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Hard time following rules accidentally

Discussion in 'PDD-NOS, Social Anxiety and Others' started by Rat, Dec 2, 2020.

  1. Rat

    Rat New Member

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    Does anyone have a hard time following rules? Not on purpose though, like they accidentally break rules a lot. I always end up breaking rules that I don't remember or I too impulsively do something that's against the rules before I think "oh wait I shouldn't do that". Like a lot of times I will swear when I really shouldn't (work, school, etc.) even though I generally try not to. I also accidentally swear a lot on websites where its not allowed. Or I will end up doing something that is not allowed because I forgot it wasn't allowed. Because of this I will get anxious at times that I will end up doing something against the rules and get in trouble.
     
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  2. MyLifeAsAnAspie

    MyLifeAsAnAspie Active Member

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    Our anxiety is probably the reason we are known for following the rules more than others. No, I follow rules much better than most people.
     
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  3. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    This l get. We have to not do this or this. But the parameters we live in don't include much judgement so we tolerate off the grid behavior including swearing or loosely interpreting rules. In fact l am always evaluating what are the rules and are they followed or is it just mouth action?
     
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    Rat New Member

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    ngl I tend to also not follow rules that I see as dumb/don't want to follow but a part of that comes with following rules that I dont personally care about that much. If I want to stay some places or not get in trouble I generally have to follow rules. I find if you follow most of the rules people are more lax about the ones you do break (not always but its harder to get in trouble if you break less rules anyways) I just also have a hard time remembering what they are and get anxious I will be breaking a rule I have 0 desire to even break and get in trouble for it.
     
  5. Au Naturel

    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    Absolutely! I get doubly confused when the rules are not applied equally. He did "X" and nobody cared. Obviously, that means "X" is okay to do. Right? Why am I punished for doing "X"?
     
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    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    Yes. Especially rules that are not part of my routine. Like the covid lockdown rules, remembering to wear the mask when going out, for example.
     
  7. HeroOfHyrule

    HeroOfHyrule Chicken Chaser

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    I try really hard to follow rules but do this, where I forget one or act on an impulse. I'm used to getting reprimanded for it so now I'm really anxious about breaking rules.

    I've never understood this and it's really frustrating, especially when people get mad. I always want to ask "Why are you mad if the rule obviously isn't that important to you since you let someone else break it?" but people get more mad if you question them.
     
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