JustAFriend
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I hope I'm placing this message in the right place. I'm having issues with a coworker whom for the most part we've had a rocky friendship, which I've sustained because I feel like they really need anyone to just listen to them.
I can generally be fine with what they're saying (its benign super focused interests mostly, sometimes slips into how they have disdain for other races / peoples), but they make strange statements sometimes about how "emotions are false, empathy is a foreign concept, etc." This person is a male within their mid thirties, has a wife and child, and often speaks of loving their family, but when asked they respond with their quotes rhetoric of how they are superior for not having love for their child?
For further indulgence, this person had lost their "best friend" a few years back from brain cancer, at times they would say they were missing this person, or are sorrowful that they can't play games together anymore.
I've known this person for quite a few years, and can vouch for this behavior is patterned over and over again the cycle of (Give me sympathy, followed by all people are beneath me for I have no emotion (this is a literal quote))
I hope this doesnt come off as offensive, as I really want to help this person. Do I advise them to speak to a mental councilor? Do I harsh confront them with reality (as in the majority of people "have emotion"? I dont even know what to say.
(pre-edit) this person is physically extremely thin (roughly 5 10, but 140 lbs if I was being generous, if that's relevant
I can go more in depth with their quirks if needed for anyone looking to help.
edit - syntax, was missing the "I" in Do I advise.
I can generally be fine with what they're saying (its benign super focused interests mostly, sometimes slips into how they have disdain for other races / peoples), but they make strange statements sometimes about how "emotions are false, empathy is a foreign concept, etc." This person is a male within their mid thirties, has a wife and child, and often speaks of loving their family, but when asked they respond with their quotes rhetoric of how they are superior for not having love for their child?
For further indulgence, this person had lost their "best friend" a few years back from brain cancer, at times they would say they were missing this person, or are sorrowful that they can't play games together anymore.
I've known this person for quite a few years, and can vouch for this behavior is patterned over and over again the cycle of (Give me sympathy, followed by all people are beneath me for I have no emotion (this is a literal quote))
I hope this doesnt come off as offensive, as I really want to help this person. Do I advise them to speak to a mental councilor? Do I harsh confront them with reality (as in the majority of people "have emotion"? I dont even know what to say.
(pre-edit) this person is physically extremely thin (roughly 5 10, but 140 lbs if I was being generous, if that's relevant
I can go more in depth with their quirks if needed for anyone looking to help.
edit - syntax, was missing the "I" in Do I advise.