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Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by James45, Aug 1, 2021.

  1. James45

    James45 James

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    Hi, I am new to this forum indeed any forum but thought it maybe useful to me.

    I was diagnosed as being on the spectrum last year at 45 years old, I have a history of trauma as well. Basically I am very confused as to which is causing what symptom, I keep getting severly depressed (and have done for a very long time) and I am starting to feel very isolated, mainly by my choices as the stress of social interactions generally outweighs the benefits. Also I am regularly disconnected and feel in a bubble.

    I really am not sure why I am writing this or how it will benefit others or myself...but there you go...hello.
     
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  3. Gerald Wilgus

    Gerald Wilgus Well-Known Member

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    Welcome, write away. There is some comfort in that many have struggled with similar issues. I thought that I overcame my social isolation and loneliness as a teen and young adult, only to have the previously suppressed emotional memories return in CPTSD, decades later. I hope I will be able to write coherently as I progress in therapy for that. This is what this forum is good at.
     
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  4. James45

    James45 James

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    Thanks...William Blake one of the best
     
  5. Martha Ferris

    Martha Ferris Seeking answers

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    Welcome! I look forward to getting to know you.
     
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    Hi James,
    You are not alone. I haven't been officially diagnosed but I beleive I am on the spectrum too. Like you I also have a history of trauma. It was my search for answers that led me to discovering that I might be on the spectrum.

    I also want to seperate my aspie traits from my trauma. But I think it is like the question "which came first the chicken or the egg". My aspie traits may very well have created some of the trauma I feel simply because my aspie mind could not comprehend some events that were mearly ordinary to a neurotypical. I may never know a definate answer.

    Welcome to Autisim Forums. This is a great place to explore the questions that keep you up at night. The people here are a friendly, compassionate bunch. You will like them and the forum very much!
     
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    Nitro Admin/Immoral Turpitude Staff Member Admin V.I.P Member

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    clg114 Still crazy, after all these years. Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    Welcome to Autism Forums!
     
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    Hi and welcome, seems like you've come to the right place, plenty here will understand some of what you are experiencing, it sounds tough. Hopefully here you can hang out and get more of a feel in the discussions for what autism effects others experience, though we are all different to an extent.

    Autism itself can be traumatising, trying to understand the world when our perception is different from neurotypical others. But like you, many here have experienced other trauma too. This sounds really challenging for you, but hopefully being here with others will be useful and supportive.

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    Welcome!
     
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  11. Skittlebisquit

    Skittlebisquit Keep trying to be as amazing as you really are V.I.P Member

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    Hi James and welcome to the forums :)
     
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  13. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    Welcome, sorry to hear of your trauma
     
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    Honest self-expression is typically beneficial for everyone.
     
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    Hi James, also a history of trauma and a bit older than you. I just got here couple month ago and it’s helped me knowing I wasn’t alone in this. Well, that there are people like me that think like this too.

    We’re the few smart “normal” people in the world and everyone else is screwed up so glad you found us! :shortcake::coffee:

    Have some cake and coffee :)
     
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    Hello and Welcome.
     
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    James45 James

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    Thank you Suzette, much appreciated
     
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    James45 James

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    Thank you...
     
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    Welcome to the forums @James45 !

    Writing about how you feel helps get it out and not kept internalized.
    And it will help you see how you relate to others and many will find they relate to what you say.
    Glad you joined us. :)
     
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    James45 James

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    Thank you all for your kind words and hello's...much appreciated
     
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