Graceful Loner
New Member
Hello all, I’m a 30-year-old woman from the UK and it’s my NY resolution to really care for my aspie self and find out more about managing this condition (I was diagnosed two years ago).
So, what is everyone’s experience of masking - that is the covering up of autistic behaviour to fit in?
I’ve always known I was different, and had to adapt/change a lot of my behaviour to fit in. This wasn’t too bad as a child, but it really damaged me as a teenager. I went to extreme and dangerous extents to be accepted as ‘normal’.
I’m in a good place now and have recently finished a period of study which restricted how much time and effort I could spend on caring for and uncovering my aspie self. Now I find myself without the structure of study and other commitments, I find I have no individual thought or drive.
My whole life has been dedicated to fitting in; at the expense of my genuine interests/thoughts/feelings. I literally can’t remember the last time a genuinely and thoroughly enjoyed myself and had fun – I honestly think the last time would have been as a child.
So now as I attempt to ask myself ‘what do you really enjoy and want to do?’, I have no idea. My reflex answer would be to work so I don’t have chance to think or feel.
Can I ask what people do to indulge their autistic selves and really let go, away from social pressures? Or how people cope with masking and keeping in touch with their true selves?
So, what is everyone’s experience of masking - that is the covering up of autistic behaviour to fit in?
I’ve always known I was different, and had to adapt/change a lot of my behaviour to fit in. This wasn’t too bad as a child, but it really damaged me as a teenager. I went to extreme and dangerous extents to be accepted as ‘normal’.
I’m in a good place now and have recently finished a period of study which restricted how much time and effort I could spend on caring for and uncovering my aspie self. Now I find myself without the structure of study and other commitments, I find I have no individual thought or drive.
My whole life has been dedicated to fitting in; at the expense of my genuine interests/thoughts/feelings. I literally can’t remember the last time a genuinely and thoroughly enjoyed myself and had fun – I honestly think the last time would have been as a child.
So now as I attempt to ask myself ‘what do you really enjoy and want to do?’, I have no idea. My reflex answer would be to work so I don’t have chance to think or feel.
Can I ask what people do to indulge their autistic selves and really let go, away from social pressures? Or how people cope with masking and keeping in touch with their true selves?