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Hoping for some advice

Discussion in 'Love, Relationships and Dating' started by Second Wind, Dec 14, 2021.

  1. Second Wind

    Second Wind New Member

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    Hello, I just added in today. I am not on the spectrum, although my child is, but tonight I wanted to ask for some advice. Is it possible for someone who has
    Asperger's and alexithymia to determine a relationship doesn't have a chance of evolving into a partnership, but then later change their mind? Or is it pretty set in cement? If anyone has any personal stories of recovering a relationship, that would be helpful!
     
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  2. Au Naturel

    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    Recovering a relationship? As in getting back with an ex they'd broke up with?
     
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  3. Second Wind

    Second Wind New Member

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    Yes-if they were confused about their previous feelings
     
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    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    Anything is possible. I mean in this situation, I'm not just throwing out a cliche. They could do anything.
     
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    Well yeah. Of course it is possible. For some people on the spectrum it would be more possible than others. Something would have to change to cause the original evaluation to appear invalid. Autistic folk like me tend to be terribly cold and rational about such things. Do you think they were confused? Or do they think they were confused? Makes a big difference.

    Another question is whether the other person is good with getting back together too.
     
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  6. Second Wind

    Second Wind New Member

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    Thank you! That does help.
     
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    They admitted it was confusing. But seemed pretty certain it was the right decision, and it took him months to arrive at it. And there was no one reason. He just knew.
     
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    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes V.I.P Member

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    Good luck. ☺
     
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  9. Second Wind

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    Thanks!
     
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