Good Morning

[Raggamuffin]

One of the directors comes in. He always confidently strides down the office and announces "Morning" to each desk clump. As he approaches ours, I look him directly in the eye, smile and say "Morning" and he looks at me, says nothing, and walks past.

He's done this regularly to me. I don't know why, but I find it very upsetting. I internalise it as some form of microaggression on his part, and my heart sinks and I start to feel worthless or defective.

Personally, I think it might be a case of lookism. I don't look anything like anyone else in the office. Nobody else has facial piercings, or a lots of tattoos, or dresses differently. I should be used to the stigma that standing out causes. But sometimes it cuts deep, even though to a lot of people this is probably a trivial matter.

I get this vibe off him though, which goes beyond how he's ignored me many a time. There's something not right with him in terms of character. I can't place what it is - but his vibe is wrong. His daughter came to work her for 2 summers and she was extremely timid, shy and seemingly nervous. I've got a feeling he's probably very controlling and possibly verbally abusing.

I know, to some that might be a huge leap. But as I said - I'm going with my intuition here, and I can just tell when there is something fundamentally off with some people.

Ed

 

[Nemesis_2k7]

sounds controlling and passive agressive to me. and singling you out..because why? seems like he is making a point of saying hello to everyone but you. in my experience, thats control. next time he goes to do it, find a way not to notice him, act busy, use the restroom, anything to avoid him. then he CANT do it. thats what i do in situations like those. and if the person becomes irritable around me afterward, i come to the conclusion, that they are control freaks, and are only doing it to select people. its a form of control and domination. covert. and its wrong.

and the daughter being nervous and timid around her father is another red flag for sure. he sounds like an egotist to me, already.

 

[watersprite]

I've got a feeling he's probably very controlling and possibly verbally abusing.

I agree. I grew up around people like that and the behaviour is/was the same pattern. I got away from them. Long story.
I believe that director will always see you as irritating &/or even a threat to his sense of his own power.
I’d be tempted to say good morning to him in front of the the other directors. But that’s me.

 

[OkRad]

Let it roll if you can. Never let a stupid person ruffle your neurons.

 

[Alexej]

Yes it is upsetting and unfair.

Show you are bigger than he is by still wishing him a "Good Morning"

 

[tree]

"He always confidently strides down the office and announces "Morning" to each desk clump. As he approaches ours, I look him directly in the eye, smile and say "Morning" and he looks at me, says nothing, and walks past."
@Raggamuffin

He speaks first to the others?
But you usurp his *privilege* by greeting him first?

Is that it ?

 

[Raggamuffin]

I'm not too sure, but I've encountered my fair share of people who seem very outgoing and charismatic around lots of people - but clam up entirely around me.

I walked past him on the way from the kitchen earlier. Again, just a stony silence and stare from him as he walked past me. It feels quite unnerving, especially when I meet his gaze with a smile.

Might start looking at the floor when I walk past him. Annoying really, as I've been making a solid effort in recent years to look people in the eye and smile when I walk past them. Virtually all strangers I do this to reciprocate in kind. Whereas I've worked for this guys company for over 2 and a half years and this guys is a bit of a brick wall for me.

Ed

 

[Magna]

 

[Suzette]

Buddha would tell you to stop noticing him not noticing.

 

[Fino]

I would ignore him entirely. You're both acting out, thus creating a relationship with one another. Obviously, it's an unhealthy one.

 

[Gracey]

Enjoy being you, Ed
Does your day pivot around this bloke's salutations?
If, subconsciously, your appearance rattles his power steering then that's on him. It's also something you could never really know for sure.

Let it go. Enjoy your day being you

 

[Raggamuffin]

The director, it`s not this guy, is it?

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Not that guy, no. But he does have a murky vibe. Looks like a Nazi war criminal

"I was just following orders"

Ed

 

[Au Naturel]

One of the directors comes in. He always confidently strides down the office and announces "Morning" to each desk clump. As he approaches ours, I look him directly in the eye, smile and say "Morning" and he looks at me, says nothing, and walks past.

He's done this regularly to me. I don't know why, but I find it very upsetting. I internalise it as some form of microaggression on his part, and my heart sinks and I start to feel worthless or defective.

Personally, I think it might be a case of lookism. I don't look anything like anyone else in the office. Nobody else has facial piercings, or a lots of tattoos, or dresses differently. I should be used to the stigma that standing out causes. But sometimes it cuts deep, even though to a lot of people this is probably a trivial matter.

I get this vibe off him though, which goes beyond how he's ignored me many a time. There's something not right with him in terms of character. I can't place what it is - but his vibe is wrong. His daughter came to work her for 2 summers and she was extremely timid, shy and seemingly nervous. I've got a feeling he's probably very controlling and possibly verbally abusing.

I know, to some that might be a huge leap. But as I said - I'm going with my intuition here, and I can just tell when there is something fundamentally off with some people.

Ed

Does anyone else "Look him directly in the eye, smile, and say 'Morning'" before he says it to them? He could be taking it as a bit of insubordination.