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Feels Good To Own My ASD

Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Dr. Eh Hol, Dec 31, 2019.

  1. Dr. Eh Hol

    Dr. Eh Hol not a real doctor

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    Hello everyone.

    It's neat to see that there are forums for ASD people, and after accepting that I am somewhere on the spectrum I feel free to be me. No more wondering why I'm like this, instead my attitude is: I'm ASD, what's wrong with you?

    Some background to understand me - I grew up in a very poor household with no medical diagnosis or intervention, so I was treated like a mischievous little jerk and never felt understood. Given no leeway, I adapted to social surroundings as best I could and have learned a lot about normal people and how to understand their weirdness. I ended up living in my car for a while in my teens, and slowly my life has been improving. I met a lovely crippled girl and together we have worked our way into a stable and fruitful middle-class existence. Social mobility has taught me even more about normalcy and the baggage it carries, and for the past few years I have been happy to have my version of ASD and the benefits gleaned to make life as easy and enjoyable as possible - without all the social airs and, what I consider, outright lies. I think I can help people do the same.

    Also, I used to be very obese. Over the past several years I have been riding my bikes and lifting weights. I dropped almost a hundred pounds of fat and then put on about thirty pounds of muscle. This transformation has given me a lot more insight into how society treats individuals and I testify to it.

    As a heads-up, I am not mean but I am blunt and often don't give weight to colloquial meanings behind terms and ideas. I am working to housetrain myself, but I'm sure I will step on some toes or say something that is misunderstood. I hope that this is expected in an ASD forum, but I know there are normies on here and professionalism must be somewhat maintained. I will do my best to clear and not too aloof on sensitive topics.

    I am not a real doctor. I put that in my username as a slight to all the adults, teachers, and medical practitioners that never took my concerns seriously; that never looked past the mischievous little jerk to ask why. I would have been much happier very early in my life if one of them would have been smart enough to notice what was going on.
     
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    Isadoorian Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Welcome to the Forums! I hope you make new friends and enjoy your stay in the process! :)
     
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    Bolletje Overly complicated potato V.I.P Member

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    Welcome!
     
  4. Wolf Prince

    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    Still a neat name.
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    There is nothing wrong with being either neurotypical or on the spectrum. The wrong comes if you disparage or abuse one or the other.
     
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    Welcome!
     
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    Hi and welcome. I'm glad you found us, this is a friendly and useful place for support and ideas about autism. Yes recognition of high autistic traits or Aspergers is patchy and we are often left to cope as best we can. And to find out about it and self diagnose, which I did after a lot of work in therapy over many years.

    Yeah would have been good to know sooner in some ways, although with the ignorance and stigma that's out there, it's more for my own work on myself that I am glad to know, as sharing my understanding of myself in this area isn't usually positive.

    I hope you enjoy it here, there's plenty of useful information and threads to read and respond to.

    :herb::palmtree::seedling::evergreen::fourleaf::deciduous::leafwind:
     
  8. SolarPoweredNightOwl

    SolarPoweredNightOwl Walking contradiction

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    Love the name. ;)
     
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    Alexej Well-Known Member

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    Welcome to this forum.
     
  10. Dr. Eh Hol

    Dr. Eh Hol not a real doctor

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    I must say, after cruising around this forum for a few days, this is the strangest forum I've ever seen: so many people are nice; posts and responses are thoughtful and attentive; I've seen no evidence of back-biting trolls; the whole community is supportive and embracing; weirdness and anti-social behavior is understood.

    I don't know if I can cope with such a wholesome environment after living amongst non-ASDs my whole life.
     
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    Judge Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    A tad disconcerting, isn't it? ;)

    Where it's gratifying to discover that we are not as profoundly alone as we once may have thought. :cool:
     
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  12. Dr. Eh Hol

    Dr. Eh Hol not a real doctor

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    Quite disconcerting, if not a little off-putting for reasons I'm unable to articulate.

    In all honesty, I'm starting to suspect that I'm profoundly more autistic than I had previously assessed. You all seem normal to me...except for the politeness, that's not normal. Makes me think the world would be utopic if everyone were on the spectrum.
     
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    Dr. Eh Hol not a real doctor

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    Ooop - I figured out why I find this place a pinch off-putting: Whenever I run across someone that is polite and thoughtful, my default is to be suspicious that they are trying to trick or harm me. It's a self-defense mechanism from experience.

    I articulate it as the happy clown versus the evil clown: the evil clown is not scary because it's intentions are clear, the happy clown is terrifying because it's intentions are hidden.

    This is my problem and not an accurate assessment of the site or anyone on it.
     
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    Most autism forums share the aspect of not considering autistic traits, interests, behaviors as strange/weird. But the level of civility/politeness here is not due to an autistic trait. Those of us who have been on autism forums for a long while can attest that is not always the case, and can be just as unpleasant as any mainstream forum. It has been maintained by a good progression of moderators and also perhaps by something of a consistent prevalent group-think here, that it should remain a non-threatening place.
     
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  15. Amanda Nyborg

    Amanda Nyborg Active Member

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    It feels great to be a part of an ASD group that owns it I am still learning this and trying to own it myself
     
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  16. Crossbreed

    Crossbreed Neur-D Missionary ☝

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    Hello & welcome.
    (To me) that is more suspicious when said "civility" is an exception rather than the rule.
    Here is some good info, now,

    Autlanders, Thriving Outside of the Box: Finding Support Resources in the USA...