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Featured Do you thrive on or avoid drama?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by hatfullofrain, Sep 12, 2020.

  1. hatfullofrain

    hatfullofrain Well-Known Member

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    I like to live a quiet life. I have a friend who lives life by the seat of their pants and makes impulsive decisions and looks for meaning in everything. Just listening to them describe their life exhausts me.

    Whereas I assess the situation and plan my next move and just do what needs done. How dull.

    Does this make sense. What's your perspective?
     
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  2. Judge

    Judge Well-Known Member

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    Both and neither...:oops:
     
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  3. BrokenBoy

    BrokenBoy 戯言使い(Nonsense User)

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    Thrive on. It's entertainment.
     
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  4. Raggamuffin

    Raggamuffin Well-Known Member

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    Avoid - and if I encounter it, I start to feel overwhelmingly tense and uncomfortable.

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  5. hatfullofrain

    hatfullofrain Well-Known Member

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    Yes, it stresses me too.

    They described me as methodical. I didn't understand that day when they said that. But I get it now. I like to consider things before even contributing to a discussion let alone making a life decision. Whereas they go and seek their thing and look for good or bad signs that they've gone down the right path.

    I wondered if this was more of an aspie trait in my behalf.
     
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  6. Greatshield17

    Greatshield17 Catholic Nerd

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    Ditto, I lean more to the methodical side, but whenever there's the potential of something dramatic happening, I feel part of me longing for it. (Perhaps it's a combination of anger issues and craving for meaning in my life; on the other hand, I suspect that at least some of my desire for peace and order stems from my difficult childhood that leaves me feeling like a burnt-out veteran.)
     
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  7. Bolletje

    Bolletje Overly complicated potato V.I.P Member

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    I avoid it, but I thrive in handling crises that are not my own.
     
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  8. menander

    menander Well-Known Member

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    I hate it but it find me because I am strange.
     
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    Giraffes Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Thirve on drama, in a constant state of 'problems' renumeration yu
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  10. Kit

    Kit Well-Known Member

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    I prefer it on TV and reading it online. I don't like to be involved in it. It stresses me out.
     
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  11. Progster

    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    Same as @Kit If there is some major development going on in the news and it catches my attention, I can be constantly checking the news for new developments. Like the Covid-19 pandemic. But I don't like being involved in other people's personal drama, I find it overwhelming/stresssful and will want to distance myself from it.
     
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    WildCat V.I.P Member

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    I avoid it whenever possible. Others' drama I might find slightly amusing depending on how absurd it is, but at the end of the day there are better uses of my time.
     
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  13. clg114

    clg114 Still crazy, after all these years. Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    A good trait for a doctor to have.
     
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    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    Pathologically avoid. When people engage with me in drama, I don't even participate. It drives them insane.
     
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    Rectify Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I try to avoid drama. It wasn't always that way. I grew up with some drama around me and I moved into dramatic relationships. I also thought that being a good and normal person meant that you got involved and tried to help your friends. Obviously it is good to help friends - not suggesting you shouldn't - but I got too involved in things that I just should have avoided and which they should have avoided.

    So now my life is relatively calm and regimented. HOWEVER :)D) I still get upset about some things. Stuff happens online and I sometimes get super-involved emotionally even when I shouldn't.
     
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    HeroOfHyrule Chicken Chaser

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    I avoid actually getting involved in drama, but if there's something going on I might keep occasional tabs on it. Drama can be entertaining... From afar.
     
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    Avoid, but life thrusts it on you.
     
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    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    I run away from drama as fast as I can.
     
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  19. Ezra

    Ezra Relax, it's just chaos.

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    Thankfully I'm not involved in much drama in real life. I tend to get caught up in it to a degree online in forums and such though.
     
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    Avoid, but I try to build in some flexibility. I really enjoy planning travel itineraries - and building in "what ifs".
    As with @Bolletje I also enjoy trying to resolve crises that aren't my own. I guess that's kind of how I got into my field of work.
     
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