i see a trend. Women NTs come on here to ask about Aut/aspie men.
Rarely do NT men come to ask about aut/aspie women.
Are women just forced to hide it? Do NT men have a greater dislike for A women than NT women have for A men?
I know i have not had even a HINT of a date for 2 decades. Maybe 1. Quite a record, there. I would have to pay a guy to take me out. I just might and then ask him what makes me so deplorable
The NT women who are talking here about the Aspie guys are already seeing them, so if the NT women never saw or knew about an Aspie guy in her life, most would have no reason to come here.
So, the fact, that less NT guys are talking about Aspie women here could be because either less NT guys are in relationships with Aspie women, or as those NT guys need less direction or support from any forum and its members, or as they maybe accept her more as she is. Or they may feel they already have the answers.
Personally, in general, from my many experiences and observations, I think more NT guys may be more willing to date a woman with a condition, than an NT lady date a guy with a condition, as the stereotype is women want stronger guys, and guys may supposedly be ok with women who are seen as having some weakness or they can help or protect.
However, this generalization can change when Aspergers is the condition, as an NT guy according to society often wants a physical relationship foremost, and maybe they think Aspie women can have a harder time with that. Likewise, many NT women often wants a successful guy, and they may perceive Aspies as intelligent and hard working in a particular field. That interests them, but they may unfairly want more later.
So, I admit I feel it could be harder for many NT guys to date an Aspie woman, unless he felt some of his physical needs could be met, if those guys assumed you were not physically available during any attempted relationship. In my case, although I kept showing interest and persistence online to my wife as a friend first, despite her severe different condition, I actually liked it when I saw later signs she could accept or initiate more than friendship, due to my shyness.
In your case, and any single persons' situation here who are open minded to a relationship, I do not necessarily see any of your cases as hopeless. All you have to do is make yourself heard and make small steps to lead in that direction, and go to those places that would have those types of persons you are looking for. If you are most comfortable expressing through writing, make friends that way first, and that could lead to more.
The key is to not only tell prospective friends or dating partners a lot about yourself, and what you are looking for, but to inquire from them either individually or from a forum of others what they are looking for as well. The ones that run away or seem disinterested or do not want to learn more, let them go. They would not be suitable anyway. The ones that are open minded, inquire further, and gives things a chance, those are the ones that would have interested me when I was single.
Also, again, it is ok for women to initiate these days, if something catches their eye. Many nicer guys fear rejection, too.
