Dreadful Dante
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I'm grateful for each and every time my family members took throughout their lives to teach me how to be better, each and every way they did it. I thank them and I acknowledge their effort. I'm not complaining in any way.
I am happy and now I have the self-image of a King (without the nascissistic part) and I'm more adaptable than Bear Grylls. I made this happiness on my own.
However, I need to verbalize this so I can explain it with words somehow. I went through some obscure experiences as a child because I was different.
My mother, father and grandparents would say they were trying to help getting me to go to school, but they would threaten to send me to an Insane Asylum because of my behaviour. My mother would actually empty my drawers, pack my things and pretend (I didn't know at the time) to call them to take me, according to her "They are going to fix you and when you're drooling drugged from psychotic medication, you'll remember me telling you this but then it will be too late. No one will ever visit you, you'll die alone and starving because they're not gonna give you enough food."
Some would threaten to beat me with sticks, belts and indeed they hit me, some would tell me I could die and it wouldn't make any difference.
My mother would call me an embarassment as a child and as an adolescent because I couldn't socialise and would embarrass her in social situations and would have meltdowns. She would say I was rude and stupid periodically and that I would die alone rotting in a cold and dark corner of some mental hospital.
I didn't understand how she wanted me to behave because she simply wouldn't tell me. They expected me to intuitively know what "normal" was and behave accordingly.
People in my family would realise how literal I was and would make disgusting jokes about amputation, boogie man, bed bugs, sickness and death and I didn't know they were jokes whereas everyone else was laughing. I would try to not react, supress the utter dread, panic and desperation so they would stop, but they would realise it and continue over and over.
They said all this worked to fix me, but it actually made me doubtful and seriously suspiscious of every action and thought of every person that has ever lived on Earth. I now trust no one, as the ones who "loved" me said and did those things.
I don't blame them, I was indeed a different child, I needed professional help, I would kneel before my mother during my meltdowns and beg her to make me be like everyone else and ask why I wasn't. She would just pet my head and say I needed Jesus and we would pray and then she would tell me "See? Now you're better".
Now I live with the same people and it's like co-existing with my own executioners. My father threatened to punch me in the face because I didn't want to have dinner in his friend's house. Three other family members held him back because they were going to be late. Seriously, they said they wouldn't hold him back if they didn't have to leave quickly.
I am in no way saying they are bad. I'm in College because they help me pay for it, I have a home because I'm financially dependant to them and they pay everything for me without even thinking about it.
A few years ago I was having panic attacks every night because the next morning I had to go to school or work and there was going to be people I had to socialize with and I didn't know how to (embarrassments every day) plus sensorial chaos and I couldn't do things properly because I couldn't focus or even learn to do those tasks because it wasn't my field of interest (Believe it or not, I was practising at home, taking notes and even using flashcards).
Doesn't matter how bad things are or were, they tell me I don't have any problems because I'm not maintaining the house or have no kids.
For 18 years I believed this to be normal and that everyone went through the same thing, just that it was hidden. It was this thought that forced me to adapt.
I Thank You for reading this, it means the world to me. The world, the stars, the black holes and super novas.
Peacefully,
Dante.
I am happy and now I have the self-image of a King (without the nascissistic part) and I'm more adaptable than Bear Grylls. I made this happiness on my own.
However, I need to verbalize this so I can explain it with words somehow. I went through some obscure experiences as a child because I was different.
My mother, father and grandparents would say they were trying to help getting me to go to school, but they would threaten to send me to an Insane Asylum because of my behaviour. My mother would actually empty my drawers, pack my things and pretend (I didn't know at the time) to call them to take me, according to her "They are going to fix you and when you're drooling drugged from psychotic medication, you'll remember me telling you this but then it will be too late. No one will ever visit you, you'll die alone and starving because they're not gonna give you enough food."
Some would threaten to beat me with sticks, belts and indeed they hit me, some would tell me I could die and it wouldn't make any difference.
My mother would call me an embarassment as a child and as an adolescent because I couldn't socialise and would embarrass her in social situations and would have meltdowns. She would say I was rude and stupid periodically and that I would die alone rotting in a cold and dark corner of some mental hospital.
I didn't understand how she wanted me to behave because she simply wouldn't tell me. They expected me to intuitively know what "normal" was and behave accordingly.
People in my family would realise how literal I was and would make disgusting jokes about amputation, boogie man, bed bugs, sickness and death and I didn't know they were jokes whereas everyone else was laughing. I would try to not react, supress the utter dread, panic and desperation so they would stop, but they would realise it and continue over and over.
They said all this worked to fix me, but it actually made me doubtful and seriously suspiscious of every action and thought of every person that has ever lived on Earth. I now trust no one, as the ones who "loved" me said and did those things.
I don't blame them, I was indeed a different child, I needed professional help, I would kneel before my mother during my meltdowns and beg her to make me be like everyone else and ask why I wasn't. She would just pet my head and say I needed Jesus and we would pray and then she would tell me "See? Now you're better".
Now I live with the same people and it's like co-existing with my own executioners. My father threatened to punch me in the face because I didn't want to have dinner in his friend's house. Three other family members held him back because they were going to be late. Seriously, they said they wouldn't hold him back if they didn't have to leave quickly.
I am in no way saying they are bad. I'm in College because they help me pay for it, I have a home because I'm financially dependant to them and they pay everything for me without even thinking about it.
A few years ago I was having panic attacks every night because the next morning I had to go to school or work and there was going to be people I had to socialize with and I didn't know how to (embarrassments every day) plus sensorial chaos and I couldn't do things properly because I couldn't focus or even learn to do those tasks because it wasn't my field of interest (Believe it or not, I was practising at home, taking notes and even using flashcards).
Doesn't matter how bad things are or were, they tell me I don't have any problems because I'm not maintaining the house or have no kids.
For 18 years I believed this to be normal and that everyone went through the same thing, just that it was hidden. It was this thought that forced me to adapt.
I Thank You for reading this, it means the world to me. The world, the stars, the black holes and super novas.
Peacefully,
Dante.
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