Aspergirl4hire
Mage, Sage, Revolutionary
"We're like family." Conventionally this is said of friends who are closer than usual, whatever that is.
Everyone has a "family of origin." At its smallest, that's a single parent. An "extended family" includes in-laws and cousinly degrees so faint that lineage depends upon social convention. "Street family" are homeless individuals who sleep together and watch out for each other.
What's an "aspie family?" How does being aspie as parent, or aspie as child, change the way family works? What is a family, to you? What do you want it to be? And what do you bring to a group that seeks some closeness, when our minds have problems with the social glue that makes closeness possible?
What does it mean when friends are family? What roles get blurred? What truths are affirmed?
I love friends deeply, which seems to mean that I will admit to things not admirable, and the shame of them and the forgiveness of the friends enables me to do better in future. My own family are the people around me who accept who I am and that I have a place with them, and them with me. My family of origin is totally estranged; I've been an orphan for years, and will soon be a survivor.
There was a thread once about the nine kinds of love. I captured them and put them on my refrigerator:
Agape: Selfless, altruistic love; spiritual love; universal love of mankind.
Eros: Passionate physical and emotional love; stereotype of romantic love.
Ludus: Love that is played as a game or sport; conquest; playful love.
Mania: Highly volatile love; obsession.
Philautia: Self-love based on self-respect.
Philia: Comradely love of friendship; loyalty, as between brothers (and sisters!) in arms.
Phrenic: Intellectual love of any kind; intellectually-based love of a person.
Pragma: Practical love that is driven as much by the head as the heart; mature, enduring love.
Storge: Affectionate love of kinship; familial love; love based on similarity.
Everyone has a "family of origin." At its smallest, that's a single parent. An "extended family" includes in-laws and cousinly degrees so faint that lineage depends upon social convention. "Street family" are homeless individuals who sleep together and watch out for each other.
What's an "aspie family?" How does being aspie as parent, or aspie as child, change the way family works? What is a family, to you? What do you want it to be? And what do you bring to a group that seeks some closeness, when our minds have problems with the social glue that makes closeness possible?
What does it mean when friends are family? What roles get blurred? What truths are affirmed?
I love friends deeply, which seems to mean that I will admit to things not admirable, and the shame of them and the forgiveness of the friends enables me to do better in future. My own family are the people around me who accept who I am and that I have a place with them, and them with me. My family of origin is totally estranged; I've been an orphan for years, and will soon be a survivor.
There was a thread once about the nine kinds of love. I captured them and put them on my refrigerator:
Agape: Selfless, altruistic love; spiritual love; universal love of mankind.
Eros: Passionate physical and emotional love; stereotype of romantic love.
Ludus: Love that is played as a game or sport; conquest; playful love.
Mania: Highly volatile love; obsession.
Philautia: Self-love based on self-respect.
Philia: Comradely love of friendship; loyalty, as between brothers (and sisters!) in arms.
Phrenic: Intellectual love of any kind; intellectually-based love of a person.
Pragma: Practical love that is driven as much by the head as the heart; mature, enduring love.
Storge: Affectionate love of kinship; familial love; love based on similarity.
- What kinds of love connect you to others?
- How have they blended and worked when they've worked most successfully?
- Does love cast out fear?