I have an older brother. We haven't been too close and he caused more of my meltdowns and panic attacks than I care to remember. Maybe if we both were 'on the same page', we would be closer - isn't it what should normally happen between two kids that got only each other, metaphorically locked down in a dark place that cannot really be called childhood? And yet we were always so different that we went out of our ways to hurt each other, not knowing how to connect. It's better now, after I left. Sometimes you realise that you care for someone only after you don't see them for years.
He got married two years ago. Now he's going to be a father. I'm going to be an aunt and the possibility of him asking me to be a godmather is rather high.
What I mean, is that I never saw myself as a mother material. Not a mother, not a godmother, not even a distant aunt. I don't think that I am a good choice for any of these roles. Yes, I did turn less... sharp-edged with time but it doesn't make me a good godmather material. Especially for his child. It also doesn't take back all these things that happened between us.
I don't know how to be a sibling, not to mention how to be an aunt. It's a great responsibility, isn't it? I cannot see myself fullfilling this role well, that role of caring for something so small and delicate, even if not 'full-time', possibly not even 'part-time'.
But if it's going to happen anyway, I can at least do what I can. So, if you have any advice for me concerning that role I'd be grateful, since I have no idea how a good family should work and where exactly does my role lie in there.
He got married two years ago. Now he's going to be a father. I'm going to be an aunt and the possibility of him asking me to be a godmather is rather high.
What I mean, is that I never saw myself as a mother material. Not a mother, not a godmother, not even a distant aunt. I don't think that I am a good choice for any of these roles. Yes, I did turn less... sharp-edged with time but it doesn't make me a good godmather material. Especially for his child. It also doesn't take back all these things that happened between us.
I don't know how to be a sibling, not to mention how to be an aunt. It's a great responsibility, isn't it? I cannot see myself fullfilling this role well, that role of caring for something so small and delicate, even if not 'full-time', possibly not even 'part-time'.
But if it's going to happen anyway, I can at least do what I can. So, if you have any advice for me concerning that role I'd be grateful, since I have no idea how a good family should work and where exactly does my role lie in there.