Martha Ferris
Seeking answers
I have been thinking about this a lot lately and this morning I have been trying to figure out how to ask this question.
How do you feel when having to make eye contact? I am asking because most people have a personal space that, when people get too close to them, they become anxious. I don't have that. People can come up to me nose to nose and I don't feel any different.
When I was taking my clinical for one of my certifications one of the exercises that we did had to do with looking into each others eyes for a long period of time. My examiner picked me to do this with. Oh yay. I could not do it. I felt invaded. I could not force myself to do it as much as I wanted to succeed. I don't remember what the purpose was for this exercise.
Then my husband at one point wanted me to do the same thing and I could not. But this time it was because I could not focus on both of his eyes at once. My focus kept jumping from one eye to the other. He became angry with me and demanded I stop doing that which I could not do.
I can make eye contact with my patients. It is a way I connect with them. A way to indicate I am present and ready to help.
Maybe in a situation where I am in control (as at work) I can do it and when I am on equal ground with someone (and vulnerable) I can't?
Maybe it's just me. Maybe it has nothing to do with being on the spctrum. I am embarrassed to even ask.
How do you feel when having to make eye contact? I am asking because most people have a personal space that, when people get too close to them, they become anxious. I don't have that. People can come up to me nose to nose and I don't feel any different.
When I was taking my clinical for one of my certifications one of the exercises that we did had to do with looking into each others eyes for a long period of time. My examiner picked me to do this with. Oh yay. I could not do it. I felt invaded. I could not force myself to do it as much as I wanted to succeed. I don't remember what the purpose was for this exercise.
Then my husband at one point wanted me to do the same thing and I could not. But this time it was because I could not focus on both of his eyes at once. My focus kept jumping from one eye to the other. He became angry with me and demanded I stop doing that which I could not do.
I can make eye contact with my patients. It is a way I connect with them. A way to indicate I am present and ready to help.
Maybe in a situation where I am in control (as at work) I can do it and when I am on equal ground with someone (and vulnerable) I can't?
Maybe it's just me. Maybe it has nothing to do with being on the spctrum. I am embarrassed to even ask.