Kit
Well-Known Member
Back when I was a kid I was always treated different by adults at school regarding rules and I saw the double standards. They never batted an eye how other kids acted and then on another forum, someone used this quote here
"The "other side does it too" or "both sides are fine people" moral equivalence is a false argument."
So I guess that explains why I could never get the staff to understand how they were being bias against me and treating me different than NT kids. When I kept telling them "other kids do it too" it came off that way to them perhaps. So I just got more and more frustrated and I think they got frustrated with me too to a point they decided I had a behavior disorder and wanted me in a behavior program, this is what got me diagnosed with ASD in 1997, this incident here at my school. Now with this diagnoses, my school could no longer put me in that class or I would have started to act like the other kids in that class and mimic them thinking it's normal behavior and other kids do it too so it's normal. It was deja vu for my parents because when I was in a self contained class when I was 6 and 7, I acted like other kids in that class because I thought it was normal behavior. I thought this is how we act in school. My parents found out so they put me in mainstream with NT kids so they could model normal behavior for me so I could copy them and learn appropriate behavior.
I realize now the staff punishing me and stuff was maybe their way to teach me appropriate behavior but instead all it did was it made me feel victimized and bullied so I fought. My mom called it abuse when she found out I was correct all along and there were double standards at my school. There was Kit rules and different rules for all the other kids. Even my therapist was pissed. I was seeing how other kids were acting and here I was getting into trouble for being like them and I felt bullied and picked on. Saying "other kids do that too so why am I the only one in trouble, punish them too so I am not being discriminated here" didn't do anything because they acted deaf about it. They ignored my words. Then they decided I had a behavior issue and wanted me in a behavior class but my parents knew this would make it worse for me because I would act worse because I would learn that behavior and think "this is what we do in this class."
My parents wanted to avoid this and didn't want me to act like I have a behavior disorder and they were worried this would have destroyed me and my development and I would have been doomed as an adult.
My mom has blamed some of my issues on me being in a self contained class and thought it made me regress and stunt my social development. She is convinced I would have ended up being more autistic if I was kept in that class. It's as if she thinks autism is learned through environment and that it's caused by environment.
Now how would you express someone is being biased against you and treating you different than NTs without using the "they do it too" argument?
Me being diagnosed like this because of my school made me skeptical of my autism diagnoses and I felt it was fraudulent. I am still convinced I wouldn't have been diagnosed if they had just listened to me, listened to my parents, and follow my IEP than trying to do things their way and instead had created a system for me that worked against me.
"The "other side does it too" or "both sides are fine people" moral equivalence is a false argument."
So I guess that explains why I could never get the staff to understand how they were being bias against me and treating me different than NT kids. When I kept telling them "other kids do it too" it came off that way to them perhaps. So I just got more and more frustrated and I think they got frustrated with me too to a point they decided I had a behavior disorder and wanted me in a behavior program, this is what got me diagnosed with ASD in 1997, this incident here at my school. Now with this diagnoses, my school could no longer put me in that class or I would have started to act like the other kids in that class and mimic them thinking it's normal behavior and other kids do it too so it's normal. It was deja vu for my parents because when I was in a self contained class when I was 6 and 7, I acted like other kids in that class because I thought it was normal behavior. I thought this is how we act in school. My parents found out so they put me in mainstream with NT kids so they could model normal behavior for me so I could copy them and learn appropriate behavior.
I realize now the staff punishing me and stuff was maybe their way to teach me appropriate behavior but instead all it did was it made me feel victimized and bullied so I fought. My mom called it abuse when she found out I was correct all along and there were double standards at my school. There was Kit rules and different rules for all the other kids. Even my therapist was pissed. I was seeing how other kids were acting and here I was getting into trouble for being like them and I felt bullied and picked on. Saying "other kids do that too so why am I the only one in trouble, punish them too so I am not being discriminated here" didn't do anything because they acted deaf about it. They ignored my words. Then they decided I had a behavior issue and wanted me in a behavior class but my parents knew this would make it worse for me because I would act worse because I would learn that behavior and think "this is what we do in this class."
My parents wanted to avoid this and didn't want me to act like I have a behavior disorder and they were worried this would have destroyed me and my development and I would have been doomed as an adult.
My mom has blamed some of my issues on me being in a self contained class and thought it made me regress and stunt my social development. She is convinced I would have ended up being more autistic if I was kept in that class. It's as if she thinks autism is learned through environment and that it's caused by environment.
Now how would you express someone is being biased against you and treating you different than NTs without using the "they do it too" argument?
Me being diagnosed like this because of my school made me skeptical of my autism diagnoses and I felt it was fraudulent. I am still convinced I wouldn't have been diagnosed if they had just listened to me, listened to my parents, and follow my IEP than trying to do things their way and instead had created a system for me that worked against me.