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How to use Facebook?

Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by OrdinaryCitizen, Jan 12, 2019 at 4:44 AM.

  1. OrdinaryCitizen

    OrdinaryCitizen Well-Known Member

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    I have no idea never used it or cared about social media.
    Registered account, but i have no clue what i can do with it, whats the purpose of facebook how do i use it literally?

    I have no one to follow what else can i do? Join groups that interest me, okay did that what next how do i socialize in group?

    P.S. What i noticed by looking at random people pics lots of people there pretend they are very successful, fun and have great relationship.
     
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  2. NothingToSeeHere

    NothingToSeeHere Asexuowl V.I.P Member

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    Facebook is for keeping up to date on your friends lives while sharing details of your own for other people to keep up to date with what you're doing. You can use it however you want, upload pictures, regularly post notes about what you are doing during the day, never post updates at all, share memes, stalk your friends, enemies, or random strangers, chat with people, post things in groups and comment on other peoples posts, or just not use it at all. I'm curious why you would get an account if you have no use for it.
     
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    55853 Well-Known Member

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    It works pretty much exactly like this site, the main difference is the lack of anonymity. Reading what other people post should give you some insight into how it works.

    I'd strongly advise you to avoid voicing these sorts of attitudes. Many people like showing the positives in their life. It makes them happy to voice their successes. There's nothing wrong with this, necessarily. Their friends and family like hearing what they get up to. It's often much harder for people to show their negative aspects of life, for many reasons. Please don't judge people so quickly, or your experience on Facebook is unlikely to be positive.
     
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    Catana Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Actually, it doesn't. The two sites are nothing alike. One thing you can count on with Facebook is being inundated with ads and fake news, having your most private information sold by Facebook, and possibly being stalked by crazies who don't like your opinions. Facebook has had so many scandals, including Zuckerberg being called before Congress to explain some of the problems, that I don't understand why anyone would even want to use it.
     
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  5. 55853

    55853 Well-Known Member

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    Facebook groups work in a very similar way to this website. You see topics, can comment on them, or start your own. This is what I meant.

    I run Facebook with an adblocker myself. I have turned it off for this site, but there are ads here also, and they do slow down the site to the extent I can't access it on all my devices, only more recent ones.

    This will depend on what groups you are in, I assume. I've never come across this.

    This site uses custom ads as well. The list of companies I opted out was huge. I'm not sure if this is the same worldwide, but open an incognito tab, and go to this site. On the popup about custom ads, look at the whole list. By using internet connected devices, your information is already being used in some way. Anonymised data is being used everywhere.

    I've not had this happen, but I believe you can block people.

    It's one of the biggest sites there is. Many people you know will be on it. You can use it to get in touch with people you used to know, keep up to date with what the people in your life are doing, socialise, etc. There are many reasons someone would want to use Facebook, as well as there being many reasons someone would not want to.
     
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    china autie Well-Known Member

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    I hate Fakebok and won't go anywheres near it.
     
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  7. WildCat

    WildCat too good for a title V.I.P Member

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    Fecesbook? You log on and sling fecal matter everywhere. There's nothing to think about here.
     
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  8. NothingToSeeHere

    NothingToSeeHere Asexuowl V.I.P Member

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    Put your profile on the highest level of privacy, do not use you real details (things like birthday, schools, place of work should be fake or left blank) and use a facebook compatible ad blocker.
     
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    No, I don't .
    Why would I do that to the few acquaintances, cousins, and other
    relatives that are my "Facebook friends"?

    I wouldn't.
    And I don't.

    They don't do that to me, either.

    What a person sees on Facebook depends on who is a 'Friend.'
     
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  10. WildCat

    WildCat too good for a title V.I.P Member

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    Ok, crude jokes aside, you log on and share pics, status updates, communicate with others, etc etc.

    The site is fairly easy to use, so I don't know exactly what trouble there is here. Can you be more specific?
     
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    You can use it how you want to use it. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, or give information you don't want to give. It's best not to give out too much personal information. I have FB, but have the bare minimum of personal information, and rarely post in my profile... my personal life is my business and I don't care to have it splashed over a website. I use it mainly for special interest groups, and getting in touch with my family abroad with the chat. I don't look at other people's profiles very often, it doesn't interest me - most of them are full of selfies and what they ate for breakfast, or silly memes or other such trivia that don't interest me.
     
