I'm nearing 40 and I can finally admit that I probably suffer from Asperger's. I used to think I was just shy and didn't have the courage to interact with people. Looking back at my childhood, it was my inability to ingratiate myself with others. I saw people able to make friends and have romantic relationships so easily and was so envious. I still don't know how I managed to get a girlfriend since I went four years of High School unable to say hello to a female. Once I got over my insecurity, even when I am feeling confident, I have awful communication skills and cannot feign interest long enough to carry a conversation. I usually will ask personal follow up questions that clearly make others uncomfortable. Small talk and banter always seemed shallow and forced. When I do express myself, it's usually bizarre or too personal for the receiver. I usually can not keep eye contact when talking and have nervous ticks, some people thought I had Tourette's.
I used to work in finance and as that was the career my parents thought was the most stable and secure but being in an office was extremely stressful. Chit chat with coworkers and developing a rapport was beyond my grasp. I used to sit at my cubicle and be terrified someone might come to ask a question or ask about my weekend. God forbid if someone made a quip towards me.
For the last 10 years, I have not left the house except to go to the gym. Working out and dieting is my only enjoyment since I don't need anyone's approval for my progress. It's just my genetics bumping up against hard work to achieve my fitness goals.
This is more than I have ever shared with anyone. Please go easy.
I used to work in finance and as that was the career my parents thought was the most stable and secure but being in an office was extremely stressful. Chit chat with coworkers and developing a rapport was beyond my grasp. I used to sit at my cubicle and be terrified someone might come to ask a question or ask about my weekend. God forbid if someone made a quip towards me.
For the last 10 years, I have not left the house except to go to the gym. Working out and dieting is my only enjoyment since I don't need anyone's approval for my progress. It's just my genetics bumping up against hard work to achieve my fitness goals.
This is more than I have ever shared with anyone. Please go easy.