Lysander
Well-Known Member
I'm not usually that bad about it when I'm by myself, but I get immediately overwhelmed when another person who won't clean up after themselves enters the picture. I clean the entire apartment by myself only to come home, after work, wanting to rest, finding that it's magically a pigsty again. An absolute pigsty!
My spouse absolutely does not understand how to keep the house tidy, or want to contribute. He and I are both HFA. He's not stupid, or lazy, in fact I have sympathy for him because he works very hard and even longer hours than I do. BUT, it's a serious strain doing all of the housework for two people by myself.
I have talked to him, and we have had many unpleasant arguments where I have tried to explain the gravity of the situation, and he complies but takes no initiative, and makes me feel guilty, as if it is somehow my fault that he can't just live in a hog hole. Imagine searching the apartment you literally just cleaned to try and get ahead of someone else's hurricane.
I feel like a maid, as he does not comprehend that I do not clean and organize just because I want to. I'm just so miserable when everything is filthy, that cleaning is the lesser of two evils, even if it means I have no time to do anything else.
My spouse absolutely does not understand how to keep the house tidy, or want to contribute. He and I are both HFA. He's not stupid, or lazy, in fact I have sympathy for him because he works very hard and even longer hours than I do. BUT, it's a serious strain doing all of the housework for two people by myself.
I have talked to him, and we have had many unpleasant arguments where I have tried to explain the gravity of the situation, and he complies but takes no initiative, and makes me feel guilty, as if it is somehow my fault that he can't just live in a hog hole. Imagine searching the apartment you literally just cleaned to try and get ahead of someone else's hurricane.
I feel like a maid, as he does not comprehend that I do not clean and organize just because I want to. I'm just so miserable when everything is filthy, that cleaning is the lesser of two evils, even if it means I have no time to do anything else.