how to do something, and I'll immediately reply, "I have no idea." ... and a few second later, "Oh, that's easy. Here's how."
So, obviously, I need a stalling tactic or a progress bar.
Makes such good sense from an Aspie perspective. Where for so many of us, communicating in real-time can at times be like walking through a minefield. Very difficult to explain to NTs.
Amen to that. Anytime I speak off the cuff, and don't have time to run everything I plan to say through all my usual filters, I risk saying something regrettable.
To me it's at the core of Autism Spectrum Disorder. That for whatever reason, communicating in real-time can be so daunting at times compared to other forms of communication.
Which also compels me to emphasize that how we communicate here online, is likely to be a very different prospect from how you deal with us face-to-face.
I wonder if that's why I make a joke first. Quick response from a defense mechanism.
Then give the sensible answer.