My best friend is 36, married, and dating a 16-year old. Don't think that our huge age difference means anything. At times she sounds like she's still stuck in the mindset of a spoiled popular kid in middle school.
Now, tons of you are probably asking why a married woman is dating a minor. That would be my first question. I don't know either. While I do know her circumstances, going into the details in public is a bad idea.
Why am I posting it in here? Well, here's the gist. I need to help my best friend avoid prison, because I could be considered an accomplice if they ever found out, and I don't have the guts to confess to her crime.
But, being in love with her "boyfriend" definitely complicates my chances, especially since I've told both of them about my love for him. Sometimes it feels like my crush has Asperger's and I don't. He's really clingy and my best friend helped him feel loved and accepted, but at the price of him really falling for her [and she's married].
The best policy, therefore, would be to convince her that she's breaking the law. I can't find any official documentation on this being illegal. I've heard from various sources that there's an exemption if the age difference is 4 years or less.
The minor being 16, and me being 19, it theoretically wouldn't be illegal for us to date; however, the reason I'm doing this is solely to avoid getting myself put behind bars. I'm not taking any risks here. The law gets stricter everyday. And if I succeed in breaking the two up because of the law being against it, well, the man of my affections may not even talk to me for a long time. He may even hate me. But at this point, it isn't really my decision, nor theirs. If it's against the law, it's against the law whether I'm in love or not.
But, talking to her about this problem isn't something I can simply do. It involves proof and legal documentation to get her to understand. Even if she does understand, there's a chance she'll throw a fit if she loses the argument. It isn't a fit either, per say, just a bit of moping.
For further details on my situation, a PM is more appropriate. However, if there's good hard proof that dating this 16-year old is bad, I'd like to have it as back-up for my argument. It's morally wrong to date him, yes, but is it /illegal/? My best friend thinks it's legal and within reasonable limits. I'm worried.
Now, tons of you are probably asking why a married woman is dating a minor. That would be my first question. I don't know either. While I do know her circumstances, going into the details in public is a bad idea.
Why am I posting it in here? Well, here's the gist. I need to help my best friend avoid prison, because I could be considered an accomplice if they ever found out, and I don't have the guts to confess to her crime.
But, being in love with her "boyfriend" definitely complicates my chances, especially since I've told both of them about my love for him. Sometimes it feels like my crush has Asperger's and I don't. He's really clingy and my best friend helped him feel loved and accepted, but at the price of him really falling for her [and she's married].
The best policy, therefore, would be to convince her that she's breaking the law. I can't find any official documentation on this being illegal. I've heard from various sources that there's an exemption if the age difference is 4 years or less.
The minor being 16, and me being 19, it theoretically wouldn't be illegal for us to date; however, the reason I'm doing this is solely to avoid getting myself put behind bars. I'm not taking any risks here. The law gets stricter everyday. And if I succeed in breaking the two up because of the law being against it, well, the man of my affections may not even talk to me for a long time. He may even hate me. But at this point, it isn't really my decision, nor theirs. If it's against the law, it's against the law whether I'm in love or not.
But, talking to her about this problem isn't something I can simply do. It involves proof and legal documentation to get her to understand. Even if she does understand, there's a chance she'll throw a fit if she loses the argument. It isn't a fit either, per say, just a bit of moping.
For further details on my situation, a PM is more appropriate. However, if there's good hard proof that dating this 16-year old is bad, I'd like to have it as back-up for my argument. It's morally wrong to date him, yes, but is it /illegal/? My best friend thinks it's legal and within reasonable limits. I'm worried.
