RainbowAura
On the outside wishing I was something
I was raised by my mother as totally dependent on her. She was a very dramatic and over emotional person who cotton wool balled me. She has borderline traits and had no steady good relationships either. She is narcissistic too and confuses me if she wants me indeodent or not and abuses me and makes choices for me
I never knew how to do anything. To do this day (26 years old) I haven’t learnt how thr world operates. I don’t know how things are built, how people get to and fro, manage stress, go to work, plan and just normal people things. I didn’t even have an I.d
I can’t cook well, clean, executive functioning is hard, find it hard to read (worsened over the years) and can’t even catch a bus. I’ve looked at time tables online but I’m confused how I’d manage without losing my money, missing the bus and all of it. I got a bus card online though. Taxis I am not sure how to budget.. I can’t budget, meal plan or know how to handle any crisis. I panic without my mother. I’ve sought help by asking when I’ve seen a therapist. They said they’d help. Nothing came.
I’m easily confused, easily overwhelmed and find the world very scary.
I recently I saw a really abusive psychologist took my mother and I to see her. She was just awful and I reported her to no avail. I have all a bad track record of leaving therapists due to mistreatment. This has been tainted by the “therapists” to them when I have records of all they did to me. I’ve left courses and studies due to not having support or told in other words to leave. But it’s been twisted.
I also have a c-ptsd label which is true. I also have severe social phobia. I have had no friends since I was 13 years old and spent most of my time at home since then.
I’m currently at an eating disorder clinic which I’m causing a scene at. There is a story with that too. I guess my background is on their label. I’ve had eye rolls and mistreatment. They don’t accept my allergies and sensitives and are being rude. I’m forced food I can’t due to budget they say and they said they don’t believe me. One staff member who hates me said “are you goijg to be here this weekend?” (They all hage knowledge of the going ons and no one has told me anything how things operate here.. I’ve had to ask so many questions). She said it with sarcasm and “secret knowledge” as I didn’t know what she meant. (They keep doing this and not telling me things and I keep breaking rules accidentally). She said something about weakened is leave if you’ve been there a while but her previous comment didn’t indicate that (people frequently confuse me or ignore me or talk over me and treat me as a child). She said “oh don’t mess that up ok?” With bitchiness, she watched me eat and more drama with my eating as I didn’t eat the tomato. I seem to be causing a roar as I do everywhere I go. I’m not a bad person but keep having to ask questions. I am vegan so this is irritating them and my questions I’ve had to keep asking (I don’t understand how this place operates.. lots is under lock and key here and lots I don’t know staff say different stuff)
I feel totally and utterly worthless. I wanted to take photos of my meal last night but because I’m traumatised by family abuse and being at thr hosptisl for a week I got mad and demanded I do (it isn’t on any rules on my book). And another staff member said “well no one else is”. I did anyway. I felt sick doing it but I’m fed up, To be honest I’m tired of people being treated with exemption like some seem to here and stupid rules which they make up which aren’t on guided or booklets. I’m tired of being pushed around. I was at a respite recently and caused a scene with my diet again and had a huge row with someone there. He treated me like a stupid 5 year old and laughed st me. He laughed and said “ohhhh what do u wanna be a nurse or dr?” I just felt like I’m a pushover and forced foods and things I don’t want. It comes off me looking like a brat. If I don’t speak up then I’m even more a pushover. All my life I’ve been silent. Now I complain (doesn’t do any good) online. I get stares from staff at my drs room now.. (don’t think it’s just due to me being underweight)...
my last drs practice is as so mistreated and my mother took. I’m constantly a pushover.. I’m fed up. I had another support worker recently I quit due to him making little stabs at my looks and not helping me as the system glamourised it as being call this stuff they’d do (sick of the lies)
I want to work as a librarian but overwhelmed by studies, cost and where to get support. I can’t drive... my mother has dumped me here in other words until I get fat. I’m miserable. I don’t know when to do this or that.
The reason I joined this forum my abusive mother had a councillor years ago who said I have Aspergers. I do relate to it and adhd as well. I always struggled at school but did better at English. My mum did homework for me which was wrong but I underexcelled and have always had trouble understanding and learning. I never understood why. I failed basic maths at school. I always felt something was wrong with me. Physically, mentally, spiritually and all ways. I was bullied badly but felt so much pain inside. I’ve felt like I’m not meant to be nere and an alien. It’s an unusual feeling. I’ve neber related to other people or been able to connect. I prefer being on my own but it hurts. lol I want is my mother. Recently my mother abandoned me in a respite and I was in crisis mode of being homeless. It was a joke to staff .. but that’s another story.