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    Facebook is an outlet for some people, a way of keeping in touch with distant friends and family for others. I have right at 100 friends (all who I know very well - my kids, a few cousins, aunts, people from church and my kid's in-laws) and even my friend list is private because people will use other people's friends list to gain more friends of their own for various reasons. Just like dealing with public, it takes tolerance sometimes. You get couples who post public love notes to each other (which should be done in private, but they want the world to see how happy they are) and within a year or 2 they are divorced. You get people who post stupid things they do when they are drunk and when they go apply for a job and their future employer checks out their FB page, they don't get the job. People go on their and complain about their bosses and lose their job.
    People use it to post their political opinions as if it's going to make a difference. To be honest, the thing that bothers me most is when almost every week the same person is requesting prayers and says nothing else and, to me, it feels like the person is seeking sympathy and may or may not have a legitimate reason.

    What I enjoy about facebook are the photos shared of their kids or grandkids or their new house or from trips - it's like receiving a letter telling you what they've been doing. I post a lot of pictures and I keep them private where only my friends can see them - another reason I only have friends that I know well. I also enjoy funny memes and animal videos and a lot of people will send me video's of a moose (that tells me they know me and thought of me). I think it's a great way to keep in touch with people you would otherwise not be able to, so it's kind of like replacing written letters. I do get frustrated sometimes because sometimes I ask a question and would like to know what other's think, but get mostly 'likes' and no other responses. The reason I really like it here is because you get into actual conversations with people who share the same struggles. So here seems a bit more personal and we're building a bond.
     
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    In all sincerity if you have to ask, IMO it isn't likely something you truly need or have any real use for, short of a prospective employer demanding to see your social media account. Which may amount to another way of masking your traits and behaviors just to satisfy others or perhaps succumbing to some form of social pressure to join for the sake of joining.

    The only social media outlet I use online is this one. Where a majority of members more often than not share my Neurodiversity, and are far more likely to either understand my perspective or even share it.

    That in all likelihood if and when I choose to venture beyond this realm, I am certain to encounter any number of unwanted social difficulties with a neurological majority. Having been online for decades, I've had my share of hostilities in online communities with next to no one having been on the spectrum of autism to relate to. Even those where I was a member for a very long time. Social dynamics that I've had enough of, and have no desire to repeat. The kind you risk getting "in spades" in Facebook.

    If you have a very practical reason for joining Facebook, I can understand that. However if your intent is based on social coercion of your own making or others, you might just consider passing it up altogether.
     
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    About 11 years ago, I joined Facebook purely to see what all the "fuss" was about, I now have over 200 friends including people I've known in the real world for years.
     
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    Personally I'm apt to believe that Facebook has inherently trivialized and even devalued the term "friend" to an even lower standard than what many of us might refer to as "fair-weather friends" in real life.

    But then I never had a trivial understanding of what a real "friend" meant either. That I take those I'd truly call a friend in deadly earnest. A sentiment I've found a lot of people in this community seem to share as well.
     
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    Graphin Serial conversation Killer V.I.P Member

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    You can change your privacy settings and delete your account
     
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    Due to various problems I've deleted my account at least twice before now, but for some reason I'm always drawn back.

    Even though contrary to popular belief I do actually have a fairly busy life beyond the Internet.

    Also, the best setting for privacy is friends only IMO, that's my setting but I still get insulted on posts by random eejts who need to get knotted.
     
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    I use mine for keeping up to date on the latest news regarding my favourite hobbies and what Events are going on at my local Game Store, along w/ keeping in touch w/ long distance friends and family and also being apart of some Facebook groups that are full of people who're like-minded like myself, a few of said Groups that also belong to the Local Game Store here.
     
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    I find it's biggest use to be "events" and that a lot of my friends use only that to invite people. And my friends post a lot of funny things, so that's nice!
     
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    Okay from what i understand if i have real life friends or relatives i can follow them to see whats going on in their life (provided they care to post it to facebook), and from what i see in there all they do is brag how good their life is, so not really going to know anything but what they want me to know.

    I have no such people to follow or befriend.

    My original interest in facebook was making new "friends", is it any good in that regard?

    Here what crossed my mind reading your message what if i start posting "how good my life is" what i do etc for people who follow me, but then my life is boring perhaps that would motivate me to actually go do something even if its just going outside and making selfies of myself in the park or whatever.

    Could bragging in front of other people be motivation to do more with my life? Visit places or try to make more $$$ to buy useless expensive gadgets that i will show off to my followers etc and socialize more?
     
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