Today I realized I have a hard time perspective taking. I have always considered myself an empathetic person and I just included perspective taking as a part of it. However I have realized I can only understand what I already understand. So I have I better ability to perspective take with other autistic people since I can sometimes understand better than I can for NT people.
Before I was diagnosed (I think I was 12 at the time) I was arguing with my mother about "true human empathy" and how it's impossible (I still stand by this) and I said "you can't understand being on a roller coaster if you have never been on one. And even if you had you still have to guess a lot about how the other person felt". She didn't seem to get it.
I now understand that I can only understand things within the context of my life. Once my sister was complaining about a disabled classmate who was annoying her and I could really only understand the classmate not her and a good deal of that was projection. It's not a wilful misunderstanding I just don't get it unless another person explains in detail their thought process for why they feel what they feel.
I need some guidance in order to understand people sometimes. I am not sure what to do as it causes issues in my life and while I know the cause I have no idea what to do since I never think about how I can't understand while it's happening since I don't understand it to the point it flies right over my head that I am not understanding I usually think I do understand.
Before I was diagnosed (I think I was 12 at the time) I was arguing with my mother about "true human empathy" and how it's impossible (I still stand by this) and I said "you can't understand being on a roller coaster if you have never been on one. And even if you had you still have to guess a lot about how the other person felt". She didn't seem to get it.
I now understand that I can only understand things within the context of my life. Once my sister was complaining about a disabled classmate who was annoying her and I could really only understand the classmate not her and a good deal of that was projection. It's not a wilful misunderstanding I just don't get it unless another person explains in detail their thought process for why they feel what they feel.
I need some guidance in order to understand people sometimes. I am not sure what to do as it causes issues in my life and while I know the cause I have no idea what to do since I never think about how I can't understand while it's happening since I don't understand it to the point it flies right over my head that I am not understanding I usually think I do understand.