I was a very lonely child and had minimal friends which took off fast. I played alone and always wondered why no one wanted me.
I’m seen as constantly difficult and a pain and cause some sort of whirlwind of trouble and enemies everywhere I go because I’m misunderstood and offbeat. I’m confused by thr world now I’m dumped around it. It’s scsry. I recently decided with mums help to get I.d. And was very awkward and confused over it and made a fool of myself.
I’m considered a brat(all my life), demanding, uncaring and selfish (told all my life)
And keep getting enemies. My abusive mother thinks and tells I’m cold, mental, messed up, no one would want me.. etc. I want to live on my own but unsure how to go about it with the isolation and support I’d need it will traumatic. And the system keeps failing me.
I’m honestly really loving and have a huge heart. I come off as dull and quiet and dumb to others but I’m hurting and in a traumatic state due to abuse and abandonment and what has happened to me in my life.
I feel I’m constantly being lied to by professionals by what they offer or will do and it doesn’t come. Othersseem to get special exemptions or treatment.
I feel very incapable and have learned helplessness form my mother I feel. I’m unsure what to do with support due to nz’s underfunding and my social phobia. People tell me “oh well!” With hate and to in otherwords.. “get over it”.
I can’t even make a bed well. Or plan outfits. Or know how to wash or when to make a bed. I’m walked over as I don’t know how to speak up, when I do I cause a drama and it adds to my records everyone seems to get.. everyone at this eating disorder clinic would’ve read them.. everyone knows about me.. even staff at the hospital knew about my anorexia and they gossiped and stared as I walked by “oh she has an eating disorder”
Why do I have an eating disorder? I was unable to meal plan after I decided to go vegan and make my own meals, I had severe depression , I couldn’t budget, my mother controlled and manipulated me and what I could get. Eventually my mind gave up trying. I felt overwhelmed by the maths, scales, fractions (can’t do it) and meal planning as my mind can’t handle it
I’m in a very depressive bad place right now and I’m exhausted asking for help on things
I never knew how to do anything. To do this day (26 years old) I haven’t learnt how thr world operates. I don’t know how things are built, how people get to and fro, manage stress, go to work, plan and just normal people things. I didn’t even have an I.d
I can’t cook well, clean, executive functioning is hard, find it hard to read (worsened over the years) and can’t even catch a bus. I’ve looked at time tables online but I’m confused how I’d manage without losing my money, missing the bus and all of it. I got a bus card online though. Taxis I am not sure how to budget.. I can’t budget, meal plan or know how to handle any crisis. I panic without my mother. I’ve sought help by asking when I’ve seen a therapist. They said they’d help. Nothing came.
I’m easily confused, easily overwhelmed and find the world very scary.
I recently I saw a really abusive psychologist took my mother and I to see her. She was just awful and I reported her to no avail. I have all a bad track record of leaving therapists due to mistreatment. This has been tainted by the “therapists” to them when I have records of all they did to me. I’ve left courses and studies due to not having support or told in other words to leave. But it’s been twisted.
I also have a c-ptsd label which is true. I also have severe social phobia. I have had no friends since I was 13 years old and spent most of my time at home since then.
