So recently I had a good friend come over and he has been getting very/overly comfortable at my house. I'm very verbal to people I know and choose to be friends with about my OCD triggers and such and I know I've repeatedly told this friend more than others. He came over for the long weekend and triggered me in various ways which has lead to a series of repercussions incl an extreme atopic eczema flare.
So first off the 3 main triggers that were set off was time management/planning, empty glass bottles laying around (being messy) in my "safe space" and loud noises. The issues have been progressively getting worse as he comes here nearly every weekend. This long weekend was the worst I have ever experienced and my wife had to help me calm down and also put medication on my atopic eczema. He recently started talking to this girl via text and was constantly messaging her and seemed unaware of his actions.
I'm not good with people and often end up chasing people away as I don't know how to communicate in a "friendly" manner (My wife says I'm extremely direct and come off insensitive).
What I want to know is how can I communicate with my friend in a friendly manner and ask him to please be more considerate? Should my wife try talk to him instead of me? I'm very worried about losing another friend...
So first off the 3 main triggers that were set off was time management/planning, empty glass bottles laying around (being messy) in my "safe space" and loud noises. The issues have been progressively getting worse as he comes here nearly every weekend. This long weekend was the worst I have ever experienced and my wife had to help me calm down and also put medication on my atopic eczema. He recently started talking to this girl via text and was constantly messaging her and seemed unaware of his actions.
I'm not good with people and often end up chasing people away as I don't know how to communicate in a "friendly" manner (My wife says I'm extremely direct and come off insensitive).
What I want to know is how can I communicate with my friend in a friendly manner and ask him to please be more considerate? Should my wife try talk to him instead of me? I'm very worried about losing another friend...