This is a scale that me and my therapist created a while ago. I modified it a bit as things happened but this is what I experience when I went to Chuch, parties, out and about.
0 – Do not attend.
1 – Sneak out.
2 – A guy I already know says Hi to me.
3 – I approach a guy I do know for a conversation.
4 – A guy I already know approaches me for a longer conversation.
5 – A married couple I don't know approaches me for a conversation. Happens often. 50/100 odds.
6 – I approach a woman I do know for a conversation.
7 – A guy I don't know approaches me for a conversation. Happens often. 60/100 odds.
8 – A woman approaches me, and we exchange "Hi's." Happened once.
The last two never happened.
9 – A woman possibly single I do not know around my age or younger approaches me or while sitting next starts a conversation. 1/100 odds. IR.
10 – I approach a woman possibly single I do not know around my age or younger for a conversation.
By the way I know girls from Church but I "only" meet them in small life groups where social interaction is harder to avoid.
If it was in Church or big social gatherings my odds drop to 1/100 number 9 unless married couples then 50/100 number 5. Matter of fact meet most couples in bigger events so number 5 is easier and common.
Thanks to medication number 6 is easier. Matter of fact during a group I asked a girl I know if we can exchange WhatsApp chat. Number 7 is harder because it's more annoying and happens quite often even when sitting next to girls I don't know.
Thanks to the pandemic I never attempted number 10 possibly metting an Aspie girl with possible worse odds than 1/100 as I have not meet any Aspies at Church but as misery is all Church events were canceled.
0 – Do not attend.
1 – Sneak out.
2 – A guy I already know says Hi to me.
3 – I approach a guy I do know for a conversation.
4 – A guy I already know approaches me for a longer conversation.
5 – A married couple I don't know approaches me for a conversation. Happens often. 50/100 odds.
6 – I approach a woman I do know for a conversation.
7 – A guy I don't know approaches me for a conversation. Happens often. 60/100 odds.
8 – A woman approaches me, and we exchange "Hi's." Happened once.
The last two never happened.
9 – A woman possibly single I do not know around my age or younger approaches me or while sitting next starts a conversation. 1/100 odds. IR.
10 – I approach a woman possibly single I do not know around my age or younger for a conversation.
By the way I know girls from Church but I "only" meet them in small life groups where social interaction is harder to avoid.
If it was in Church or big social gatherings my odds drop to 1/100 number 9 unless married couples then 50/100 number 5. Matter of fact meet most couples in bigger events so number 5 is easier and common.
Thanks to medication number 6 is easier. Matter of fact during a group I asked a girl I know if we can exchange WhatsApp chat. Number 7 is harder because it's more annoying and happens quite often even when sitting next to girls I don't know.
Thanks to the pandemic I never attempted number 10 possibly metting an Aspie girl with possible worse odds than 1/100 as I have not meet any Aspies at Church but as misery is all Church events were canceled.
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