I’m currently at an eating disorder clinic which I’m causing a scene at. There is a story with that too. I guess my background is on their label. I’ve had eye rolls and mistreatment. They don’t accept my allergies and sensitives and are being rude. I’m forced food I can’t due to budget they say and they said they don’t believe me. One staff member who hates me said “are you goijg to be here this weekend?” (They all hage knowledge of the going ons and no one has told me anything how things operate here.. I’ve had to ask so many questions). She said it with sarcasm and “secret knowledge” as I didn’t know what she meant. (They keep doing this and not telling me things and I keep breaking rules accidentally). She said something about weakened is leave if you’ve been there a while but her previous comment didn’t indicate that (people frequently confuse me or ignore me or talk over me and treat me as a child). She said “oh don’t mess that up ok?” With bitchiness, she watched me eat and more drama with my eating as I didn’t eat the tomato. I seem to be causing a roar as I do everywhere I go. I’m not a bad person but keep having to ask questions. I am vegan so this is irritating them and my questions I’ve had to keep asking (I don’t understand how this place operates.. lots is under lock and key here and lots I don’t know staff say different stuff)
I feel totally and utterly worthless. I wanted to take photos of my meal last night but because I’m traumatised by family abuse and being at thr hosptisl for a week I got mad and demanded I do (it isn’t on any rules on my book). And another staff member said “well no one else is”. I did anyway. I felt sick doing it but I’m fed up, To be honest I’m tired of people being treated with exemption like some seem to here and stupid rules which they make up which aren’t on guided or booklets. I’m tired of being pushed around. I was at a respite recently and caused a scene with my diet again and had a huge row with someone there. He treated me like a stupid 5 year old and laughed st me. He laughed and said “ohhhh what do u wanna be a nurse or dr?” I just felt like I’m a pushover and forced foods and things I don’t want. It comes off me looking like a brat. If I don’t speak up then I’m even more a pushover. All my life I’ve been silent. Now I complain (doesn’t do any good) online. I get stares from staff at my drs room now.. (don’t think it’s just due to me being underweight)...
my last drs practice is as so mistreated and my mother took. I’m constantly a pushover.. I’m fed up. I had another support worker recently I quit due to him making little stabs at my looks and not helping me as the system glamourised it as being call this stuff they’d do (sick of the lies)
I want to work as a librarian but overwhelmed by studies, cost and where to get support. I can’t drive... my mother has dumped me here in other words until I get fat. I’m miserable. I don’t know when to do this or that.
The reason I joined this forum my abusive mother had a councillor years ago who said I have Aspergers. I do relate to it and adhd as well. I always struggled at school but did better at English. My mum did homework for me which was wrong but I underexcelled and have always had trouble understanding and learning. I never understood why. I failed basic maths at school. I always felt something was wrong with me. Physically, mentally, spiritually and all ways. I was bullied badly but felt so much pain inside. I’ve felt like I’m not meant to be nere and an alien. It’s an unusual feeling. I’ve neber related to other people or been able to connect. I prefer being on my own but it hurts. lol I want is my mother. Recently my mother abandoned me in a respite and I was in crisis mode of being homeless. It was a joke to staff .. but that’s another story.
I was a very lonely child and had minimal friends which took off fast. I played alone and always wondered why no one wanted me.
I’m seen as constantly difficult and a pain and cause some sort of whirlwind of trouble and enemies everywhere I go because I’m misunderstood and offbeat. I’m confused by thr world now I’m dumped around it. It’s scsry. I recently decided with mums help to get I.d. And was very awkward and confused over it and made a fool of myself.
I’m considered a brat(all my life), demanding, uncaring and selfish (told all my life)
And keep getting enemies. My abusive mother thinks and tells I’m cold, mental, messed up, no one would want me.. etc. I want to live on my own but unsure how to go about it with the isolation and support I’d need it will traumatic. And the system keeps failing me.
I’m honestly really loving and have a huge heart. I come off as dull and quiet and dumb to others but I’m hurting and in a traumatic state due to abuse and abandonment and what has happened to me in my life.
I feel I’m constantly being lied to by professionals by what they offer or will do and it doesn’t come. Othersseem to get special exemptions or treatment.
I feel very incapable and have learned helplessness form my mother I feel. I’m unsure what to do with support due to nz’s underfunding and my social phobia. People tell me “oh well!” With hate and to in otherwords.. “get over it”.
I can’t even make a bed well. Or plan outfits. Or know how to wash or when to make a bed. I’m walked over as I don’t know how to speak up, when I do I cause a drama and it adds to my records everyone seems to get.. everyone at this eating disorder clinic would’ve read them.. everyone knows about me.. even staff at the hospital knew about my anorexia and they gossiped and stared as I walked by “oh she has an eating disorder”
Why do I have an eating disorder? I was unable to meal plan after I decided to go vegan and make my own meals, I had severe depression , I couldn’t budget, my mother controlled and manipulated me and what I could get. Eventually my mind gave up trying. I felt overwhelmed by the maths, scales, fractions (can’t do it) and meal planning as my mind can’t handle it
I’m in a very depressive bad place right now and I’m exhausted asking for help on things