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Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by shinobi, Aug 13, 2019.

  1. shinobi

    shinobi New Member

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    I would say "meltdown" but I agree with other people saying that it sounds offensive so I won't use it in this thread title. My question is, how do you cope?

    I still struggle even to this very day when everything overwhelms me. I've had grown adults making fun of me in public, labeling me as a "spoiled brat" and demanding me to be taken to hospital to be "drugged and locked up".

    Usually when people approach me slowly in a quiet tone and just talk to me, I start to calm down. Ear defenders really help as well. I keep a colouring book with me as well, some retailers sell colouring books for adults, I find it very therapeutic.
     
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  2. Wolf Prince

    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    I try and stay away from things like that will cause that. If i cant then i build myself up until I can face it.
     
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  3. dragonfire42

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    I'm more prone to "shutdowns" these days, but I'm pretty good at telling when it's going to happen with enough warning that I can at least get myself outside so it at least isn't happening in the middle of a crowded public space. I've found that playing time-waster games that don't require much thought on my phone really helps keep me distracted and grounded enough to avoid a lot of "meltdowns"/"shutdowns".
     
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  4. Autistamatic

    Autistamatic He's just this guy, you know? V.I.P Member

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    Avoiding situations that trigger me is the only defence that has ever worked for me. I'm more of a shutdowner but the principle's the same. I have structured my life and routine to minimise my exposure to things that get to me. Work was a major source of such stress for many years and one I could do little about, but even that is under control now.

    Think of the old joke...

    "Doctor, Doctor - it hurts when I do this..."
    "Well don't do it then!"
     
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  5. Southern Discomfort

    Southern Discomfort Smarter than the Average Bear V.I.P Member

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    I don't have meltdowns. Never have. So I have nothing to add to this thread but since I'm here do yourself a favour: what sounds offensive and what is offensive is different. My major gripe with the autism community is that a lot of people get too upset over the words used instead of having discussion and challenging views on matters that really do make a difference.

    Being careful with words is good but make sure you don't over do it.
     
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  6. Shamar

    Shamar Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    You will find there are nearly as many ways to deal with these things as there are members here. Everyone is different and needs to deal with it in their own way. When I feel it getting to be too much, I deal with it by going into the woods, finding a decent size stick, and beating rocks with it while screaming until exhausted. I don't let it get to the point where I lose control, I do something about it before it gets that far.
     
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  7. Fino

    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    I've never heard of the idea that "meltdown" is offensive. Does anyone know why?
     
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  8. Suzanne

    Suzanne Well-Known Member

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    Having chronic agoraphobia and social phobia, stops me from meltdowns in public.

    At home, I have to be alone, but taking medicine for anger issues and that does calm me down a lot.
     
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  9. Progster

    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    This. I avoid known triggers, and if I can't deal with something at that point, or am upset, I give it time; I wait until I feel I can face it. Unfortunately, it's not always possible to avoid problems as some incidents can crop up suddenly, and these are hard to deal with. I often engage in a discreet stim, such as biting the inside of my cheek, or rubbing a key in my pocket, to distract myself and dissipate the surge of negative emotion.
     
  10. Wolf Prince

    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    Or get a lava lamp background for your cell phone.
     
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  11. shinobi

    shinobi New Member

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    I don't have a fear of leaving the house, but I am an introvert and I agree being indoors away from large crowds helps avoid me from having one of my episodes.

    I have to take medication to calm me down too, my doctor has prescribed me with antidepressants and tranquillizers.
     
  12. Bolletje

    Bolletje Potato chip wizard V.I.P Member

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    Depending on the type of meltdown I either go for a walk in the park or lying in bed in fetal position.
     
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