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I've kinda fell into this hole of not caring for or looking for romantic relationship with girls.
Which isn't a problem. I'm pretty spooky about that kinda relationship anyway.
But, I'm wondering if it's a loss.
The first longer-term relationship after I started dating at 25 ended. It actually gave me more confidence because from that I knew it was possible for me and I learned more about what I desired, and to make the next one work by recognizing those aspects in women.If it ever ends, I wonder if I'll eventually be able to slip back into not caring? Or is it like cursed knowledge, that being alone becomes unendurable by contrasting memory?
The first longer-term relationship after I started dating at 25 ended. It actually gave me more confidence because from that I knew it was possible for me and I learned more about what I desired, and to make the next one work by recognizing those aspects in women.
Yep. And I learned that there was more than physical beauty, though when I first laid eyes on her, I thought: How svelte. How elegant.It's nice when it's an equal amount of learning on both sides.
Of course. But there are two things that can mitigate that? First, it is still a numbers game and sometimes it is hard to play because of various social handicaps that ASD saddles us with. Secondly, as one gains even a little experience, one understands better how to recognize those with characteristics one values in a person, and this makes the numbers game easier.It's mostly pure luck to find someone who understands you.