novart
Well-Known Member
(this is cross-posted from another forum I frequent, I respect this forum and want to get it's opinion too)
Over the past year since my diagnosis at the age of 31 (not through him, but a previous guy my parents had me see) I've been able to make it a lot of strides in understanding myself. I had been struggling through disaster after disaster in life, likely traumatized by not knowing what was wrong with me and why all sounds seemed to echo through my body. It drove me nuts and I'm so grateful to finally understand it all.
Now however my parents have found this family therapist type who I have never met and now refuse to meet. It seems they like how much he has convinced them that this all my fault, i've been treated with more and more disrespect since he's signed on. I tried telling him that I don't blame my parents, but we have to accept the neglect that happened in the past in order to move. Lately the tactic has been to praise me, then immediately get away with something (eg: being loud around me). Isn't this what ABA training is? It's making me feel like an animal, and it has yet to work and when it doesn't there is an incredible amount of hostility toward me. I told him he's just playing on the same narcaccism that saw me suffer undiagnosed for three decades, that I can get over it so long as I'm unhindered and allowed to progress. He responded with this:
"Sure, [my name]. Smoking weed, sleeping all day, leaving the house for a couple of minutes, playing video games and watching television all on your parents dime? And they are narcissist? Everyone is. Bottom line...earn your way through life and stop blaming your parents and making excuses. Everyone has challenges. Everyone."
I smoked weed because that was the only thing, person or not, that ever actually helped me. I smoke about 1/4 less than I did at the beginning of my diagnosis. I don't play video games anymore. TV keeps me calm while I work (and now I'm aware why). I was physically abused (shoved against the back of an oven) at my last job, which was only minimum wage anyway.
I'm terrified of this guy. What can I do? This is his website: Home, but outside of it and a few sites that seem to be the exact same thing, I can't actually find any information on him or this service. I have a feeling this is going to lead to my end, it's hard to realize my last chances have been pinned on this guy. I was doing great relative to myself and my whole life - until he showed up. I wish I had an advocate, I feel like I'm drowning.
Over the past year since my diagnosis at the age of 31 (not through him, but a previous guy my parents had me see) I've been able to make it a lot of strides in understanding myself. I had been struggling through disaster after disaster in life, likely traumatized by not knowing what was wrong with me and why all sounds seemed to echo through my body. It drove me nuts and I'm so grateful to finally understand it all.
Now however my parents have found this family therapist type who I have never met and now refuse to meet. It seems they like how much he has convinced them that this all my fault, i've been treated with more and more disrespect since he's signed on. I tried telling him that I don't blame my parents, but we have to accept the neglect that happened in the past in order to move. Lately the tactic has been to praise me, then immediately get away with something (eg: being loud around me). Isn't this what ABA training is? It's making me feel like an animal, and it has yet to work and when it doesn't there is an incredible amount of hostility toward me. I told him he's just playing on the same narcaccism that saw me suffer undiagnosed for three decades, that I can get over it so long as I'm unhindered and allowed to progress. He responded with this:
"Sure, [my name]. Smoking weed, sleeping all day, leaving the house for a couple of minutes, playing video games and watching television all on your parents dime? And they are narcissist? Everyone is. Bottom line...earn your way through life and stop blaming your parents and making excuses. Everyone has challenges. Everyone."
I smoked weed because that was the only thing, person or not, that ever actually helped me. I smoke about 1/4 less than I did at the beginning of my diagnosis. I don't play video games anymore. TV keeps me calm while I work (and now I'm aware why). I was physically abused (shoved against the back of an oven) at my last job, which was only minimum wage anyway.
I'm terrified of this guy. What can I do? This is his website: Home, but outside of it and a few sites that seem to be the exact same thing, I can't actually find any information on him or this service. I have a feeling this is going to lead to my end, it's hard to realize my last chances have been pinned on this guy. I was doing great relative to myself and my whole life - until he showed up. I wish I had an advocate, I feel like I'm drowning.