Hi guys:
I haven't spoken to my family in years because they were emotionally abusive to me because of my autism.
Now, my father has died (without me having a chance to say goodbye), and my sister kept his final illness from me until after his death.
How do I attempt a reconciliation without accepting blame for the situation? My sister seems to want to believe that the whole estrangement thing was all my fault, because if I really loved the family....I would tolerate the emotional abuse, because it's not like they were hitting me or anything.
In other words, I was just being uncaring and neglectful by distancing myself and not speaking to them.
I haven't spoken to my family in years because they were emotionally abusive to me because of my autism.
Now, my father has died (without me having a chance to say goodbye), and my sister kept his final illness from me until after his death.
How do I attempt a reconciliation without accepting blame for the situation? My sister seems to want to believe that the whole estrangement thing was all my fault, because if I really loved the family....I would tolerate the emotional abuse, because it's not like they were hitting me or anything.
In other words, I was just being uncaring and neglectful by distancing myself and not speaking to them.