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How do I tell my mum about a change I want making to my routine?

Discussion in 'Parenting & Autism Discussions' started by Jorge Da Silva, Aug 21, 2019.

  1. Jorge Da Silva

    Jorge Da Silva New Member

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    ok, it s gonna sounds stupid but I have been thinking for a while that I would prefer everything to be set out in a routine, one of the things I wanted to do was to ask my Mum whether I could set out when I will make a cup of tea/coffee so that I can minimize the risk of me getting angry or fustrated at the fact that I have been disrupted while I am doing something. How do I ask her without sounding ridiculous?
     
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  2. Fino

    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    By "set out when," do you mean the exact time, like you have to start at 7:30am and any other minute would be distressing?

    If you mean a little less exact, then I think it's a great idea, but I'm also OCD in this way. She must be aware of your autism, right? How has she been with it generally? It shouldn't sound ridiculous at all to just say it outright to someone who knows you're autistic.
     
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  3. Jorge Da Silva

    Jorge Da Silva New Member

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    She is aware yes, she went with me during the diagnosis and has known from day one. And I mean like around 8am and around 12pm for example.
     
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    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    I think that's a perfectly reasonable request, for any person, autistic or not.
     
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    GadAbout Well-Known Member

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    How do you get interrupted when making a cup of coffee or tea?

    Could you just say, as many times as necessary, "please don't ________ until I have finished making my tea"? Eventually the people in your life will get that it's your special quirk and will know better than to ________ . (The blank line indicates whatever action you feel disrupts you, whether that's talking to you, or whatever.)
     
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